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Are you concerned about Mothering Sunday visits?

Several members of our Silversurfers community have expressed concern about the implications of spending Mothering Sunday with our loved ones this weekend, in view of the latest Social Distancing guidelines.

The guidelines need to be interpreted on an individual basis in relation to your own personal circumstances and here is a link to the latest Government Guidelines on Social Distancing

Only you can make the decision and if you choose not to make the visit, hopefully, you will find an alternative method to send your good wishes either via Skype, WhatsApp, Facetime or a simple phone call.

One of my daughters is in self-isolation and she was worried that she now cannot visit me on Sunday and I said

I already know that you think I am special every day of the year, and not just on the one designated day that you are told to tell me!

What are your views?  Do you go to Church on Mothering Sunday? Are you intending to continue with family visits and gatherings this Sunday? Are the Social Distancing Guidelines clear or do they leave you uncertain what to do?

Are you concerned about Mothering Sunday visits?

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ecarg
23rd Mar 2020
0
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Well I was lucky to see my daughter with my youngest granddaughter yesterday .They stayed in the garden and I stayed at the front door,Unfortunately it's going to be ages before I see my grandchildren again following the latest advice to keep grandchildren away from grandparents.
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Hi Ecarg how lovely at least you managed to see them although at a distance. Has your daughter helped you set up Skype or something so you
can see your grandchildren as you talk to them and of course you can always use the telephone! https://www.silversurfers.com/entertainment-news/why-making-an-actual-phone-call-is-good-for-your-mental-health/
Dani
22nd Mar 2020
0
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No I’m not concerned because I’ve chosen not to have any.
Mozy
21st Mar 2020
1
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I shall not see my son ,daughter-in-law and grandson we have discussed it I have to take steroids which has destroyed my immune system so I am in isolation ,but it is what it is we must all think of one another and look after one another whatever way we have to do,it
MaryK88
21st Mar 2020
0
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I shall miss my children and grandchildren so much but I want them all to be safe so I will be vidio calling them I know how much they love me and will give lots of hugs when it's all over cant wait
Helga1
20th Mar 2020
1
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My 2 children (adults) have been wonderful as i have been self isolating since December.They have done shopping for me and been amazing. I told them to stay away on Mother's day .They have proved their love.
RosemaryF5
20th Mar 2020
1
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I have agreed with my daughter to get together at a country park and take a walk in the open air, weather permitting. Mother's Day has always been spending quality time together. A nice walk for the pet labrador too.
McGilchrist
20th Mar 2020
1
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I usually volunteer at a National Trust property on Mothering Sunday morning which is great as there are so many happy families coming in. This year the National Trust Properties are closed so I will be home but I only live near one daughter who will only be making one visit to deliver shopping so I do not have to do it, so it will be a quiet day.
NickO1
20th Mar 2020
1
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My wife is afraid to visit her mother who is over 80 with a serious lung complaint. She is a teacher just stopped teaching and is free of symptoms. What do you think?
MargaretS244
20th Mar 2020
1
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Self isolating anyway due to a cold so I wouldn't want any of them to catch it. I'm happy with a card/flowers/phone call
CLo
18th Mar 2020
2
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Myself and my sister (65 & 60) will be spending the day with our 93 year old Mum - we are all well and not showing any signs of the virus. However, my daughter’s and grandchildren will not be joining us. We will be on FaceTime on and off during the day.
Keep safe & healthy
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How lovely enjoy your day and enjoy Facetiming your daughter and grandchildren!
AnnH76
18th Mar 2020
2
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My sister and I will be spending the afternoon with mum however, instead of going out to a restaurant we are going to buy some snacks/party food. My dad has Alzheimer’s and mum really needs the company, especially since the Day Centres are now closed.
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Nothing beats snacks and party food enjoy your Mothering Sunday!!
Daisy Ducky
18th Mar 2020
1
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My son and daughter in law are in isolation. So to be safe my daughter and grandson will not be coming either. A bit of a double whammy as it’s my birthday that day also . But thank goodness for FaceTime and similar. Stay safe everyone
page
18th Mar 2020
1
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I agree that is is safer not to visit. my son and daughter live over a hundred miles away from where I live and there visits are so precious to me as they are so few. I am 80 this year and this was to be a special Mothers day, but I decided to be sensible and cancelled there visits and they agreed it was the right thing to do...We will talk on the phone on Sunday and they will send me cards because they want to. Hopefully I will see them in the summer.
JoanD5
18th Mar 2020
1
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I’ve already spoken to my children and told them not to bother with cards and presents this year. I’ve spoken to them both every day this week so I told them a phone call on Sunday will be enough.
GwynethC8
18th Mar 2020
3
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My son is unable to get home.
I really don't want a meal with my daughter and her family so I will have a long(ish) walk in our local country park with them and their dogs instead. Fresh air and company. The food can wait until this is all over.
shrew1742
18th Mar 2020
3
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Maybe the sensible thing is to not visit aged mothers and fathers this year, and hopefully have lots of future mothers day and fathers day lunches.

