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Was Prince Harry right to bare his soul on television?

The Duke and Duchess of Sussex spoke about their struggles in a television documentary.

The Duke of Sussex should “stop whingeing”, keep his head down and avoid baring his soul in public in future, a royal author has warned.

Harry and the Duchess of Sussex opened up candidly about their struggles in the ITV documentary Harry & Meghan: An African Journey.

Meghan admitted to feeling vulnerable, and spoke of the pressures of royal life amid intense tabloid interest, saying: “It’s not enough to just survive something, that’s not the point of life. You have got to thrive.”

The duke, questioned about an alleged rift with the Duke of Cambridge, said he and his brother are now “on different paths” and have “good days” and “bad days” in their relationship.

He also told of the pressure he felt trying to protect his family from unwanted media attention.

But royal commentator Penny Junor called the television appearance a “huge mistake”, and urged the duke to change his approach.

“My advice would be to keep his head down, and I’m afraid to say, stop whingeing,” the writer said.

“It’s beginning to sound like a bit of a whinge. That’s not the Harry that we know and love.

“Yes, Harry’s been through a lot, but there’s a lot of other people who have been through a hell of a lot as well, and a lot of people who don’t have the privileges that he has.”

The Duke and Duchess of Sussex after a visit to the Tembisa township in Johannesburg

The Duke and Duchess of Sussex after a visit to the Tembisa township in Johannesburg

Junor added: “He does do, and can continue to do, some really good work and make a real difference to people’s lives.

“He’s got to get a grip on himself.

“He’s got to stop feeling sorry for himself and look at the positives – shut out the criticism, just ignore it as his father has done, and get on with the work, get on with the job.”

She suggested Harry should follow the Queen and the Prince of Wales’s leads.

“The royal family has always in the past very successfully pursued this policy of keeping their head down and saying nothing,” Junor said.

“I think that is a dignified way of dealing with problems, but it’s not the American way and that’s the real problem.”

US-born former actress Meghan told presenter Tom Bradby she had tried to cope with the pressures of her new royal life by putting on a “stiff upper lip”, but she was not prepared for the intensity of tabloid interest.

“I really tried to adopt this British sensibility of a stiff upper lip. I tried, I really tried.

“But I think what that does internally is probably really damaging,” the duchess said.

Junor said: “I think it’s fine if you need somebody to speak to. Maybe the Queen and Prince Charles have not internalised it.

“But their counsellor has not been the great British public via a television documentary.

“It’s fine to speak to someone in private, a therapist,  but don’t spill your soul in public. I don’t think it works.”

She added: “Diana was a great one for baring her soul in public. Harry is doing exactly the same thing.

“Diana also read absolutely everything that was written about her and got profoundly depressed about it.”

Diana

Harry’s late mother Diana, Princess of Wales used to speak openly, like Harry

Junor said Harry’s father Charles had his own troubles with the press, but took a very different stance.

“When I interviewed Prince Charles in the 1980s and his marriage was in trouble, he said to me that he got so angry when he read the newspapers, because they were all so full of lies and he wanted to correct each and every one,” Junor revealed.

“He realised that you can’t do that, so he stopped reading the newspapers and he read The Times and that was it.

“It’s far better just to ignore it and just let everything go.”

The royal writer said the Queen had kept her personal feelings and emotions to herself throughout her reign.

“I’m sure there are times when she has found life difficult, but we don’t know that and I think she’s always conducted herself with huge dignity, and the British public appreciate that,” she said.

Royal visit to Africa

Harry and Meghan’s trip to Africa was in the end overshadowed by legal action and the duke’s attack on the tabloid press

“Of course we’re talking about different generations, but I think she’d probably be a little bit dismayed by what is going on at the moment.”

Junor added: “I think it was a huge mistake to make this documentary in this vein.”

The couple’s high-profile overseas visit to Africa, carried out at the request of the Government, was overshadowed on the penultimate day when the duke launched a scathing attack on the British tabloid press, as news of Meghan’s lawsuit became public.

The duchess is suing the Mail on Sunday over an alleged breach of copyright and privacy after it published a private letter between her and her estranged father.

What are your views? Is Prince Harry justified to voice his feelings in an attempt to protect his family? Or should he keep a stiff upper lip and suffer in private?

Was Prince Harry right to bare his soul on television?

