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Are there ‘boy jobs and girl jobs’ in your home?

Last night Prime Minister Theresa May took part in the informal sofa chat with Matt Baker and Alex Jones alongside her 59-year-old husband Philip May on the BBC One Show.

There were a series of informal, non political questions fired at the couple, and Mrs May made remarks about how the couple divided household chores with ‘boy jobs and girl jobs’, saying that her husband puts out the bins.

There has been some backlash in the press, saying that this was a ‘sexist’ remark.

Mr May explained to the inquisitive hosts: “There’s give and take in every marriage. I get to decide when to take the bins out not if I take the bins out.”

What are your views? Do you have ‘boy jobs and girl jobs’ in your home? How do you manage the allocation of the chores? In this day of equality should household jobs be divided by gender? Do you live alone and do ALL the household jobs?

Are there 'boy jobs and girl jobs' in your home?

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Yodama
4th Jul 2017
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Hasn't anyone got any Elves to do everything???
Sheeez!
A word of caution, they go on strike far too often, hide in cupboards etc.
Marie63
2nd Jul 2017
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As I'm the only person in my house I do all the jobs.
iestynlad
19th May 2017
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As a post liberationist I am ashamed to say we have a clear divide! I blame MIL who brought him up that way.
Yodama
13th May 2017
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A man's got to do what a man's got to do. A woman must do what he can't.
Lionel
15th May 2017
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Only in the most personal of circumstances othwise, we males are so close to perfect ...
Yodama
15th May 2017
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Please refer to Humour on the forum, 'something to make you smile.'
Men are larger versions of little boys. Love their toys which in the past were a mystery to women, however, women are now quite adept at using a power drill and putting complicated Ikea flat packs together.
We are morphing as humans into a melting pot of expertise in all areas.
Lionel
15th May 2017
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Ah, but aren't the very best male/female relationships ones on loving interdependence? Relationships which endure, where we make up the gender lack in the other and, well, do it out of sheer love for one's loved one? That's how it is with us.

My dear wife will push herself to the limit but sometimes when she's at her limit I step in and finish the job. It leaves her with her dignity; she may still say, I did that.

Are we morphing into an expertise in all areas? No I don't think so. This is an aspiration of this rather silly early part of the 21C. There are many others. All doomed to failure.

Male and femail, each very different. Yet we complement each other perfectly, if we proud, so calleed liberated humans, allow it. But when we do ... oh, talk about did the earth move ...
Yodama
16th May 2017
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Since I am alone, I have to morph, 21 century has a high incidence of people who live alone.
So should I write myself off as doomed to failure then?
red kay
16th May 2017
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sparrer
12th May 2017
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Retired, live on my own, I happily do everything around the home and garden with the exception of electrics, plumbing and the annual car service although I do the interim servicing. My daughter who can replace a car engine etc., taught me.
LindaJ3
12th May 2017
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Complete. The outdated thought
issy1234
12th May 2017
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BEING ALONE AND DISABLED POOR VISION ALSO I HAVE TO DO ALL THE JOBS, NO CHOICE WISH I DID HAVE.
Nana Sian
12th May 2017
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There are no boys or girls jobs in our house. There's just jobs that need doing. I brought my son's up to wash, iron, cook and clean the same as my daughter. This day and age where both parents have to work then they both have to share chores.
Dickens
12th May 2017
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Only the bathroom, and kitchen are my jobs. This is because
I am freaky about it being done safely, eg separate cloths for toilet.. And sink, bath,shower. And keeping dish cloths separately from cleaning cloths. Ect.
lizfid3
11th May 2017
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There's only me in the house so all the chores are girls chores. Don't have a problem with that.
jeanmark
11th May 2017
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Lionel, I'm not sure what you have written would be regarded as sexist, more the ways of a modern man and congratulations for that.

I was brought up in a household where there was no demarcation of 'jobs' and so I automatically believed a man was capable of doing household chores and did them willingly. My sister brought her son up on the same level as her daughters - there was no difference between jobs.

I believe it is a very outdated concept to divide jobs into male or female, other than the obvious ones. I'm not sure why people are so surprised that the Mays have a balanced relationship and why it should be news!
Lionel
10th May 2017
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Although not a great supporter of Theresa May, she and Philip do seem to have reached a state of shall we say, reciprocity. They have a balance in their marriage. It's not a case of that's your job or beggar off that's my job you're taking over my role, I'm a feminist woman and you can't do that!

I've been married twice and in both cases my wife has gone very sick, the second later than the first. If the household is to function, even at a primitive level, I've needed to step in and fill in the very many gaps, the while maintaining a full time job.

It's called love. At times making up the lack in one's spouse whilst leaving them with their dignity as a person. Leaving them with their role in the marriage.

Recently I relapsed into a recurrance of Glandular Fever. Impossible to do anything. Totally debilitated. Yet my very sick wife stepped up to the mark. We're getting through.

Am I a sexist because I fill in the gaps? Because I keep the show on the road? No, of course not. What utter nonsense. I do the same as Philip May, allow my wife to be what she is.

But, if any of the above is deemed sexist then please do respond to me. I would be delighted to go head to head with you in debate. It would be a real pleasure. But be well prepared to be defeated because love wins over all. And I live in love for my lady.
Wilf
10th May 2017
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Just read your post Lionel and very sad to hear you have been unwell and your wife as well. All the very best and hope you feel better soonest-Regards, Wilf
Lionel
10th May 2017
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Thank you for your thoughts Wilf they are deeply appreciated here. Yes, I'm coming up the other side - been here before a few times - but for my wife there isn't another side. For my lady what is, is.

