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Would you consider housemates later in life?

Whether by choice or necessity, living with housemates in later life is on the rise.

Most seek out shared living situations for financial reasons, particularly in expensive cities. Others look for housemates or choose other communal living options for companionship.

For some pensioners, inviting a lodger or flatmate to live with them is a practical way to manage expenses.

Divorce later in life also means some lose access to their family homes and must seek an alternative situation.

Living with strangers in later life comes with its challenges, but can also be a refreshing change. It’s a simple way to downsize without giving up all your independence.

What do you think? Would you consider housemates later in life? What would be the pros and cons? Share your views at Silversurfers Speakers Corner. 

 

Would you consider housemates later in life?

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Alicia
1 days ago
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No I don't want strangers in here !
dizzydreamer54
2 days ago
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I think it's a great idea as there are elderly people who haven't had children and perhaps they are on their own because they are either divorced or their partner and friends have died or moved away. I think a house share with two or three other people (room permitting) would be a great way to live as you get older. You would always have companionship and a people to share the chores, such as cleaning, shopping, gardening etc or perhaps, go out and enjoy yourselves sometimes. The most important thing would be that you wouldn't be lonely and isolated.
petcat
2 days ago
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I would need to have met my future housemates quite a few times before I made the decision and job sharing/rota would have to be in place along with other general rules.
Gwendaelizabeth
3 days ago
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I would hate to have to share my space with someone else. If I had a very big house I may consider it though but would want separate kitchen and bathroom facilities.
Clive7
3 days ago
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It’s very easy to be isolated in later life. You will need to be with the right people of course.
jamilla2029
3 days ago
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On balance I would not. I can see there are some advantages to this idea but personally I value my freedom. Although I have been on my own just over a year since the loss of my wife I have become quite used to being on my own, being able to please myself. I do have a small dog as a companion and that does help to some extent. But I can foresee problems in accepting a stranger into my home, the lack of privacy for one thing-on both sides ofcourse.
Jay
3 days ago
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No, I appreciate my solitude, though sometimes it would be nice to have company and to share expenses. I have lived in bed sits, and flats but the nearest I would get to that now, is living in a small flat in a communal building where there would be a choice to use the communal lounge etc.
sparrer
3 days ago
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No, not now. I had lodgers/paying guests when I was younger but found it quite restricting, for instance I couldn't sit around in my dressing gown. Being a little bit hard of hearing I'd worry about disturbing them if I had my music or television too loud, and sometimes I leave the dishes until the end of the day if I feel like it. I'd be happy in a flat where there's a communal area but still be able to retain my independence (and slovenly habits!)
Wilf
5 days ago
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Yes why not if they were pleasant. We have thought about AirBNB and renting out on of our bedrooms. We have friends who do this and they meet friendly people from all over the world. The feedback mechanism means in many cases most people are very pleasant. I would probably not want to have any person in and not for a long time maybe a maximum of a few weeks at best but this may be an option to earn some more pennies as we get older.
Marley444
5 days ago
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Not a stranger, but maybe an old friend
Judith358
5 days ago
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Although I would not consider having a stranger as a housemate I do have some very close friends who I have known since I was 20, I am now 65. We are all around the same age. There are a couple of them (but not all) who I would consider as a housemate if we found ourselves in a situation where we were alone and wanted the companionship of a friend. This would have to be carefully discussed and considered by all to make sure that it would work for all concerned.
Margaret Hart
6 days ago
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I would consider sharing a house with a good friend so long as we both had our own space but otherwise I would rather be alone.

Over our lives we all get stuck in our ways and although a holiday with a few people may be enjoyable living together would not be my cup of tea.
Retiredyorkie
6 days ago
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The answer would be a definite no !!

Would not mind living in a retirement complex which had a communial lounge area where you had the choice to meet up with neighbours etc.

But sharing with someone other than a spouse or partner I would think be difficult - maybe it would work for some but definitely not for me.

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