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Do you believe in Middle Child Syndrome?

Each year on August 12th, National Middle Child Day honours that in-between child in the family. Larger families celebrate more than one middle child, too! 

The complex topic of family dynamics is one that our species will definitely be discussing for centuries to come. And while every member of a family unit ends up having their own unique challenges it’s hard to argue that middle children often get the short end of the stick.

Many believe birth order plays a pivotal role in the personalities of children. The Middle Child Syndrome describes the firstborn as the leader and the role-player. Meanwhile, the youngest one earns the title of the baby family. Therefore, the middle child’s role remains undefined.

Birth order may contribute to the Big Five personality traits, too: extroversion, neuroticism, agreeableness, conscientiousness, and openness to experience. One personality study also claims that middle children tend to be artistic and creative.

No matter what the personality tests and therapists say, the day directs us to focus on the middle child. The day directs parents and siblings pull out all the stops. Make your middle-born family members feel special.

Are you a middle child? Do you believe in Middle Child Syndrome? Do you have experience of this with your own children? Do you think it depends on the gender mix of the siblings?

Do you believe in Middle Child Syndrome?

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Aldoli
11th Sep 2020
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I have 3 daughters and thought I had treated them all as much the same as I could, it was in later years I discovered she felt as if she was too old for some things and too young for others. she was always my "rebel" which I thought was because she was daddies girl and we were divorced but she is now a mother of 4 and we get on great - we have been on holiday a few times together
Purplepizza
23rd Aug 2020
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I have 3 children - 1 boy then 2 girls and id say the oldest girl (middle child) has always caused me the most problems and she is also the one with most phsycological problems and seems to be crying out for attention even.tjo they are now all on their 20s
Retiredyorkie
22nd Aug 2020
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There only used to be Mothers Day and that was a religious day.

How many more days can they come up with we already and Fathers Day and now Middle Childs Day.
sparrer
22nd Aug 2020
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National Middle Child Day? Another American invention the gullible are sucked in to. I'm the parent of three children who were all treated equally and grew up to lead happy, fruitful lives both in their careers and their private lives. If a middle (or first, or last) child doesn't feel as valued as their siblings, one has to ask - whose fault is that?
Felix1
21st Aug 2020
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People are too fond of labels these days.
jennytwoshoes
21st Aug 2020
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I notice this in my husband as the middle child and he’s 70!
Silver57
16th Aug 2020
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I was the oldest of 4 siblings, we’re all 3 years apart. Although there were 4 siblings 2 daughters followed by 2 son. I’d say my sister was the middle child. I was first born and my fathers favorite. My sister next took second place (even she felt and admits this). The third child born was a boy, the first son, my mothers favorite. The last child a boy but the baby of the family, who had health problems and received much more attention then the his siblings due to his health.
I will say of all the stockings my sister‘s has been the most Productive and certainly most talented of all of us.
Silver57
16th Aug 2020
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I don’t know how to edit...
Apologies Siblings not stockings
rosie1ogrady
15th Aug 2020
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I think whatever position you are in your family helps to shape your personality. So the firstborn will be the first to reach milestones with all the focus and attention on them which is a positive thing. However, I suppose the negatives of being the firstborn is that you have brand new parents who will learn by trial and error on lots of things.

I am the youngest of six so the parenting was well established when I came along and having older parents came with more patience and tolerance - of course, my older siblings called me spoilt!

My opinion on the middle child syndrome is that if all three are the same gender then the middle one may feel just that - middle as in being average - whilst the eldest and youngest have an almost special status.
Carol17
15th Aug 2020
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as a middle child I learnt to negotiate, arbitrate, be sensitive and resourceful.
It gave me the tools to become successful in my career
Norfolk Wrinkley
14th Aug 2020
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As a middle child personality is genetic and has little to do with where you are placed in the family.
Anitapeta
13th Aug 2020
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Our two oldest sons were 10 and 8 when unexpectedly I found myself pregnant with our youngest.
So up until then the 8 year old had been our baby.
All of a sudden he was a middle child.
He came round once he got used to having another brother.
I am also a middle child. I am 7th from a family of 9 children.
I think personalities are not dependent on where you sit within a family.
Little3
19th Aug 2020
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It's all very well when there are only 3 children, but when it gets to 9 that's a lot of middle child syndrome to good around
Anitapeta
20th Aug 2020
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Haha. Yes I agree. But there was 18 years between myself and my oldest sister, and another 6 years between myself and the youngest.
The older half had left Home whilst I was growing up, so mostly I grew up with the youngest of the boys (2 and a bit years older), and 2 younger sisters.
I was happiest left to my own devices. With my head in a book somewhere quiet.
Little3
20th Aug 2020
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Dare I say that last bit sounds like a stereotypical middle child
Anitapeta
20th Aug 2020
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Really??
I just liked to keep out of the way. Lol
ecarg
13th Aug 2020
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I think the age gap must play a part in this,my sister is the middle child .I am 7 years younger than her and am more like an only child as my brother and sister were close and dealing with me was a chore.
However they like to keep a eye out for me now. I'll always be the baby and I don't think positions in the family matter so much in later life.
bfc
13th Aug 2020
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I'm a middle child of 7 sadly only 4 of us left and 1 died b4 i was born, i like to think of myself as creative and practical rather than artistic. And think that middle child syndrome can depend on how close you are with siblings how much you let then influence you as you grow. i am the odd ball of family the not quit white sheep.
Leapyearnan
12th Aug 2020
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Yes definitely! I had 2 brothers older than me and 2 sisters younger than me. I always felt left out and this continued into adult life. Always felt like I didn’t fit in anywhere. The worst part for me in childhood was washing in front of the fire on school nights. There would be one bowl of soapy water for us all to share. One night it would be oldest first, the next night youngest first. I never got to wash in clean water! The same with baths at the weekend. I had 3 daughters so always made sure to lavish extra attention on my middle daughter so she never felt the same as I did. I’m now closest to her. I’m 64 and she’s 42. I’m so proud of her. Even though she was painfully shy as a child, as was I, she’s grown up into a beautiful young lady inside and out, very popular with heaps of friends. I’d have hated her to be as lonely as I am at times but looks like she’s by far my greatest accomplishment in life!
JosephineS9
12th Aug 2020
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I am a middle child of thirteen children. It made me very shy and not sure of my role in the family so used to spend a lot of time on my own where possible. I was also very different from the rest. They were either dark haired or ginger, I was very blond, the only one to wear glasses, very short sighted, was bigger built than my sisters and had very bad acne, they didn't. So all in all I didn't feel as if I belonged.
Tracyes
12th Aug 2020
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I'm a middle child. My older brother was the first boy on both sides so he was a big deal for a long time and got lots of attention and was able to get away with stuff because 'boys will be boys'. My younger sister was born premature and was very ill for a while so was coddled for a long time and every time she coughed she was pampered. I was mostly left to my own devices and because no-one paid much attention, I quietly got away with lots that went under the radar... :o)
Marley444
12th Aug 2020
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I have three daughters and I definitely accept there is such a thing as Middle Child Syndrome. My lovely middle daughter feels that she is neither the oldest nor the youngest and has always had an issue with her place in the sibling hierarchy, even though as parents we have spent our whole lives telling her how special she is and that we have treated them equally. She has always been much more needy and craved validation
Little3
19th Aug 2020
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I wonder if there is always a sibling hierarchy - it's a very loaded word!
Bald123
12th Aug 2020
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Yes because I am a middle child. My older brother used to tell me off the whole time and my younger sister used to tell me off the whole time so I grew up being nagged constantly.

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