Do you approve of dummies?

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Love them or hate them, parents have used dummies, pacifiers, comforters, or soothers for centuries.

As the names suggest, parents use them to calm and settle babies and, sometimes, toddlers too.

Babies are soothed by the action of sucking. Some parents couldn’t get through the day without giving their baby a dummy, whereas other parents strongly disapprove of their use. Some may decide they definitely won’t use one, but change their mind when faced with a crying baby.

The dummy debate isn’t a new concept, in fact it’s a war between parenting styles that’s been around as long as pacifiers themselves.  Some babies naturally suck their thumb, and those who are pro dummies say that you can take a dummy away from a child, but not their thumb!

It would seem the world is split into for and against quite firmly, and the NHS advises parents to restrict use of a dummy to when it’s time to sleep. They explained: “It’s hard to learn to talk with a dummy in your mouth.”

On the NHS website, the advice reads: Thumb sucking and dummies won’t cause permanent problems as long as the habit stops by the time your child gets their second teeth, but it can be a hard habit to break.

So what is your view?  Are you pro or against the use of dummies?  Did you use them with your own children?  Do any of your grandchildren use them? At what age do you think a dummy should be stopped?

Do you approve of dummies?

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katakraa
4th Sep 2016
0
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I used dummies to help my BABIES to sleep, when they can sit up and play they don't need dummies.
jentie51
4th Sep 2016
0
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Interesting to see that the vote is more or less 50/50.

Personally, I'm against dummies. Not only do they look awful - think of a (probably) beautiful baby photographed with his/her face obscured by a dummy almost the size of its head - I think it smacks of couldn't be bothered to find out what the child wants or needs.

