Washed up and washed out
Watch this postHi, to anyone out there.
After being in a relationship 22 years the wife has declared, not completely unsurprisingly, that our marriage is over. So, at 57 I'm feeling washed up and washed out.
Time is the greatest healer, but still, at this age, it stings. I've no idea of what my future holds, it's presently, a much emptier place.
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I hope you are starting to move on. I was the big bad wife that decided our marriage was over after 36 years together. I was 56 and he 58. Lack of communication, the menopause and alcohol were the main causes. The relationship sadly just stopped working. There was no one else involved, although he soon found someone else as he found it hard to be on his own.
It has taken three years for me to come to terms with the end of our relationship and especially the friendship. I still loved him and have had to grieve for the loss of our relationship. I found it so very hard at our daughters wedding to see him with someone else. Although it has been hard, I especially miss being part of his family, I know it was the right decision.
I have a lovely life. I have my own home, friends and family, I go to work, cinema, theatre, live music, holidays to places I always wanted to go to.
I hope you are managing to embrace this freedom and the opportunity to actually find out who you are. Within a relationship it is very easy to become someone you are not. Although I have had a few relationships I have yet to find anyone special enough for me. Yes, I now value myself and so must you.
See it as freedom. You can spread your wings and fly. Thrifty 50.
When I became divorced 25 yrs.ago ,I went to college and studied social care this enabled me to get work supporting people with a range of special needs.This had been an ambition since leaving school.
Draw up a wish list from simple things like reading a book in peace to where ever your dreams take you.
Onward and ever upward!
I am sure there are lots of things that you would like to do, make a wish list and then tick them off as you do them. Try your library for events on locally, you will be surprised what is on offer, or try meet ups.