Time Marches On
Watch this postI have recently become a Silver Surfer, finding the forum opened opportunities for online correspondence, which possibly opens dialogue with like minded people. However, in a short space of time, my speculative forays into forum topics, show a distinctive pattern of early enthusiasm, encouraging welcomes and vague responses. Most of these have faded in a very short space of time. So may I investigate, how many so called topics have developed into long running information sharing; long term friendships of varying depths of emotion; exchanges of ideas, etc. I would welcome the opportunity to establish a coterie of correspondents covering a few subjects of mutual interest under one forum banner, rather than the piecemeal subject matter which elicits a few meagre replies.
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No one accused you of criticism or complaint, we were just trying to respond to your original post. I would suggest it was your perception that people were criticising what you wrote. You will find that most of us on here are sensitive to others feelings but if you feel this forum is not for you, then that is your choice but do not blame others for the way you perceive something.
May I also point out that there are things that crop up in life that prevent you from being on-line and I have found that I can pick up my chats later when other priorities have been dealt with.
However I do think some subjects should be deleted as sometimes I'm reading something only to see it is a year or more since the topic was posted. If the topic is still relevant and new members wish to post a comment perhaps it could be retitled .
There are interesting discussions and many of these have been started by individuals who may then go on with private chats with people of like mind.
Maybe Andronicus, you just accept that not everyone will be like minded and just take an interest in what is being posted, regardless of a lack of response.
I think that joining in with topics on the forum is a bit like going to a party. Some people are happy to say "hello" but prefer to watch from the sidelines - others want to be the "life and soul" of the party and appear to have an opinion about anything and everything!
In the past, I have responded to pleas for help and advice. I have thought carefully about my reply so that it hasn't been a "you should do this, that or the other" but hopefully more of a "have you thought about doing this" or "I have found this useful" etc and weeks even months later there has been no reply. I have even sent a private chat message saying "are you okay?" - still no response. So, are people overwhelmed with their problems or are they just ill-mannered?
Having said that, I have regular chats with some lovely people on SS and we exchange our news from books we are reading to commiserating about various aches and pains and any other topic in between.
There was a recent post from someone who asked about on-line relationships to which you and I and a few other people have responded but the person who posed the question has gone very silent - of course, he may have been put off by the levity of some of our responses but he certainly seems to have taken his bat and ball home which is a shame because the forum invites discussion and we are all different and our opinions vary and are influenced by the lives we have led.