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Hi, new to this site!
So I was with a few family members-2 sibs, daughter, nephews,etc. My older brother ( we are all 60's or better) made a rude and mean comment about me in front of everyone, as a joke. My sister laughed out loud, but while I was being put down, the comment was in her favour. I felt embarrassed with my daughter there, in that I felt I was being disrespected and she saw this. This is the norm for my family...for whatever reason, I'm the one who they feel they can disregard I guess.
Not sure how to handle this. Should I remove myself from family gatherings, as some of my sibs are toxic to me? I already have done that with 2 so far. Or should I tell my brother how much he hurt me? With my family, if I did that, he would likely just snicker and say OH it was a JOKE! Then they would spread the gossip that I am upset by this and make me the fool.
My family as a rule never apologizes, with the exception of a few of us.
A large family of 10 sibs. Not sure how to deal with this.
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