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P0Pcorn
5th Nov 2019
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And if they are going to take a break from royla duties and move to murica can we stop paying them please
P0Pcorn
5th Nov 2019
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NO. Very not british very not royal very not sensible for even an ordinary person. Those that volunteer for programs like the removed Jeremy Kyle show and similar are lacking some kind of self defence mechanism. Those who watch are pruruient voyeurs
Rubio
1st Nov 2019
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Megan and Harry, are the wright, Daughter-in-law, and Son of Diane, Princess of Wales and the World.
She is with them, I am sure.
This is not American, English or other matter. This is a free spirit, a free mind doesn't matter who you are. YOU MUST BE FREE.
Congratulations to Harry and Megan, you are alive.
A big kiss to the little one.
Vince:)
iestynlad
29th Oct 2019
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Knew this would happen when he married Meghan. She is used to the press alright but not used to being gagged because she is a royal and can't just do/say what she likes. Harry was a lot of fun but now he is just pandering to her. I think he was right to bare his soul as he will never be the ruler but he does have a lot of privileges and needs to think of those with problems who have no resources to cope with them and no family around them either
Felix1
29th Oct 2019
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Selfish, but we always expect the Royal family to be more stalwart, be strong leaders. Our Queen is a prime example of a strong woman, a good leader.
AlisonP24
25th Oct 2019
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I think Prince Harry should be able to bare his soul to his family and friends, we all need support. Not sure that he should have bared his soul to the press though, they just take everything to extreme.
Paxton
25th Oct 2019
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Where has our lovable rogue gone. He was so much fun and did a great job when in the army. Now all we get is surly looks and arguing with all and sundry. Sorry but I find Meghan too clingy and seems to have him wrapped around her finger. When a star she must of been used to having interviews and photographs taken, it's no different now, if only she could stop being stone like and stop thinking of herself. I hope one day to see Harry's genuine smile back again.
Retiredyorkie
25th Oct 2019
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Think it is now time Harry moved on and start to build on his future life with his new wife and son.
Mozy
25th Oct 2019
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I really think Harry was at his happiest when he was in the forces .It seems to me he is a little lost and confused with the job he has now found himself doing.I feel that both of them should learn to get on with things and stop drawing the wrong attention to themselves ,other royals manage it look at Princess Anne she does a tremendous amount of charity work but gets on with it quietly and still keeps her private life private .
ShirleyR5
24th Oct 2019
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I’m not particularly a royalist, but the young royals have shown a far more human face than their forebears. They’ve spoken openly about mental illness, which surely is a good thing. They might have privileges which most of us can only dream of, but that doesn’t stop them from having feelings like the rest of us. Ok, so they are expected to be in the public eye, but that doesn’t mean 24/7. They should be allowed some private time. Imagine having to have to watch everything you say and do because the eyes of the world are ready to criticise you if you dare to let your guard down.
I hope we continue to see Harry and William share with us that they are only human.
Poppyrose
24th Oct 2019
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He and Megan both have mental issues plus a new marriage, a new baby and finding their role in the Royal family so I really feel they need to back off from public engagements, find some proper help and instead of trying to save the world they need to start with saving themselves. They need to realise they cannot carry the world but do need to carry themselves and young Archie plus we need radio silence about them. We don't need to hear how they are struggling, take a leaf out of the Queen Mother's book 'never explain, never complain. They have just gone way over the top, they are not everything to everyone but they need to be everything to each other.
Collo
24th Oct 2019
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Unfortunately mental health does not discriminate between rich and poor so harry been open about his struggles and still gets hound by the media why don't they listen and give him space to sort himself out or cant they hear his cry for help and understanding
Rosedeb
24th Oct 2019
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They should take advice from older royals such as Princess Anne, they have been through this and have learnt to balance their exposure. Unfortunately wearing your heart on your sleeve is not a solution. Many people who are living on the breadline and do not have the advantages of these privileged individuals will be inclined to be unsympathetic
Yodama
23rd Oct 2019
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I think it was more of a silent plea for everyone, just to leave them to live their private lives in private.
Fine...celebrities must endure the attention, wanted or unwanted, but I think in the case of the young Royals, too much unwarranted attention and fake stories are put out there by the media.
stanleyk
24th Oct 2019
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Ok for them to live their lives in private, but they need to stop with trying to dictate how we lead our lives. I for one am sick of hearing about them and their virtue signalling.
Tr1sh
23rd Oct 2019
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It's not really a case of right or wrong, more whether it is wise or not and, to be honest, I don't think it is wise at all.
Lionel
23rd Oct 2019
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I'm quite sure Harry's mental state is quite real to him.But so much wearing of his heart on his sleeve ... a little tiring for the rest of us, many of whom endure greater difficulties.