None of my children ever had a dummy & they've all grown into well balanced adults. Receiving cuddles when out of sorts, instead of having a dummy stuck in their mouth, has (to my mind at least) stood them all in very good stead.
Marley444
23rd Jun 2016
0
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I think it is totally up to the individual. I had thumb suckers!
Hal
20th Jun 2016
0
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My neighbours daughter had a dummy for so long she used to go to school with it! Her mother had to bring it home and take it back to her at home time. The child's teeth were all deformed around the dummy and she had to have frequent trips to the dentist.
Lesley
19th Jun 2016
1
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My first born suffered with Chronic Colic. Sucking a dummy was the only thing that calmed him.
iestynlad
19th Jun 2016
1
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Sucky blankets! just vomity! What a filthy habit. Can't believe that any of today's neurotic Mum's whose war on germs has generated a whole new generation of cleaning products/laundry solutions etc so that their little darlings don't ever come into contact with anything contaminated with anything would resort to sucky blankets. And as for taking the aforementioned to school.... bet that child has a whole series of hang ups, addictions, nasty habits and even buck teeth!
iestynlad
19th Jun 2016
1
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Filthy habit encourages smoking. Gives children buck teeth.
wallis
19th Jun 2016
1
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You can throw a dummy away but not a thumb - my mother put something yellow (called Bitter Aloes) on my thumb and I've never forgotten how awful it was and how I cried!
sandrahillhouse
18th Jun 2016
2
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Of course I'm referring to teeth once they grow ...my daughter had much dental work in later years which our dentist blamed on the dummy.
sandrahillhouse
18th Jun 2016
2
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Bad for teeth but great to soothe a baby who is upset.
Juleshazel
18th Jun 2016
1
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I don't think it does any harm ...I sucked my thumb until I was 10 ..never do one me any harm
Bernieb
18th Jun 2016
1
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if they help to comfort the baby why not
but only for short time
BirdofParadise
18th Jun 2016
1
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They are a good thing to allow a bit of peace and quiet and comfort for the child in the early years. Much better than thumb sucking.
Best to wean the child off them after teething though.
Riversiderouge
17th Jun 2016
1
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A dummy is worth it's weight in gold up until the age of 3 and a bit. At this age you can communicate better with your kids and tell them any sort of fairy story that takes them away for good. For instance Santa has swapped it for presents, or the easter bunny has swapped it for chocolate eggs. Be prepared for tantrums but in the end they will beleive! It is for their own good because their teeth and speech will suffer if you leave it any longer.
Blondie B
16th Jun 2016
2
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A dummy is ok in moderation, while trying to get your baby to sleep etc! Just for comfort , if it helps that's ok! all babies are different and some don't even like dummy's at all........
Gillymac
16th Jun 2016
0
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Dummies are ok if used purely to help a baby get to sleep. But I think they are used too often for the wrong reasons and it's not good to see babies and toddlers with them stuck in their mouths all the time.
suzukisylvia
16th Jun 2016
1
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ladygrey
16th Jun 2016
0
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One of mine had a dummy and one was a thumb sucker. Don't like to see older children out and about with dummies should be a point when they are only used at night or they are unwell.
Binki
16th Jun 2016
0
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My elder daughter was a nightmare, crying all day long. It was my health worker (a Miss!) who suggest I give her a dummy as she got comfort from sucking. It was like a miracle. However when she was toddling I made sure the dummy was only used while she was falling asleep, then it was taken away. I hate to see quite old children running round with a dummy in their mouth. Prepared when my second daughter was born I had a dummy ready. However, she was a very placid baby and the one time I put a dummy in her mouth she threw it out. However, at the age of three, her cousins came to stay and they sucked their thumbs, so she started doing it as well. She still did it on occasions till she was at senior school - a habit much harder to break than using a dummy. This is why I approve of dummies if necessary.
Only me
16th Jun 2016
2
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i don't see any harm in having a dummy ,it's better than thumb sucking ,if it soothes them there's no harm in it .
VeeJ
16th Jun 2016
2
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I agree with both sides. Our first son didn't take to a dummy - we only realised years later that he was tongue tied. If it had been noticed when he was a baby it would have saved a lot of angst. Our 2nd son loved his dummy, when number 1 lost his first tooth we told number 2 that the tooth fairy had taken his dummy. Big mistake, he found it difficult to get to sleep without it and was never really the same child but nearly 40 years ago there was a lot of disapproval. Our grandchildren had dummies and were happy, contented children. It was a struggle for a couple of them to give them up. I don't really like them but see their use. What I hate is seeing them in family photos! One granddaughter sucked her thumb & that brings its own problems, it used to get quite raw sometimes and you can't throw it away.
Milkflake
14th Jun 2016
3
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If a baby is more contented with a dummy, then let them have one. Far better than thumb sucking!
lovetolholiday
9th Jun 2016
1
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I think that dummies are too often used as a short cut to comfort and it tends to be a hard habit to break and makes babies and parents reliant on "instant solution" to a grizzling child, far better to find another approach. both of my children went without dummies as I and my brother also had not used them and none of us suffered as a result. have seen to many parents tearing their hair out as they try and get dummies away from a child - best not to start in the first place..
cazzar1
9th Jun 2016
3
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There are some babies and small children who never need a dummy so that's great. My premature twins would only stop crying when they had their dummy. There were countless times a dummy went missing and either me or my husband had to go to the shop up the road to buy a new one. I was criticised by people for letting them have dummies for years but it's what they wanted. It comforted them. I asked a doctor once if it was bad letting them keep their dummies for so long and she said it didn't matter as they would eventually grow out of needing it. She said she'd never seen an adult with a dummy so not to worry. Of course she was right. It depends on the child as they all have different needs.
lonemoan
7th Jun 2016
3
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As a father of three and grandfather of five,I have always found the dummy to be very effective and much loved by babies and little children, I believe the dummy was also known as a 'comforter' which it is. Is this advice against dummies another blow against common sense from what I increasingly see as a world gone mad ? As I write this hanging on the wall is my eldest sons first dummy which my dear mother kept and labelled.
celtwitch
4th Jun 2016
1
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I have never really liked children, especially little boys, so anything that keeps them quiet is a good thing.
goldenbee
3rd Jun 2016
4
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With some babies it's the only way to get them off to sleep and mums need their rest too. As long as they are gone by the time they go to Nursery, I once knew someone who took his sucky blanket to school. That is a no no. Keeping mum and baby relaxed and stress free is the most important thing.
Wilf
2nd Jun 2016
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Think its totally natural
iestynlad
19th Jun 2016
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Yes Wilf about as natural as being born with a silver spoon in your mouth
Wilf
19th Jun 2016
2
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Yes I know loads of kids nowdays with this!
Pam1960
2nd Jun 2016
2
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Both of my children had dummies in fact the youngest one carried a bag with about 6 in and used to put two or three in his mouth at once and was constantly swapping them over. When they were three I told them they were too old and they wouldn't be allowed them in nursery so if they wanted to be big boys then they had to throw them away. Both of them did. I had a couple of nights when they wouldn't settle to sleep but within a week they were fine. However a few of my nieces and nephews sucked their thumbs instead and some of were still doing this into their teens. They didn't realise they were doing this and it would happen when they were tired. I think it is down to parental choice I don't think there is a right or wrong way. Whatever settles the child is best. It is just the same as bottle or breast. Mothers should not be made to feed guilty for making the choice that suits them and their baby
Alicia
2nd Jun 2016
6
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No, they are filthy things! Babies drop them on the floor and parents pick it up and replace it in the baby's mouth.
shaw9949
16th Jun 2016
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Has anybody died sucking a dirty dummy? Emm no don't think so
Serenenerine
14th Jun 2016
1
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Pam1960
2nd Jun 2016
4
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Is there a difference between a dummy that has been dropped on the floor and a baby's hands that have been on the floor when crawling?
celtwitch
4th Jun 2016
1
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If you can't tell the difference you should, perhaps, go to Specsavers?
Pam1960
4th Jun 2016
1
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I did but unfortunately it didn't improve my eyesight
jeanmark
2nd Jun 2016
3
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So agree Pam1960 and babies put dirtier things in their mouths through the course of a day and survive. I would prefer to see a contented child with a dummy than one who is distressed because they have been denied one.

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