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Would you consider housemates later in life?

Whether by choice or necessity, living with housemates in later life is on the rise.

Most seek out shared living situations for financial reasons, particularly in expensive cities. Others look for housemates or choose other communal living options for companionship.

For some pensioners, inviting a lodger or flatmate to live with them is a practical way to manage expenses.

Divorce later in life also means some lose access to their family homes and must seek an alternative situation.

Living with strangers in later life comes with its challenges, but can also be a refreshing change. It’s a simple way to downsize without giving up all your independence.

What do you think? Would you consider housemates later in life? What would be the pros and cons? Share your views at Silversurfers Speakers Corner. 

 

Would you consider housemates later in life?

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Lochinvar
22nd Nov 2018
1
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A lot of us feel a bit selfish living in a large house with empty rooms. There is a website called
Spareroom.com where you can see people who are looking for a room.
I would suggest contacting a professional person
who is looking for a room on a Mon-Fri basis
Check their ID and references throughly
You can charge £100 and can earn £7500 tax free
Don’t advertise your home if you can avoid it there are some strange people out there!
Tr1sh
16th Nov 2018
1
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This is a good idea in theory, if the housemate was a close friend or family member you got on with and you lived in a property which would give you both some personal space. Would be a nightmare though if the arrangement did not work out!
HarmonySeeker
10th Nov 2018
1
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Obviously, sharing your home with someone would require that person being someone you both liked and trusted but generally speaking, I think this is a much better idea than living in a strange place such as a care home and having to depend for your personal needs on carers many of whom are not compassionate towards older people and their problems at differing stages of old age. It would be rather nice to have someone one's own age to communicate with understand and rely on. I'm sure this would build confidence, lessen a fear of the future and thus ward off debilitating mental health issues. It would also mean one's family would not have such an immediate burden of worry or care. Older people tend to become needier just when their offspring are busy with their own family issues and jobs stresses. I feel the burden of guilt on family members would also be lessened a good deal with this option. I have four bedrooms in my home; one I use as an office but the 4th bedroom has a shower room attached and is quite self-contained. I have often thought about this idea. Finding the right person is key to success here and would probably need organizing in some way but I'm sure it could be successful if both parties were keen to make it work. As we all know, companionship is most important for one's mental health as one becomes older. This idea might mean older people remaining more independent for much longer and therefore becoming less of a burden on the state and their families for care.
Yodama
26th Oct 2018
1
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Might be a good idea on a small scale, like-minded people with everyone sharing responsibilities. I would hate to have to take on someone else's duties.
But then, I would have someone to play Scrabble with and have chats with, have a laugh with.
It would be essential to have your own room with a tiny kitchenette and en-suite bathroom, nothing worse than cleaning the bath because someone can't be bothered.

Lot's of factors to consider but not a bad idea.
Calli
22nd Oct 2018
0
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Like my own space. Would find it challenging to have roommates. I have just had the last of my children leave home and I am enjoying only cleaning up after me. Cooking what I like to eat. I think having roommates would make me feel as though I would always have to include them.
Alicia
14th Oct 2018
0
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No I don't want strangers in here !
dizzydreamer54
13th Oct 2018
1
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I think it's a great idea as there are elderly people who haven't had children and perhaps they are on their own because they are either divorced or their partner and friends have died or moved away. I think a house share with two or three other people (room permitting) would be a great way to live as you get older. You would always have companionship and a people to share the chores, such as cleaning, shopping, gardening etc or perhaps, go out and enjoy yourselves sometimes. The most important thing would be that you wouldn't be lonely and isolated.
petcat
13th Oct 2018
2
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I would need to have met my future housemates quite a few times before I made the decision and job sharing/rota would have to be in place along with other general rules.
Gwendaelizabeth
12th Oct 2018
1
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I would hate to have to share my space with someone else. If I had a very big house I may consider it though but would want separate kitchen and bathroom facilities.
Clive7
12th Oct 2018
1
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It’s very easy to be isolated in later life. You will need to be with the right people of course.
jamilla2029
12th Oct 2018
2
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On balance I would not. I can see there are some advantages to this idea but personally I value my freedom. Although I have been on my own just over a year since the loss of my wife I have become quite used to being on my own, being able to please myself. I do have a small dog as a companion and that does help to some extent. But I can foresee problems in accepting a stranger into my home, the lack of privacy for one thing-on both sides ofcourse.
Jay
12th Oct 2018
0
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No, I appreciate my solitude, though sometimes it would be nice to have company and to share expenses. I have lived in bed sits, and flats but the nearest I would get to that now, is living in a small flat in a communal building where there would be a choice to use the communal lounge etc.
sparrer
12th Oct 2018
2
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No, not now. I had lodgers/paying guests when I was younger but found it quite restricting, for instance I couldn't sit around in my dressing gown. Being a little bit hard of hearing I'd worry about disturbing them if I had my music or television too loud, and sometimes I leave the dishes until the end of the day if I feel like it. I'd be happy in a flat where there's a communal area but still be able to retain my independence (and slovenly habits!)
Wilf
10th Oct 2018
1
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Yes why not if they were pleasant. We have thought about AirBNB and renting out on of our bedrooms. We have friends who do this and they meet friendly people from all over the world. The feedback mechanism means in many cases most people are very pleasant. I would probably not want to have any person in and not for a long time maybe a maximum of a few weeks at best but this may be an option to earn some more pennies as we get older.
Marley444
10th Oct 2018
1
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Not a stranger, but maybe an old friend
Judith358
10th Oct 2018
3
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Although I would not consider having a stranger as a housemate I do have some very close friends who I have known since I was 20, I am now 65. We are all around the same age. There are a couple of them (but not all) who I would consider as a housemate if we found ourselves in a situation where we were alone and wanted the companionship of a friend. This would have to be carefully discussed and considered by all to make sure that it would work for all concerned.
Margaret Hart
9th Oct 2018
4
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I would consider sharing a house with a good friend so long as we both had our own space but otherwise I would rather be alone.

Over our lives we all get stuck in our ways and although a holiday with a few people may be enjoyable living together would not be my cup of tea.
Retiredyorkie
9th Oct 2018
4
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The answer would be a definite no !!

Would not mind living in a retirement complex which had a communial lounge area where you had the choice to meet up with neighbours etc.

But sharing with someone other than a spouse or partner I would think be difficult - maybe it would work for some but definitely not for me.

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