Viewed in context Harry's problems are as nothing. Britain is in an existential crisis with the EU (and itself), two thirds of the world face famine, water deprivation, plagues and disease, we are looking at another war in the Middle East - this time with the Turks and Russians playing their hand, another looming financial crisis which almost certainly with impact us all and so it goes on.

Making a TV social about one's personal discomfiture seems a little crass and selfish in the face of that lot, don't you think?
Surfer Pete
23rd Oct 2019
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I'm not sure what they hoped to achieve in doing the interview.

It won't make any difference to the way the press treat them and it just makes them look a bit sad and sorry for themselves when they have such a lovely life in their country estates, private jets and celebrity friends. Not a situation that will elicit much sympathy from the majority of the nation who struggle to make ends meet day to day.

If they need help seek it privately not in front of the world who will just snipe at them more as a result.
1Jackie
23rd Oct 2019
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Yes Harry has always struggled with being a royal and the death of his mother. William also struggles with the death of his mother. Sad and strange how Harry has moved away from his brother when they were so close
But I am sorry Meghan mental state finding it hard being a mother so do many first time mothers who have no help are vulnerable no money and may already suffer from mental health problems. They get on with it do not have a nanny and 24:7 help.
I do not agree with the press and story’s they may make up and chase after her.
Maybe they should of waited to have a baby until she got use to a life as a royal.
But should of thought of the people around the country. Who are struggling.
Trams
23rd Oct 2019
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I am sorry to say it but it was all so predictable. Meghan enjoyed the chase and all the glitz and glamour of the wedding But instead of fitting in to the royal family she expected to be the centre of attention at all times..Harry was almost desperate for a family of his own having seen William settled, and though I am not sure about Meghan I am sure that Harry really loves her. Let hope it all comes good eventually as the royal family is so special to our country.
StephenA3
23rd Oct 2019
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This couple lead a life of unimaginable privilege. Let them try living on the breadline, have to chose between paying the rent or eating, see their children dressed in second hand/charity shop clothes rather than designer gear and worry about affording a week in a caravan in Skegness rather than a private jet to an exclusive private island. BUT there is no such thing as a free lunch, they have the luxury and the privilege, the platform to express their views and the ability to lecture us lesser mortals so they have to accept the scrutiny that comes with it. I have no sympathy for any of them. Just man up and get on with it.
Munsterlander
23rd Oct 2019
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Harry is a lovely chap and I like his wife as well. The media should leave them alone to get on with their good work.
nin nin
23rd Oct 2019
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Yes talk by all means if you have a problem with your mental health.. But coming on the television is not the platform to do it on. They have the money to go and get the help most haven't. And seeing another bursting into tears and telling their problems when they have such a high profile could quite easily be the last straw for another person who is suffering themselves. I suffer with childhood PTSD and when the clips came on advertising the program I felt tence and couldn't relax trying to het to sleep needless to say I didn't watch the program for that reason .
Onecott
22nd Oct 2019
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Why shouldn’t he, it’s time for them to speak out,
I don’t agree with the ‘ we pay for them , therefore they must put up with it ‘
Onecott
22nd Oct 2019
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The Mail is in the wrong , so yes he should.
JayneN2
22nd Oct 2019
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The British stiff upper lip is no longer the right way to deal with things in the modern world. This attitude leads to more mental illness. Everyone regardless of status, gender, ethnicity, sexuality, religion etc has the right to a private life and not to be hounded by the press and trolled on social media.
Harry has spoken out and done a lot to encourage others to speak out and not bottle up their feelings.
I dislike the way the tabloid newspapers report on the lives of members of the royal family and others in the public eye.
Gossip and spying on people is uncalled for and often very cruel.
Janbok
22nd Oct 2019
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Of course he is right it's supposed to be all about talking so he spoke. He always seemed more vulnerable than William.
Hazel
22nd Oct 2019
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I think Harry should take a reality check..Yes, he lost his mother at an early age, but so have countless others. I just hope he is not going to be "sympathy seeking" like she did. He needs to take a leaf from his Father's, Step-Mother's and Grandparents books, advising his Wife to do the same..Stiff upper lip!
jad
22nd Oct 2019
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The fortunate preaching to the unfortunate, they need to get a grip with reality, preaching about themselves only having 2 children to save the earth ,why have any!!!!!!!! why didn't they adopt , I always like Harry but since he married Megan he has become so whiny like a petulant child , hope they go to Canada but we will still be paying to keep them wherever they are.
KickAssLass
23rd Oct 2019
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He was speaking out before he was married to Megan
Lionel
23rd Oct 2019
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Yes he was, but do you think he really needs so public an arena as the TV to get any sort of healing for himself?
LindaT14
22nd Oct 2019
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Harry seems to have lost all his sparkle since marrying Megan. It feels like she is acting all the time. All this poor me I'm a new mom how on earth did all us ordinary mothers with no help ever manage.
