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Being Single but enjoy female company

I am 69, but have met many females over the years , more since I got involved with the past Saga Zone, I also use there dating bit although its expensive try to concentrate on those with a 10 to 15 mile easy to get to, I do not drive , but enjoy travel as well.


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12michael Original Poster
13th Sep 2016 08:30:59
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I find myself with those I have met, the coffee or tea is a proffered option chosen, on a 1st meet.
In some cases kissing came next, but I enjoy the company more than anything and if its more local to where I live the better for me.
My downside I am not a car owner, so rely on bus travel.
Mick
nape
8th Oct 2017 13:49:58
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I belong to meet up here in Chichester and they are very friendly group and every one talks to every one their are people like myself that is single and we have a good time.

percy
Janewd
12th Sep 2016 07:16:10 (Last activity: 7th Jul 2017 03:33:21)
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Pleased I've read these comments sebrad and jeanymay. After 5 years of being single I am still reluctant to use a dating site for the very reasons you have stated. You've helped me make my mind up to stay as I am with no complications !
Response from jeanymay made on 12th Sep 2016 07:58:49
My experience exactly Sebrad72. No manners at all and acted like adolescent school boys with no self control.
One chap who was a few years older than myself and who I had only agreed to go for a coffee with thought he had a right to rub his hands up and down my legs and grab me around the waist into a bear hug in the middle of the street.
The innuendoes were constant no matter what subject I broached he came out with smutty remarks. Very embarrassing, and made me feel really uncomfortable as you can imagine. He asked me to go on holiday with him and share a room almost immediately, but I declined. Then he told me to make my mind up as to what I wanted as he wasn't getting any younger !
Men with just one thing on their minds are a total turn off.
Response from jeanymay made on 12th Sep 2016 08:05:34
Such a shame isn't it Janewd. There are men and women out there who would benefit from having company of the opposite sex, but should have the sense to know at their age how to treat a female. Expectations are high from the start, and they are not prepared to let things develop natural. Very off putting.
Response from Mistysea made on 7th Jul 2017 03:33:21
I agree with both of you. It is the same in the States. Whether it's online or in a Meetup group. The men that seem more decent just hang around with each other, apparently not knowing how to approach a women for conversation. It reminds me of Jr. High. Others, come up with some offensive line, which I never even understand is their way of trying to talk to me, until later when some other woman tells me it is. But, honestly, I wouldn't want to talk with those men anyway. That's why I only seek friendship, but, that doesn't seem possible.
Mistysea
7th Jul 2017 03:24:53
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I think that is a pleasant thing. Personally, I think we all need and benefit from friendships with the opposite sex, though it never works for me. I think it's good to just be natural and take things slow to get to really know a person in different environments. Even for friendship, it helps you know whether or not you would want a particular person as a friend.
jeanymay
11th Sep 2016 14:57:54 (Last activity: 6th Jul 2017 09:53:19)
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Just read your post Michael, and the heading " Being Single but enjoy female company " caught my eye.
I am fast approaching 60 and single and I like it, but it would be nice to have some male company. The problem I have as a female is that the men I have had anything to do with even in the briefest way cannot understand that I just want their company and not a physical relationship. It's my choice and I don't think I'm weird at all it's just not something I miss now.
It would be lovely to have a nice gentlemen to spend time with, and to go out with but I fear they all want more.
Response from 12michael Original Poster made on 6th Jul 2017 09:53:19
I since doing my original post , have started to branch out locally , and am going on coach trips to shows and short breaks etc with a local Banbury based company.
Even have found in a Hotel at Easter in Torquay someone else female wise on there own, we seem to have got seated together in the hotels restaurant and spoke but no name introduction.
A similar with same person at a show in west end, we sat alongside each other at the show, and she recalled the Torquay weekend.
That is as far as we got , just talking , may meet again on another day trip or break unsure though if are paths will cross again soon?
Sebrad72
12th Sep 2016 01:33:55
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Thanks JeanyMay for letting me know I'm not the only one. I tried dating sites for older folks a year ago. After weeding out the catfish I met 5 gentleman in person and 3 of the 5 wanted to progress to touching, kissing as quickly as they could. Felt like time warp back to adolescence and not at all what I was looking for; intelligent conversation on common interests.

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