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Widowed for a year and looking for friends to chat with

I have been widowed for a year now and have struggled with the enormity of it all. I need to make new friends.


Created By on 29/03/2016

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queenie49
13th May 2016 11:53:40
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Good morning all. I am new to this so here goes.I am a widow it is almost 7years now, life is very lonely but have to get on with things so it is nice to chat.I have 2 lovely dogs who are good company.I have wonderful children who visit most days.Most of my friends still have partners now I am on my own they never contact me just get a Christmas card.
enerim
17th Aug 2016 15:24:37 (Last activity: 17th Mar 2020 16:43:50)
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I can empathise with all who are struggling after losing their loved ones. I lost my Mum, Husband and best friend over a period of 4 years from 2009. It took a long while to get over these and try to get on with life. Joining local groups such as the walking group does help in so many ways. The pain has not gone away but I am more able to cope with it.
Response from MarilynG7 made on 17th Mar 2020 16:43:50
Thank you for your comment. I'm still finding it lonely after 19 months. I have good family and friends but don't always let them know how I feel.
How are you doing? Now with this virus life is about to get more lonely.
I like to read and listen to music.
Regards
Marilyn
MarilynG7
7th Dec 2019 23:04:49 (Last activity: 8th Dec 2019 11:57:37)
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It's the second Christmas without my husband. I try to join in the excitement for my family but it is so hard. How do others cope? My family are grown up and good to me. I have grandchildren too.
Response from Myrsina made on 8th Dec 2019 11:57:37
Hello, Marilyn. I have just sent this post to Carole34 by mistake. I still don,t manage here well since it is my first time.
In anycase, it was for you. Sorry about it.
 

You are posting as Myrsinaview silversurfers

Hello, Carole. 
I am a Spanish 66 years old widow. I also lost my partner last year (1st. august 2018) to a sudden and aggresive cancer in just 20 days.
For the last few days I have been looking at Silversurfers page and coulnd,t decide to register until I read your post.
I know how you are feeling. And I know that talking about our dear ones is a way of healing our hearts. People in general, after one year of our loss, seem not to understand thaf we are still in sorrow. 
So, if you don,t mind me being a foreigner who doesn,t have a perfect English, here I am to talk to you anytime you need to. Sometimes it is easier to vent our sorrows to a complete stranger...

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Myrsina
8th Dec 2019 11:53:00
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Hello, Carole.
I am a Spanish 66 years old widow. I also lost my partner last year (1st. august 2018) to a sudden and aggresive cancer in just 20 days.
For the last few days I have been looking at Silversurfers page and coulnd,t decide to register until I read your post.
I know how you are feeling. And I know that talking about our dear ones is a way of healing our hearts. People in general, after one year of our loss, seem not to understand thaf we are still in sorrow.
So, if you don,t mind me being a foreigner who doesn,t have a perfect English, here I am to talk to you anytime you need to. Sometimes it is easier to vent our sorrows to a complete stranger...
Bryher
17th Aug 2016 10:46:09
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Have you heard of The Silver Line? It's a charity set up by Esther Rantzen which aims to help people with loneliness. They buddy you up with someone to talk to regularly by phone. It is about to take it's millionth telephone call and has made a huge difference to thousands of lives. The number is 0800 4 70 80 90. Hope this helps.
gdfarns
19th Apr 2016 01:27:04 (Last activity: 17th Aug 2016 02:16:52)
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I lost my wife to cancer 4 months ago guess im just wanting to talk with people
Response from emmakitty made on 17th Aug 2016 02:16:52
Hi gdfarns,
So sorry to hear of your wifes passing. Im married but looking for new chat friends. I noticed you havent been on in a while. Let me know if you ever want to chat.

Emma
rubysgran
14th May 2016 16:20:11 (Last activity: 17th Aug 2016 02:15:03)
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hi carol,ive been a widow for 3.5 years now and it does get easier but in a different way,i still find myself looking for him and half expect him to come through the door and cant imagine myself with anyone else
l do have 2 daughters and 2 grandchildren and quite a few friends so l manage to get out if l want to
l forced myself to join age concerns book club and as l met other people l joined a short walking club and a healthy eating club,lts sur
prising how many lonely people there are out there
l live on the north east coast,beautiful part of the country and the people are very kind,my husband used to say they were just nosy but l find them okay,i m not from up here l was born in the midlands but wouldnt move back,been here for 40yrs now and its home
im a cat person and have 2 who own me im just glad they cant tralk orf they would nag all day

barbara
Response from emmakitty made on 17th Aug 2016 02:15:03
Hi Barbara,
You got that right about cats nagging you all day if they could talk! I thought that was very funny. If you would like to chat let me know.

Emma
emmakitty
17th Aug 2016 02:12:21
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Hi Carole,
I am so sorry to hear your struggling after your husbands passing. Its so hard to make friends. I take care of my husband who has Parkinsons. It can get lonely at times. I really have no life outside of home. Hoping to make some new chat friends here. I live in the US. Where do you live. You can also email me at [email protected].

Emma
putzfrau
4th Jul 2016 18:56:57
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Evening Carole,

I was widowed 7 years ago, and I am sorry to say that I still struggle, but life isn't as difficult or complicated as it was in 2009 as I think that I have slightly got used to my new life.

Not long after I was widowed I came across Way Up, a group run for and by Widows/Widowers, it isn't a dating site and everyone was very welcoming. Here is a link to the site .... http://www.way-up.co.uk. Why don't you give them a go, they know what you are going through and will never criticise you and will always try to support you.
Fpath12
22nd May 2016 23:52:15
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Hi Carole, hope you are well, I have joined today. I am 57 and been living on my own.
Am down in Hampshire.
Looking forward to your reply.
Regards
Aggy
Lythamlucy
12th Apr 2016 19:04:46
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Hi when I lost my husband at 55 people said you must find a hobby I at that time wasn't interested in anything else but a bit of a cliché time is a great healer
Silversights
4th Apr 2016 08:37:55
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Where do you live Carole as some members may be close by and could arrange to meet with you, also have you looked at the university of the third age as they have lots of groups you could join and would be sure to make friends. x
raymond678
2nd Apr 2016 18:47:27
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i am in the same boat too bloody hard ist
Lythamlucy
29th Mar 2016 20:11:17
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Yes you never get over it. you just get used to it but it does get easier to I promise you

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