Billythequiche
22nd Oct 2019
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Sorry, this is not wise for members of the Royal Family. There is an expected type of behaviour that is unique to them. The Sussex's are a likeable and well meaning couple but to if they wish to separate form the duties and responsibilities expected of them, including the media, they would need to give up all the privileges of their rank funded by the taxpayer. They must not "drive another nail into the coffin" of our Royal Family.
BeatriceS
22nd Oct 2019
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When Prince Harry married Megan I said he was so besotted by her but she was playing the part of her career they now have baby Archie to concider looking a hearing harry he’s so eaten up by different things I’m worried that’s he’s going to have a break down it’s time Megan took a step back and look at what’s happening to her husband his mum had those issues so I would just say to her if you truly love harry stop tearing him away from his family because he does need them in his life
rachy12345
22nd Oct 2019
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Harry and Megan made a huge mistake going into hiding before and after Archies birth.
They shunned the public and that was wrong.
I always liked Harry but went right off him.
If as a couple they had been more open and honest before they might not have become so unpopular.
I heard they are using new PR people now and I imagine they were behind this publicity stunt to make us feel sorry for them.
They need to embrace their followers who are not here to hurt them, but to support them if they allow it.
KickAssLass
23rd Oct 2019
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I agree to a point but you do not know how many death threats they received from far right extremists. I don't know if I would be showing my baby of if safety could not be guaranteed.
Also sometimes babies can be born covered in what looks like bruises due to very powerful contractions. Trust me you won't let them be seen or photographed for a good few days. We don't know what was going on. Let them be. They both have a lot of adjusting to do.
StephenA3
23rd Oct 2019
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why “Far right extremists” there seem to be plenty of far left extremists, climate change extremists, religious extremists, republicans, monarchists, vegans, etc, everyone is an extremist these days but of course ‘far right’ is the ultimate, unacceptable extremism isn’t it? I blame Margaret Thatcher/Tony Blair (*delete to chose your own bias)
ChristineH212
22nd Oct 2019
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It's not about a 'stiff upper lip', it's about being incredibly insensitive. When one is in a position of incredible privilege, one should select who one shared once worries with. Megan must surly recognise that she is doing a little bit more than exciting. Tell that to a homeless person having to sleep in a doorway.
Keep your worries to friends.
CaroB4
22nd Oct 2019
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Talking about it means to family, friends and maybe a therapist...not going to the Media! Going to the Media is courting publicity - something they should have learned from previous examples some years ago! They must have known it would be picked over again and again, Best to keep it low key in future....and get help privately. It's not as if they cannot afford it....
LizR49
22nd Oct 2019
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The intention of this programme was to focus on the charities they support and the excellent work Harry and Meghan do on the african continent. Instead they chose to use it as a platform to air their grievances and to gripe about how badly done to they are. In my opinion it did them no good at all. They are clearly very unhappy and discontented with their privileged and pampered lives. It was interesting that when they were featured together Meghan did all the talking for them. In my opinion you should not bare your soul in public as this makes you even more vulnerable as well as being undignified and unedifying.
CaroB4
22nd Oct 2019
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It is inappropriate to visit very sick children and their parents in hospital if you are not well enough mentally yourself. To turn it back onto your own problems rather than concentrating on theirs indicates the need to see a therapist privately, get some real help...and not take the issues to the media. To empathise effectively with others Harry needs to have one foot in the hole with them and the other on terre ferme. Otherwise he will be unable to offer real help and may in fact cause more pain by sharing his.
Meghan needs to take a step back and look at other members of the royal family who have made the transition into royalty very well...and take advice when she is offered it. She is no longer a film star...she has a different role now and needs to support her husband and accept the responsibilities of the position she married in to. We were all so happy to see Harry finding a wife he loved and having a beautiful baby boy...they need to take a look at themselves and where they are going wrong just now...they can sort it if they want to, But do it privately from now on - for their own sakes - or they will only fuel the fire and sympathy will fall away.
Christiana
22nd Oct 2019
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We've got to move forward on different issues too long have these been hidden away whatever your age talking to others helps immensely
kentrix39
22nd Oct 2019
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You make your bed and you lie in it. It is only the PC brigade that forced our Queen to accept the american. If rumours are tru and they are considering life in Canada no great loss.
Claudia68
22nd Oct 2019
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I found the programme informative particularly about the work they do for the queen’s charities as well as those they have chosen to support.
