Stroke after effects
Watch this postHi I'm new to this Forum, I only joined because my Husband has had 2 strokes his last was in September of last year, thankfully he came through it but each stroke has changed him , I have lost the man I married, he now has limited social skills ie: doesn't have much conversation , his sense of humour has disappeared , and sleeps most of day away and when hes awake he drinks wine most of day, I can not get him to try and get more mobile, as when I do it ends in argument. What can I do? I Love him to bits but I feel like I have lost my husband forever, am I being selfish?
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I've also lost my confidence. I play short mat bowls twice a week and enjoy the camaraderie. Most of the people in the club have health problems of their own. We help each other.
After I had the stroke, I have had several minor strokes (TIA) Whilst the Stroke Unit were great at the medical issues, I felt the follow up support was non existent. Yes there were clubs, but all they wanted to do was play games like bingo!
Anyone with any experience of this?
https://www.stroke.org.uk/
i hope this helps in some way,it is hard on close ones of stroke people, he is a stroke survivor ..
love and peace serenity xx
My heart goes out to you know what you are going through. He wanted to die and I have lost the man I love. We had been married for 52 yrs.
you are not being selfish love. I was wishing for my beloved to go. Hated seeing him suffer so,
It's hard on my own but managing ok.
Keep your chin up
I suggest doing a little research to investigate what stroke-orientated resources are available around you, I'm sure there will be some. Also, forums like this help, and there are forums and sites dedicated to supporting spouses and families, and, there are senior chat sites where you might be lucky in meeting one or two other people in similar situations.
The wine can bring its own problems with rapid weight gain and diabetes, curbing his desire for that may not be easy, but neither is trying to help dress, care for, maybe bathe, someone who is obese and possibly agressive.
And theres nothing selfish about taking care of yourself whilst you care for your husband, so please be kind and gentle to yourself...