Better than taking a risk, passing the virus on and having no lunches at all in the future !!
olivep
18th Mar 2020
2
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As we will be travelling some 3 hours to visit my mum, who is 90 and in good health and mind (thank heavens) we shall be having our mothering day lunch - unless the restaurant cancels! She is on her own with no social media, so I would not cancel our visit, she would be devastated.
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Its a hard decision and only you know if you are doing the right thing. Maybe if you visit you can set her up with some sort of visual communication
she can have with you.
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It is a hard decision and only you know if you are doing the right thing. Maybe if you visit you can set her up with some sort of visual communication
she can have with you.
Marilyn Connolly
18th Mar 2020
1
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My girls and myself are setting up a WhatsApp video conference call instead. It's just not worth taking the risk to meet up.
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Very sensible Marilyn enjoy chatting with your daughters and I expect your daughters celebrate you every day!
Yodama
18th Mar 2020
2
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It is enough for me when my children phone or Skype and give me their love.
Safer to stay away from each other, so I won't miss that meal out.
They may send flowers and a card. Mother's day is a hype in my view.
1
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Totally agree with you Yodama my son is a long way away and I am just happy for a quick Face Time call or a chat on the phone..
SueM616
18th Mar 2020
1
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My mother is 91, we were going to go out for a special Sunday lunch, I've cancelled this now, it's too risky for her to be among other people in busy restaurants. She was upset as she was looking forward to it and her cognitive function means she's slow to process new information. We will get through this by keeping people safe, she has everything she needs by the way and I phone her every day anyway
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What a wonderful age your mother is Sue and you totally want to keep her safe. Calling her every day is the best way at the moment I am sure she
will eventually understand.
ArchieUK
18th Mar 2020
1
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We have asked our children NOT to visit on this weekend.
Margaret Hart
18th Mar 2020
1
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Most restaurants appear to have cancelled special meals so we are expecting us to go through to see our beautiful nearly 8 month old granddaughter who we do see a lot of although to keep our faces in her mind he often FaceTimes us and we talk and sing to her. My husband and I want to go but as we are the 2 in the at risk group he won’t say come as he feels we have to decide. They are all younger and not in at risk groups and I feel if we don’t go now while it is still voluntary it could be a long time before we see them all. How are other over 70s people thinking especially if you in at risk health group.
PasoDoble
18th Mar 2020
1
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our Son organised a Mother’s Day get together with a buffet lunch with our Daughter Son in law and our only Grandchild.
My Husband was diagnosed last October whilst in ic with cryptic organising pneumonia from which he is making a good recovery although his true recovery level is uncertain. He wants to go to the lunch which by the way is in a large property. I also would love to go but am concerned. Due to his illness we missed all pre Christmas - Christmas and New Year get togethers and birthdays and only in the last few weeks have we been going out and about and that with caution. He is 77 and I am 74.
Are we being silly to go bearing in mind we have already been semi confined for three months and now face another few months shut away?
Lionel
17th Mar 2020
3
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No, there'll be no family gathering here, just phone calls. Maybe we''ll Skype.

We've made a lot of preparations to self isolate for a long period and it seems senseless to now have a gathering here.
anubis
17th Mar 2020
2
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some of my children and grandchildren are in self isolating so unable to visit and my others are keeping a safe distance, I hope to be around for the next one rather than have visitors now
CaroleS39
17th Mar 2020
2
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Was planning Afternoon Tea with mum (over 70) and daughter (asthma) but both are following scot gov guidance and socially isolating themselves. Currently trying to arrange the food as take out and planning a picnic outside, where we can keep a safe distance apart. Will let you know if Malmaison Dundee can manage this for us. Fingers crossed.
jg16
17th Mar 2020
3
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As my mum is 90 and technically should be in self-isolation due to her age, if she wants to go out to lunch as we had booked, then we will do it. Have no idea when I will be able to take her out again due to this virus 🙁
Grandmacrafter
17th Mar 2020
2
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I am very worried because I have 3 daughters and 4 Grandchildren and we always spend Mothering Sunday together. However my youngest daughter is two weeks away from having her second baby, so my concerns are greater. I need to stay healthy (I am 74) because when baby arrives I will be needed to look after my 4 year old grandson, if only for the day that she is otherwise occupied. So have decided that our gathering will not go ahead, which has not gone down very well, only because they all want to see me. I wish I had a magic wand.
DebbieR29
17th Mar 2020
2
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I'm more upset at churches closing especially on Sunday when mothers are honoured. My children will send me a card and phone me so that's OK
Buckie
17th Mar 2020
2
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My mum was 90 in February and I popped down to Coventry to see her because she is special not only on her birthday or Mother’s Day but every day of the year
Love you Mum stay safe xxx
Wilf
17th Mar 2020
3
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My Mum is 90 so we have a really hard decision on if we should visit or not or just have a phone call. She would like to get out of the house but we are worried about her catching the virus
ElisabethR
17th Mar 2020
2
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I live in a house with my daughter and son in law and my grandsons and so the answer is no I am not. I do however have several friends who have taken the desision to self isolate and have asked their children not to visit to keep them all safe.
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Have a lovely day on Sunday Elisabeth and hopefully it won't be you cooking! You might want to offer someone else some inspiration here with these lovely menu suggestions 😉 - https://www.silversurfers.com/food/a-3-course-mothers-day-feast/ 🙂
ElisabethR
17th Mar 2020
4
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Ha ha ha my daughter is Queen of the kitchen......... I am only allowed in occasionally. I am, or was, a very good cook but its hands off mother. I was very poorly about 5 years ago which led to us buying this huge rambling house together and she stepped into the mother shoes and won't take them off. Think allowing me to cook is along the lines of giving me the odd treat..... Except when I cook with the boys. They are coming along nicely.

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