We live in a world where communication both good and bad is instantly available to an vast audience unimaginable in my youth. This availability has changed how private we are now able to be. This is shown in a small way by what happens if we try to purchase gifts on line and the information we are asked to supply. So privacy and how it’s defined in 2019 is not what it was. Before I retired I was a psychotherapist so perhaps my view of the prince and his wife’s openness is measured by this. I feel their openness was appropriate and their honesty refreshing. Our media is relentless in its pursuit of stories to satisfy the feeding frenzy of our baser instincts. Headlines sell newspapers and good news less so than scandalous ones.
MaryH81
22nd Oct 2019
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I didn't see the programme but I would always say it is a bad idea for people in the public eye to bare their souls in public. I am not particularly a Royallist but I really wish these two men William and Harry well. They were very young when they lost their beloved mother. They deserve to be happy now with their wives and families. They need to remember though that the press and television make their living by reporting news. The gutter press make it by making up news, as salacious as possible. They are not friends to celebrities and Royalty. They never will be. It is no use explaining to them how hard they are making life. They have no sympathy. They do not care. The people I blame are those who buy these so-called newspapers. William and Harry are very privileged in terms of wealth. They could have sat on their backsides and just enjoyed it or spent their time opening garden parties or attending flower shows but they have chosen to do other things to try to help people. There will always be people who will try to knock them for this. They should ignore them. That won't be easy but it needs to be done. They need to think of the silent majority who still wish them well.
Paula 30
22nd Oct 2019
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I understand depression having suffered it ,and it’s good to talk to the RIGHT people therapists etc ,I do feel that these days normal worries are too quickly labelled “anxiety and depression “30/40 yr olds were brought up at school that “no one fails “ when they get into the real world and realise that failure is possible they fall part sadly a snowflake generation
MaryM836
22nd Oct 2019
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I feel warm to Harry and have enjoyed watching him grow into a fine, young man. His life has now changed course but hopefully he won't lose his fun loving ways. If he feels down, he should make himself look at the atrocities in Syria and think ' aren't I lucky !!'
ArchieUK
22nd Oct 2019
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Harry and that person he married have sought publicity right from the begining now they have got it, give up whinging.
GillS24
22nd Oct 2019
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Yes he and his wife are being hounded by the British press for the sale of news papers it’s wrong he’s suffered enough as a young man growing up in the media he didn’t ask to be born into the Royal family And the only way he could get his point across is by bearing his soul on TV how else is anyone going to listen to his plea and it is just that a PLEA Stop the Hounding of the press these are still human beings with emotional feelings
Moonbeam1
22nd Oct 2019
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It baffles me why they have not had more guidance and help. Clearly the right thing to do is to keep a low profile except when out on official business and to allow enough glimpses of the family to keep people quiet. Harry obviously has many pent up mental issues to face and being married and supportive to such a vulnerable man is never easy. They should lie low and stay off social media and the tabloids and online magazines should lay off.
LynneL51
21st Oct 2019
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He is so like his mother, and that is something to be proud of. Why shouldn't he feel able to speak from the heart? He's just a person - albeit a very fortunate one but he tries to use his status in a positive way. Putting his head down and keeping a low profile wont change anything. I also feel if he and Meagan need time out of the spotlight then they should take it.
Leslyjane
21st Oct 2019
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I thought the documentary was excellent, and showed the couple as real, and very human. I don't see why they should keep a stiff upper lip just because they have the misfortune to be Royal. I didn't think either of them were 'whinging', just talking honestly about their feelings and aspirations, and determination to carry on with their humanitarian and very worthwhile work. My admiration for both of them increased enormously, and I found it such a refreshing change from the Royal 'touch me not' attitude of older Royals.
Dudleysetter
21st Oct 2019
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They both need to get a grip she’s acting like a spoilt celebrity and he’s pandering to her well used to cameras being an actress think she’s quite false all this touchy feely all the time to much
wellie
21st Oct 2019
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I think she has lost the respect and affection of the British public. I really liked her at first, but in my opinion she is the cause of the rift between the brothers. They were very close until she joined the family. William and Kate always get it right, thank goodness.
Ian123
21st Oct 2019
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He is entitled to whinge, having taken for granted his life of luxury and riches provided by the masses.
Get a life man.
Out of the lot of them I thought that he would mature into a person more of us could connect with.
Looks like I was wrong, again.
MargaretJ876
21st Oct 2019
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I cannot understand why Duke and Duchess of Sussex are incurring so much press attention when other members, such as Duke and Duchess of Wessex, Princess Anne and various others are not seen from one year to another !? Why don't the press just leave them alone. It looks bad for the country
LizB213
21st Oct 2019
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Anything the Sussexes have to face is nothing compared to the everyday horrors facing these young people in Africa - they chose the wrong venue for sympathy! I can empathise with his pain but at some point he has to face up and move on with his life.

