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Silversurfers dating?

After being widowed for four years I thought I would try the Silversurfers dating, perhaps to meet someone who would enjoy their trips. Holidays with?


One man, no photo, after two lines of interaction offered me a chance to drive with him to France to a property he owns. My question is, how responsible and selective are the Silversurfers staff in monitoring the applicants as I cannot imagine anyone would willingly go away with a stranger for five days!! Would they?


Would be interested to hear peoples views!


Created By on 17/08/2018

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Blissful
17th Apr 2023 16:45:34
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Hmmm. I'm usually a 'can do' and impulsive......however, my alarm bells are ringing loudly. I tend to see the good in everyone, but always trust my gut instinct. Adventure is wonderful, bit please be careful
Athena22
15th Apr 2023 00:24:05 (Last activity: 15th Apr 2023 19:42:28)
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Good evening, my first time here
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 15th Apr 2023 19:42:28
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CaroB4
15th Apr 2023 08:47:06
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Arbyrb5 - the way you met up initially is exactly as always advised by Security Services and it's important to be aware of. Always meet in a very public place - always let someone else know where you are going beforehand and what time to expect you back home...a routine to follow in order to keep you safe. Essential these days. Do not share too many personal details until you have met up several times - at a mutually convenient place - for a coffee etc where you can get up and leave easily if things are not going well!
BlimeyCharlie
25th Mar 2023 07:27:28 (Last activity: 25th Mar 2023 12:34:38)
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Quite surprised he didn't ask for her Bank details too.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 25th Mar 2023 08:56:31
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Response from BlimeyCharlie made on 25th Mar 2023 12:34:38 > @Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
Thank you, will find my way.
CaroB4
22nd Mar 2023 19:44:26
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Agree Bren, Also not happy with the idea of giving our a phone number straight away...all rather risky!
Few seem to want to spend time getting to know others...need to have time exchanging messages to know more about someone first! So it peters out!
Natalietheprincess
5th Mar 2023 03:33:16 (Last activity: 5th Mar 2023 08:01:10)
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Oh no this sounds scary but also could be romantic. Be safe and do background checks if you decide to do this with him
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 5th Mar 2023 08:01:10
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Mads133a
30th Jan 2023 08:01:00 (Last activity: 30th Jan 2023 08:41:36)
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Two lines of text… maybe meet in person first before going on a trip
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Arbyrb5
19th Jan 2023 10:45:11
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I met someone on another site. He offered to meet me in Phoenix for coffee and maybe lunch. I met him and had a great afternoon. I would have never agreed to take a trip with him at first glance but I would probably go on a trip now if he asked. I have gotten to know him.
Rob1971
6th Jan 2023 18:35:27
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I would say be very careful as the internet is plagued with scammers, trusting people is the biggest danger so be careful.
Essexman300
10th Nov 2022 06:36:30
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Always get to know someone first. If you are going on holiday with him you need to know if he is reliable and respectful
1612shirley
5th Aug 2022 19:17:11
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Absolute idiots on these dating sites... makes me wonder what planet they are from.
nsurf1
17th Apr 2019 22:22:33 (Last activity: 26th Oct 2019 10:06:02)
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I would certainly not go with him. When you meet new people meet them in a public place.
Response from CaroB4 made on 26th Oct 2019 10:06:02
Definitely not. It is not as if a genuine attempt to get to know her either! Even as just a friend. Sounds dangerous to me,,,defies common sense and goes against all the rules! There is someone around just now wanting another to share a drive to the south of France.,.no details...no way! Head over heart (heart?) on these occasions.
Kangey
8th Dec 2018 06:53:39
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There are many ways to tip the balance in your favour - one of them is to speak to the proposer on webcam - all phones now offer the possibility. What we don't want to do is let opportunities pass us by, they don't come often when we are older and we should live each day as it comes, within the realms of security. Haven't you got a friend who could accompany you ? As in chaperone ? If the guy is genuine and he has his own place in France he could take two of you, doesn't cost any more .......
CaroleAH
18th Aug 2018 20:49:29
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Hi Bren,
I agree with Michaeljohn, it sounds very risky to go away with someone you don't know especially to a place which he owns so presumably there would just be the two of you there. It might be better if you were staying in a large hotel with plenty of other people around you but it's not a risk that I would take. I'm quite sure that many men and women manipulate the truth and put things on their profiles in order to attract a member who has perhaps taken their fancy. I remember an ex-partner of mine stating that he enjoyed rock-climbing and canoeing - in reality he hated heights and never set foot in a canoe in the ten years that I was with him! He had obviously fancied his chances with a sporty female whose profile he had read. He also said that he was a non-smoker - perhaps cigars don't count!!! 🙂 I would advise caution - not everyone lies and I'm sure that there are some nice, decent people out there.
michaeljohn67
18th Aug 2018 13:55:42
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Sounds a bit risky to go away with someone after just 2 lines of interaction. But being adults we choose how much risk we take in life.
I don't think the people who run Silversurfers can guarantee members of the site are genuine, I don't think that would be possible, anyone can lie on a registration form.
There will always be some degree of risk, it's just about reducing that risk, for example getting to know the person first; having your first meeting in a safe public place ect...
Silversurfer's Editor
17th Aug 2018 20:57:24
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Hello Bren ...

We've successfully steered thousands of single people into happy relationships and while we want this journey to be fun for you, we cannot ignore your safety. We continuously put a lot of effort into creating a secure space where you can find exactly what you're looking for. All you need to do is follow these simple, common-sense tips to get the most out of SilverSurfers Dating.

Here is a link in case you missed them: https://www.silversurfersdating.com/s/help/safety.php

Hope this helps, Sally 🙂

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