Take care of you are yours Wilf, it at times such I'm in we realise how precious our loved ones are.
Wilf
10th May 2017
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Thanks Lionel and as I say all the very best to you both-I am sure a lot of other members here will be wishing you both well-yours Wilf
Lionel
10th May 2017
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Thanks a lot Wilf. Your encouragement cheers me. Let's keep the discussions going. I enjoy your company.
Yodama
10th May 2017
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However, jobs needing muscle should be the boy jobs, sweet dainty things belong in the girl domain.
Yodama
10th May 2017
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I am alone so do everything myself, flat pack mysteries included. For big jobs I hire a muscular bloke, it is a pleasure to bring him tea.
All the rest my elves do, well should do, they have disappeared for a few months now. I do hope someone else is not feeding them in exchange for work?
jeanmark
10th May 2017
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All jobs in my house are 'boy' jobs, I just help out as necessary!
CaroleAH
10th May 2017
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That's the way to do it Jeanmark! Good for you 🙂
Yodama
5th Jul 2017
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Like your way of thinking jm!
Huckvaj
10th May 2017
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Live alone and get to do it all.
Wilf
10th May 2017
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We just take turns although I do all the heavy jobs, My wife always drives the car back from the pub as well...thats a job for the girls! ...(Only joking ladies!!!!)
Yodama
6th Jun 2017
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You may be joking Wilf but it is so true.
Wilf
7th Jun 2017
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Not joking Yodama its all true!
Yodama
5th Jul 2017
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Wondered why my ex was in such a hurry to have me pass my driving test, never seen such dedication and time spent on my passing.
Seeeee! fell right into that one didn't I?
LornaM3
10th May 2017
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Don't have a spouse, so whoever can complete the task best gets the job! Either myself (mom) or one of two sons. 🙂
CheritonB
10th May 2017
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There is a split of boy jobs and girl jobs in my house but there is also a range of jobs such as vacuuming, that are interchangeable and done by either of us. However girl jobs still vastly outnumber the boy jobs, despite us both holding down full time jobs, so I try and leave the interchangeable ones as often as I can.
CaroleAH
10th May 2017
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I should think that there are "girl" jobs and "boy" jobs, or what can be perceived as being a female or a male type job, in every household - the only problem in my household is that there's only me here to do all of them 🙂 so it's a case of do it, neglect it or pay for it!
Pauline52
10th May 2017
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I should imagine the Mays are the same as any other couple in that they split the jobs between them in the way that suits them best. There are 'by jobs and girl jobs' in our house too - not because we are sexist, but because it naturally falls that way to our mutual satisfaction. We're both willing and capable of taking on those jobs normally done by the other when need arises (say if one of us is unwell - or simply forgets something). Why is this such a big deal?
KarenWA
10th May 2017
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I really wish my husband did the jobs that I cannot do, leaving me the ones I can, but sometimes there are other criteria than strength. He does the washing as he is home more and is methodical. I cook because he doesn't like cooking. I empty the bins because he finds them dirty. I go out and fetch what we need from the shops, not because I like shopping but because he hates it. I tend to do more diy not because I am better but I don't set myself such high standards that I cannot attain them. When I cannot do a diy job we fetch in a man....
ArchieUK
10th May 2017
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I turn the water heater on and pay for the gas, my wife puts the tablet in the dishwasher and presses the button.
Oh equality is so hard to bare.
Tezza
10th May 2017
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Girl jobs and boy jobs, how outdated and sexist but then what can one expect!!
Jo Kingham
10th May 2017
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We don't really have allocated jobs in our house it's a case of we just get them done. I naturally tend to be the one who cooks and does the washing and ironing whereas my husband does the DIY stuff, the grass cutting, bins etc. But there are no set boy/girl jobs.
Why do comments like this have to be blown all out of proportion - we all know what she meant and it certainly wasn't sexist - just common sense that some jobs are better suited to one sex (I can't start the lawn mower for example!)
AverilH
10th May 2017
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Jobs are not divided by gender but by abuility so anything requiring strength will ge carried outby my husband ad he is stronger than me - putting out heavy bins, mowing lawns, digging garden etc. Household chores are carried out by either of us. It works for us and we have been happily married for almost 40 years
LindaD9
10th May 2017
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Quite a sexist comment. House hold jobs should be shared gender is immaterial.
Typical comment made by out of touch pm with people normal households. Found it cringeworthy!
Lionel
10th May 2017
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How cruel you are to try to bring down something good and wholesome with such a comment gleaned from the populist press.

Be aware your words might yet come back to bite you!
JohnHerb
10th May 2017
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Bit of a silly comment Theresa has made as she will be open to ridicule which is already happening but then she cannot say anything without it being debated and dissected-Thats life of the PM in 2017 I guess
CathyS9
10th May 2017
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Pink jobs - dusting, cooking, hoovering, loading dishwasher and many others! Blue jobs - ironing, cleaning windows, anything involving ladders. Plenty of mixed jobs depending on time and inclination - gardening, cleaning cars and emptying bins.
JohnHerb
10th May 2017
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I like your partition of pink & blue jobs Cathy-very clever...maybe Theresa should have said this
Marley444
10th May 2017
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We divide our household jobs, but not necessarily by gender. My husband is equally happy to hoover and wash floors, and if he is not around I am quite capable to take out the bins, although he usually does this job. I think in a happy marriage it is give and take and we share the chores and are flexible, although when it comes to cooking I am a control freak in that department and choose to do it all.

I do think that it wasn't a very clever comment for Theresa May to make, as it has opened up the whole sexist can of worms ... and what about those who live alone .. how has it made them feel?
MrsPat
10th May 2017
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Yes of course there are as at my age I cannot do some of the jobs hubby does like digging in the garden or moving around bins or heavy items like furniture. Likewise his cooking skills stop at a boiled egg. Its a commonsense comment why are the media getting all heated up about it as usual?

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