Did she really think we were stupid enough to believe that she hadn't read/seen/heard about life as a member of the British monarchy?

If they feel they can't thrive and be happy in the UK, then maybe they need to give up all the 'benefits' that come with the Royal lifestyle and move to somewhere they can work and live in peace.
Vidadavies
21st Oct 2019
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Born into great wealth and privilege. If the Prince and his wife are unable to conform as members of the Taxpayer Funded Royal Family then they are entitled to abscond their duties and go out and live in the great outside world, funding withdrawn of course! People depending on food banks, homeless people, these are those entitled to whinge and moan their lot!!
nin nin
21st Oct 2019
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I feel the cracks are beginning to show. And Meghan is pulling the strings in the relationship. Causing stress on Harry's health. So they transfer it on to the media. What he has decided to sue for was in 2000 nothing recent. Also if she wants her privacy why go pose on Hello magazine only a week ago. She's doing the same as the rest of her family have done over the last 2 years these interviews and there's nothing Royal about washing your dirty laundry in public.
jeanmark
21st Oct 2019
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Whilst supporting him having the courage to bare his soul in public, I feel much of the current problems are exacerbated by them both trying to avoid the press. If they hit them head on and stood their ground the press would get bored and give up harassing them. Both need to learn from his brother and sister-in-law to see what works well.
JackieB63
21st Oct 2019
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They should stop whining, voicing their problems in the public area then regretting when not pitied. They lack integrity and class.
I question the longevity of their union as Harry was not a whining brat before he married a celebrity.
They would benefit from using William and Kate as exemplars.
callmebeth
21st Oct 2019
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Why should he not say what is bothering him? I think this will go a long way to help the men out there who find it hard to open up and share their feelings. This is why there is such a high suicide rate among young men. The lad is obviously still suffering from the trauma of losing his mum at such a young age. He is a new husband and new father. This is daunting enough without the limelight being on them. I am not a royalist in any sense of the word but I am a humanist.
RosemaryP5
21st Oct 2019
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Of course Harry suffered the loss of his Mother at 12 years of age and we all sympathise with him and William , it was a terrible thing for the young princes to go through. However whereas William has reacted in a calm and dignified way despite going through the same as Harry which doesnt mean he feels his loss any less but his whole attitude has no doubt been because of his beautiful wife and the relationship he has with her family. They have never put a foot wrong, Harry is still angry and needs to stop whining about " poor me ". Unfortunately his wife Megan it seems has only encouraged this attitude by her own attitude to the press and her own family . They have only themselves to blame if they feel hounded by the press.
AngelaH61
21st Oct 2019
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I am sure most of the people here did not lose parents when they were children, I was and just had to get on with live I am now 71 and in therapy ,William was older and had another family to talk too and go to away from the lime light.
Polwal
21st Oct 2019
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He is only human after all.
With all this "keep talking".."we need to talk " to combat mental illness....he's done this and now is being judged for it.
Edgeley
21st Oct 2019
4
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The point of life for a huge number of the population is to survive. Lucky the people who can thrive as well.
It seems to me that Harry and Megan survive, thrive and enjoy a wonderfully privileged life. I think they thought they could change the world and be adored for it. Unfortunately that has not happened and their egos have been badly bruised.
Jan1959
21st Oct 2019
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I think given roles as figureheads of the heads together campaign they both did exactly the right thing. It takes guts to expose your feelings and emotions to people you are close to let alone the general public so they are setting excellent examples.
callmebeth
21st Oct 2019
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Orangina
21st Oct 2019
5
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I feel the British tabloids are out of control and that these two warm hearted, kind people are both getting close to nervous breakdown. Right or wrong, they are at the end of their tether and I really feel for them. Why should we expect them to be superhuman?
Nannypink
21st Oct 2019
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I agree, our press and media companies also need to stop twisting comments made, for example in the documentary last night Prince Harry never used the word rift in relation to him and his brother.....
SBW
21st Oct 2019
2
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Harry needs to man up and get a grip. The old saying "if you cant stand the heat stay out of the kitchen" seems apt.
I predict this marriage will fail.
Jan1959
21st Oct 2019
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SBW
