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Do men remarry faster than women?

When a relationship ends – either through divorce or bereavement – moving on can be a long and difficult process.

The desire to repeat the happiness you once knew is strong for many, and trying to grieve or make sense of a painful divorce while also looking to the future can be a difficult balancing act.

When it comes to grief and loss there is an old saying that goes: “Women mourn; men replace.”

The reasons behind this are often practical. When moving on, men seek a partner who will help organise their lives and homes and keep them company.

Women on the other hand tend to be more cautious about bringing someone new into their lives, holding out for romance – that may or may not ever come.

According to psychologists at the University of Utrecht, women tend to be more equipped to go it alone, and are better at coping with grief.

In contrast, men often look to a new partner for companionship and sympathy to help them cope with change, separation and loss.

In the case of a painful divorce, marriage may not seem as appealing to women anymore, particularly if they have made sacrifices to raise their families and have spent most of their adult lives shouldering the burden of the household’s emotional and domestic labour.

While many divorced men look forward to the benefits of a new relationship, divorced women are often desirous of spending time alone and building a life for themselves.

What do you think? Do men remarry faster than women – and if so, what’s the reason? Or is this simply a generalisation, and every person is different?

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Do men remarry faster than women?

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Munsterlander
22nd Feb 2018
1
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Looks like 91% have said yes and I agree with that. In my case I am so useless I need to be looked after by a woman.
bobbie22
4th Mar 2018
0
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I don't agree that man or woman should look to remarry simply because they need someone to look after them . All persons should be capable of managing on their own. Relationships or marriage should all be about caring emotionally for someone and wanting loving companionship, someone to share good and bad times with .
Darkstar
15th Feb 2018
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MaddieM
13th Feb 2018
2
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Men don't seem to deal with being alone as well as women can. They remarry quicker usually within 5yrs
posted
13th Feb 2018
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I have been a widower for 9 years and no current intention of remarrying, I can do everything around the home and garden so do not need " looking after ", I miss conversation and company but that is about all I do miss.
WendyT26
13th Feb 2018
1
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Not in my case ! Must be doing something wrong !
chivers
11th Feb 2018
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I'm sure they do , because of my upbringing I was always able to look after myself cook iron etc.I was married for 44 yrs sadly my wife passed away after long illness..My male friends were sport based or pub based
I certainly lacked emotional support.when I fell ill it suddenly showed me how vulnerable things could get.So after time I did enter the dating game. eventually meeting up with someone new
It's never going to be the same but we care for each other and support each other.nothing lasts forever so you need to make the most of our short time here .when this is over let me tell you that's it !!
Jean177
9th Feb 2018
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As an elderly widow with no desire to remarry or take on another man, I have noticed that widowers are keen to meet someone else, mainly because they want looking after and someone to run their home for them. (a housekeeper would do but they cost money!!). It is the easiest option , rather than trying to get out and build a new life for themselves . It takes courage to do this and it is hard to face the world on your own after a long marriage . Friends and family are wonderful if you meet them half way , join groups , get involved , but men seem to find this hard .
juneprocter
9th Feb 2018
3
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Men tend to remarry faster than women as most of their everyday needs revolve round having a wife at their side, not only on a physical basis but for their general comfort. Whereas a woman has the benefit of the family home, her children and long-standing friends to help her through sad times and loneliness.
Pwilly
9th Feb 2018
6
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Of all the people I know who are divorced/separated, the men have gone on to other long term relationships and all the women, are single and LOVING IT.
ArthurB4
8th Feb 2018
5
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If my wife passes before me I would never consider remarrying it would be like a betrayal in my eyes.
Luckily enough we are happy in our marriage and a good argument and shouting match soon clears the air.
And what she says I agree only when she is in earshot or eyesight.
ecarg
7th Feb 2018
5
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I completely agree with Carole.Another factor are the children if they are with their Mother she will be extremely carefull of bringing a new man into their lives
Poppy1010
7th Feb 2018
4
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I think men who end up on their own through divorce or death of a partner, don't seem to cope very well with life, they seem unable to cope very well. Maybe its because they were used to having things done for them, and suddenly its not there anymore
CaroleAH
7th Feb 2018
8
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It would be interesting to see the data which the psychologists used to make this rather sweeping statement. We are all individuals and, no doubt, cope in different ways. I'm sure that for all the men who can't cope and who rush to marry or find a new partner to do the housework and cooking etc there will be as many women who set their stall out to find a new man who will provide for them. I'm sure it's a case of swings and roundabouts for the majority and if it suits them, who are we to judge? 🙂
Lionel
7th Feb 2018
3
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A bit of non starter, I think!
Alicia
7th Feb 2018
3
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Margaret Hart
6th Feb 2018
1
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Usually women are the natural managers - most are used to managing everything including making money go further and multI tasking at all times. Men are often the bigger earners but think they are doing their full part by bringing the money in and leave then rest to their wives. Obviously there are exceptions to this but it is very much the norm and for this reason they are the least likely to cope alone quickly. Of the people I know who have married again men have always been the quickest to move on and start again but not necessarily successfully as they are looking for replacements rather than thinking of a happy future. The younger generation tend to think divorce is easy and just something to do when convenient but in my generation most of us are near or past our golden anniversaries so when left alone find it a terrible loss which is not easily recovered from.
Wilf
6th Feb 2018
2
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Probably because there are more older women than men as for many reasons men seem to die younger. I think it used to be even more pronounced when lots of blokes smoked (myself included although I gave up in my 20s thank goodness)
kentrix39
6th Feb 2018
2
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Alicia
7th Feb 2018
1
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