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Splitting the bill

I would love to know how other Silversurfers manage the thorny question of splitting the bill after dining out.

On a recent occasion, I volunteered to be the driver as I rarely drink alcohol and definitely don't when I am driving. The round trip to pick three friends up and take them to the venue was about 25 miles plus another 25 miles to take them home. For the meal, two of them started with G&Ts followed by large glasses of wine with the meal. The other person just had lime and soda like me. We all had meals costing roughly the same. When the bill arrived the other non-drinker said to split it four ways. The two who had had alcohol said that wasn't fair as their drinks totalled about £30. The non-drinker said she was happy to contribute towards their alcohol and I was left feeling somewhat embarrassed because I said that I would pay for what I had had and they could do what they wanted with the rest of the bill.

No-one mentioned the petrol used for their transport! Am I being churlish for not looking forward to our next trip out for a meal?

Created By on 22/10/2021

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25th Oct 2021 09:21:29 (Last activity: 25th Oct 2021 10:39:03)
Thanks for voting!
No can understand that feeling... over the fuel particularly, sometimes it is amazing how others do not think of all expenses.
Years later we still talk about the time we had good friends stay with us in our holiday home in Spain.
We had quite a long holiday and they were joining us just the last week of ours and then we would all fly back together.
We hired the car and they never thought about a contribution for the expenses including the fuel which was really thoughtless, but we said nothing. Food wise all was done fairly though.
Trouble is not only is it embarrassing to say to much but it does leave you slightly as you feel now.
How much do they mean to you, these evenings out.....that is how I would make a decision on that basis and if you decide I want to enjoy my friends company again ... try and bring all to the conversation tactfully over time to solve this... so once again you can then enjoy your social events..
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 25th Oct 2021 09:39:36
Hi DiWil,

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Response from DiWil made on 25th Oct 2021 10:39:03 > @Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
Thanks last time I came to join I just got lost..Finding it a little easier now..
Cheers for the response.

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