21st Oct 2019
1
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callmebeth
21st Oct 2019
5
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"Man up and get a grip" It is exactly this type of comment that stops young men opening up to their feelings and getting help. It is also one of the reasons that the suicide rate among young men it so high.
Wilf
21st Oct 2019
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They are a lovely young couple and Harry has done a huge amount of good especially with the Invictus Games which has helped untold injured service men and women and their families. The press should leave them alone and they should probably just keep themselves private for a time.
Soulgirluk2
21st Oct 2019
1
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I have little time for this couple. If they can’t stand the heat get out of the kitchen. This should mean no money from the state and give back the money given to renovate their house. How would they cope like the rest of us
Bluebell2
21st Oct 2019
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They don't receive any money from the state, their public, private and charitable activities are funded by the private income from the Duchy of Cornwall, the taxpayers do not contribute to them in any way.
The money to renovate Frogmore Cottage (which is not 'their' house as it does not belong to them, they rent it from the Crown Estate) was already earmarked in the rolling programme of maintenance that the Crown Estate are obliged to make on all their historic properties. It would have been spent whether Harry and Meghan moved in or not.
Envy should not stop compassion.
PaulineJ13
21st Oct 2019
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I watched them and what came across to me, is Harry was scared of her, she seemed to do all the talking , it looks like a case from her shut up and put up, how she could take the baby all the way to Africa, but Scotland was too far, and the African people get a proper look at him, before the people who keep him beggars believe, she needs to show she loves Harry, it is looking like all she wanted was to become a princess, sorry never going to happen, you are just a minor royal Magen deal with it
rachy12345
22nd Oct 2019
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Very true. I agree
ElisabethR
21st Oct 2019
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They should not have done this. Of course the media is interested in them. If they truly feel like this they can slide off into private life. They do have that option.
Have really lost interest in them.
Kate and William had a tough shedual in Pakistan.....I wonder if they will feel the need to come and whinge about it?
GailS47
21st Oct 2019
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Both could of done more harm than good. If they dont want publicity and they dont get it in US they could always move there, I'm sure that would suite her
GillC12
21st Oct 2019
8
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Prince Harry has changed so much since meeting his wife. The old happy chappie is no more.
Sad to see he and his brother are at times on different paths. None of which lead to happiness.
rachy12345
22nd Oct 2019
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I agree. He seems so different since his marriage
LynetteH3
21st Oct 2019
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I totally empathise. However, EQ is about managing ones own emotional responses. Intrusion is a form of pressure and this pressure can be a type of bullying- feed the bully by reacting and provide the vicoious circle which can destroy self esteem. If you know in your gut that you are OK, your motives are true and altruistic then you don’t need anyone’s approval. Head up and persevere with good deeds and championing those less fortunate.
skippysdad
21st Oct 2019
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but the Queen did refer to her horrible year.
PatF45
21st Oct 2019
10
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I believe that Megan has changed Harry so much and not for the better. He seems to have lost his backbone she is breaking him away from his family.
rachy12345
22nd Oct 2019
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Reynard
21st Oct 2019
1
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Penny Junor has done what every other journalist wants to do get her name spread round the world this is not journalism just waffling for the sake of waffle she said her self in “in the past” the other royals kept their head down but then it was unacceptable for them to speak their minds but Harry & Meghan are of a generation who speak openly about how they feel & so they should
Nifty-fifty
21st Oct 2019
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Like mother like son. Doesn’t always go well. Meghan is a mature woman and I’m sure she knew what she was getting herself into. I’d advise them not to go onto social media or read certain newspapers. What these tabloids and media people say or perceive is not often accurate but reported to try to get a response. Harry and Meghan have unfortunately fallen into that trap. They are a lovely couple, such a pity they can’t act with a bit of dignity.
Marley444
21st Oct 2019
6
