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Does Valentine’s Day place too much emphasis on romantic love?

This week is Valentine’s Day, a tradition that leaves many divided. 

Some people like the tradition and enjoy the opportunity to stop and appreciate their spouse, while others feel it’s an arbitrary tradition that’s best ignored.

Most of the emphasis on Valentine’s Day is about romantic love, which can be alienating rather than inclusive.

While a romantic relationship can be a wonderful addition to your life, it’s not the only source of happiness, and fails to acknowledge all the different kinds of love that are in your life.

For example, the love you feel for your children and grandchildren, for the other members of your family, and for friends and neighbours can be just as important in your life, and in some cases much more important.

And what about the love of things? The love you feel for your favourite hobbies like gardening and painting, or the love and loyalty you feel to your home and community also have the potential to enrich your life.

Where Valentine’s Day often goes wrong is it fails to acknowledge that love is about much more than romance. If it did, perhaps people might be more inclined to celebrate this occasion.

What do you think? Does Valentine’s Day place too much emphasis on romantic love? Or is that the whole point? Share your views at Speakers Corner. 

 

Does Vaentine's Day place too much emphasis on romantic love?

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viking
27th Feb 2019
0
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Yes have some fun, [difficult to find these days ! ]. Let the poor shopkeepers have a little "bunce" to balance off the horrendous business rates now levied by local councils.
Not2grey
24th Feb 2019
1
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Valentine's Day is now driven by big business .
Romance has nothing to do with a special day but how we treat each other for the other 364.
Lionel
24th Feb 2019
1
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Well said and so true
MilesC
22nd Feb 2019
1
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We Oldies know that there’s more to love than mere romance!
Felix1
21st Feb 2019
1
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It can be fun if you do not take it too seriously. God knows in these days of increasing violence we need a little fun in our lives.
Bald123
20th Feb 2019
1
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Its a nice day for kindness and love-lovely sentiments
sanmich
20th Feb 2019
1
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It’s a lovely day for some to enjoy but if you have lost the love of your life it is a very sad day. I used to run a slimming club and I tried not to dwell on St Valentine’s Day as I knew there were lots of members who lived on their own because their husbands or partners had died or divorced them.
shortyshah
19th Feb 2019
2
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It's too much pressure to spend money on one day. Best to enjoy each other every day with or without spending money. Maybe I am showing my age or maybe I have realised this about myself in my old age. Lol!!
marieceleste
17th Feb 2019
3
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I love my partner even more than when I first realised how important they were to me. This love - which I know is returned - does not need a specific day in the year. The little things you do for each other, the respect you show to each other, this can be done any or every day and far outweighs going over the top on one particular day.
This obviously is just my opinion but I’d like to think there are others out there that would feel this way.
Lionel
17th Feb 2019
2
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Our situation would be utterly impossible were it not for a deep love that transcends emotion. Never the less, we had a coffee together in a peaceful and beautiful spot nearby. Something to remember.
Alicia
17th Feb 2019
2
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My husband and I love each other all year round, not just on Valentine day.
bartie2399
17th Feb 2019
7
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We were taught about Valentines Day in junior school. It was about the mystery of receiving a card from a secret admirer, and wondering who it could be. Sadly, it then morphed into a competition to brag about how many you'd had. Today, Valentines Day has been hijacked by the card, confectionery, restaurant and flower businesses and it is now a multi-million pound industry and my wife and I take no part in it. I tell her how much she is loved many times each day, she gets flowers at random times when she is not expecting it, if I see her struggling I am there for her. I must be doing something right, we have been married for fifty years.
MrsPat
14th Feb 2019
2
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Surely romantic love is the stuff of thousands of films, books and plays and long may that continue. Valentines day is just one day of celebrating love. Maybe we should have more of them.
Lionel
15th Feb 2019
3
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Hold on a minute, I can't afford many more days like this!
Alicia
17th Feb 2019
1
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Just buy her a card from Card Factory like my husband does 🙂
Yodama
10th Mar 2019
0
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Yes. I like your idea.
ArchieUK
13th Feb 2019
6
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Romantic love is pushed to its limits,
Real love appears to have forgotten.
Lionel
13th Feb 2019
6
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Exactly Archie, you put it perfectly. All year round, and those special times.
Wilf
12th Feb 2019
4
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Yes but I thought that was the whole point of Valentines day or have I been missing something for 50 Years?
CaroleAH
12th Feb 2019
4
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Where would the florists, chocolatiers, card shops etc be without Valentine's Day??? Like most other celebrations, 14th February is a huge money-spinner for the shops. Whatever happened to leaving a love-heart sweet on some-ones desk as I used to do at school - aged 9 or 10. 🙂 I was in a local card shop the other day (getting an engagement card!!!) and glanced at the Valentine cards and have to admit that I was shocked by some of them - some crude, some cruel, and on the whole, utterly cringeworthy! There were some nice ones - at a price!
Of course it would be lovely to be invited out for a nice romantic meal but surely love should be a year-round celebration.
Lionel
13th Feb 2019
5
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I just about despair of buying a 'nice,' card these days. Unnecessary vulgarity seems the norm now. If I presented my wife with one of the Christmas cards on sale a few weeks ago it would wound her horribly. She would think that was all I wanted of her when the truth is very different.

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