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I refuse to read the tabloids! Unfortunately, by trying to explain how they feel in this programme, they have both walked into the media’s hands. Harry and Meghan have given the media what they feed on. The Queen’s mantra of ‘never complain, never explain’, is right. The couple are on a hiding to nowhere with this interview- they can’t win. My opinion is - leave them alone, Harry has a totally different path to that of William. William is being groomed to be a future king. Harry is not. He’s on the sidelines. He should focus on the Invictus games and his passion of helping Africa. Both of them should totally ignore the media and not give them any further fuel. I wouldn't blame them if they choose to leave the UK and settle elsewhere and get on with their family life.
PaulineJ13
21st Oct 2019
5
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Harry and Megan have that choice, if they are not happy with their lives here, just go and live in the states, they will not do that because they would have to work for a living, i think she knew what she was letting herself in for, but she is an actress and thought she would be able to change the script, she has tried a few times to do it. and it do's not work like that .
Bluebell2
21st Oct 2019
2
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It must be very difficult to ignore the constant threats of death and violence towards Harry (4 people jailed already), Meghan and even Archie. The public have no idea of the number, style and credibility of threats made, but doubtless the DDoS must be made aware of them.
In the same vein, they must be informed when the media are acting unlawfully, e.g. the Mail on Sunday publishing a very private letter, so that they can decide what course of action to take.
I'm quite sure they avoid reading as much as possible, Meghan has referred to it as noise that she avoids, but there are limits.
Nannypink
21st Oct 2019
9
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I feel really sorry for Prince Harry but this is not the way, he obviously needs more counselling.
It seems he has inherited his mother’s mental health issues. Both Princes have Diana’s caring, empathetic side but Harry seems to have a more concerning trait.....I hope he gets the help he needs
moominmomma
21st Oct 2019
2
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Very much agree.. he really is in a bad place & one wonders if he is displacing his feelings on to the press rather than admit that his marriage is’nt working? I felt it was Megan who was whingeing. A new mother, yes. But she must have so much support with nanny’s etc. Or is it that the feelings between them, hope fully love, are opening Harry’s wounds, ready to be healed?
But I feel for him, a redhead, very sensitive & empathetic, like his mother.
GillC84
21st Oct 2019
9
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Meghan has been a disaster both for Harry and for British Royalty. She knew what she was taking on when she married Harry but I think she thought she would change things. It is clear that she has no real conception of what maintaining "a stiff upper lip" really entails and neither has she recognised how the Royal Family conducts itself. Harry has changed beyond all recognition since being with Meghan and now there is a rift between the two brothers. I am sure the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge find things equally as restrictive but both are fully committed to their role within the Royal Family and carry out their duties with dignity and real respect for what the Royal Family represents. Harry and Meghan would do well to follow their example instead of wandering around, hand in hand, like some lovesick teenagers.
JackieC58
21st Oct 2019
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They are very lucky with their priviliged life no rent or council tax to worry about or mundane bills for living like the rest of us. They know in the life of being a Royal that they should expect news papers and cameras to be part of their life so should accept all that goes with this very priviliged life. Ordinary people like myself who have worries in life are not allowed to complain about what is thrown at us, we have to cope the best that we can. !!!
Bluebell2
21st Oct 2019
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I think you will find that the movement in mental health, promoted by both Harry and William, is that everyone, including 'ordinary people' like you CAN and SHOULD talk about their worries and feelings.
Their wealth does not control hormones, illnesses or emotions, envy should not preclude compassion.
SusanneJ5
21st Oct 2019
6
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Harry had a good relationship with William and Kate before Megham came on the scene. She is trying to change him and the Royal Family and it is not working. They should get on with their lives and stop whingeing. I'm sure it will end in tears.

Grow a pair Harry.
LesleyH17
21st Oct 2019
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I am sick of hearing how hard it is for them. Try having to work 40 plus hours on minimum wage with a family to look after. No civil list, private jets nannies and fancy trips when the weather is bad here. Get over yourselves
MrsPat
21st Oct 2019
6
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I love Prince Harry and Megan and they come across as a nice couple just trying to do the right thing. For some strange reason a portion of the British Media seem to have it in for them or maybe its just that they sell stories and newspapers and the more drivel is spoken about them the more newspapers are sold. However I have read a lot about Harry and William over the years and they are both fantastic young chaps, goodhearted and do their bit for the UK. I think Harry should try and ignore the UK media but its difficult as all the causes he leads need publicity and therefore he is in a difficult situation. I just wish the press could be a lot more positive.

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