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My husband died suddenly last year with no warning, aged 65. We had made wills so I knew he wanted to be buried, but that`s all I knew, he didn`t like talking about death. So probate wasn`t a problem. I wrote his eulogy and arranged the funeral with my daughters help. I`ve now told my daughter most of my wishes so that when my time comes I hope things will be easier for her to cope. So talking about your wishes is important,

I too think she looks like the Queen. Beautiful child.

I too worked in retail over the years and it was a pleasure to assist people and have a chat with them whilst serving. We should not loose this human contact it is important. It teaches small children manners and politeness.

Good doctors would never vaccinate a sick child. My granddaughter had a slight cold and couldn`t have her jab until she was better.

Automation may be convenient for some but not for all. I too like to speak to someone whilst paying for my purchases, whether at a supermarket or corner shop. It`s the personal touch and we should never loose that. With more job losses there will be more people turning to benefits and food banks. This country is going to the dogs.

Hi Amycakes I`m so glad you`ve found an outside interest for yourself. The Group you have joined sounds wonderful. I`ve been staying with my daughter, babysitting but when they move house next month I will be back home. There are lots of things I want to change in my house which will keep me occupied but I will also try and make time most days to get out and about. I too considered moving nearer my daughter but I have so much family around me that I`m staying put. Feeling a lot better too, still get a few bad nights though but learning to control them and remember happier times. Good luck to you too.

If all children had been vaccinated there would not be a measles epidemic. I think one of the main reasons people are not having their children vaccinated today is the cruel way the jabs are being administered. They give two at a time, one in each leg and then the last time my granddaughter had hers at one year old she was going to be given four, which meant two in each leg at the same appointment. My daughter refused this and made two appointments for these four injections. It is traumatic for the child and the parent watching this. If the babies could have their injections as before one at a time as years ago I`m sure many more parents would comply.

I have an artificial tree which comes out every year. It is boxed but now I`m on my own I will be replacing it with a smaller one, maybe a fibre optic one and my old one will be passed on to a charity shop for someone else to use along with the baubles and tinsel too. We need real trees to help against global warming so please let`s leave them alone.

I have never tried hotter shoes but as I`m getting older I find one or two, more expensive pairs of comfortable shoes will last me a couple of years. I would love to win a pair of these, so fingers crossed I might. Thanks.

I love a tasty strong cheese and I love hot cross buns so this sounds lovely. I would definitely try it. Just hope other Supermarkets sell it as I don`t shop at Waitrose.

I love wine so as long as it`s in a nice glass and chilled I`m okay thanks.Oh I don`t buy red but wouldn`t refuse a glass either. ha ha

I love chocolate and I love cheese, but the very thought of an easter egg made of cheese makes me want to gag. I will not be buying one of these.

I use contactless cards, pay online for items and use internet banking but I still like to have cash in my purse too. Paying with cash makes you value everything you buy more. Also how can we teach children the value of money with a plastic card. No I say we shouldn`t accept a cashless society in the future, I certainly won`t.

The next time you have hiccups try closing your mouth and just breathing in and out through your nose calmly. It works for me.

I am called Nanny by my three youngest grandchildren and now Nan by my eldest who`s 20. I was 42 when he was born so didn`t want to called Granny it sounded so old at the time ha ha.

Personally I use the internet daily for any information I need and to keep in touch with friends but then I have a son a daughter who encouraged me and showed me how to do this. I now bank on line too which I vowed once I`d never do. My late husband on the other hand hated it and would never use it he preferred to visit a bank and speak to someone face to face. He couldn`t even text bless him. I think every town should have a bank or post office accessible for the elderly to use though, why should this older generation be forgotten.

What a wonderful way to see wild life in their natural habitat I would love to win this prize. All my fingers and toes are crossed. Thank you

7/8 pleased with this result

i remember my auntie had Izal we had a square holder on the wall with a square tissue pack of toilet paper can`t remember the name sorry. Outside toilets. and toasting forks for toast in front of open fire. Ice inside bedroom windows in winter. Loads of heavy blankets, no duvets when I was young. Po under bed .Great playing outside all the time, never wanted to come in for supper. Shop in almost every street and village shops sold everything you needed too. Happy days in the sixties.

It will be nice to compare medium readings I am not sure yet when I am going but will post on here what I was told. Here`s hoping we both get true messages. All the best. xx

Hi everyone if you type the word Grieving in the forum box you will find you are not alone. xx

Hi Northern What a coincidence I am going to see a medium later on this year with my sister too. We were going in January but the snow stopped us, I did wonder if it was a sign but we thought about it and decided we wanted to go and find out one way or the other. I do believe life goes on but would like to be told something only my husband could tell me.I`ll post on here when I`ve been will you too? xx

I too just take things one day at a time and I feel my husbands spirit with me too. Sometimes I even see his sleeping form in the bed next to me in the darkness, this comforts me a bit. I`m sure he is everywhere as he loved all his family. Even my sister has heard his voice which woke her up. So you talk to your mum I`m sure she can hear you. I was wondering if anyone here has been to a medium.

Thank you both for your good advise I will try that notebook by the bed..I talk about my husband all the time too, he will never truly be gone from my mind. I still think he`s out fishing although I know he`s not coming home. This helps me get through each day, also I feel when I talk to his photo he gives me advise on any problems I have. Strange isn`t it? I hope you all get through the sadness too.

Hi Northern I`m sorry for your loss too. Why is life so cruel? I thought life got easier the older you got but when something like this happens you feel out of control. My family are amazing but the feeling of loneliness even in a crowded room is overwhelming sometimes. I have been thinking of writing things down but will I be dredging it all up again, I don`t know?

Hi I too know exactly how you are feeling I lost my husband suddenly last March at the age of 65. We had just retired to Devon two years before and now I`m back in Wales close to my family. This first year has been the hardest and loneliest of my life. I`ve cried more in one year than my whole life put together I`m sure. This too was not how I`d pictured our life would pan out. Thought we`d have many more happy years together not just 42. I`m wondering if this pain will ever go away. Family and friends help but when you turn off the light at night just try and remember the good times you had together and smile through those tears.

Beautiful, peaceful shot

So cute

Perfect pic

I bought my camera a couple of years ago and haven`t really used it much can some one please explain what the terms RAW and jpeg mean Also if I split a photo into three are we talking about top to bottom or side to side? Any tips would be appreciated thanks,

I never automatically renew any insurance policy I always shop around on comparison sites first whether it`s for car ins. breakdown or gas and electricity. I usually get a much cheaper quote offering more cover too.

I saw the last series of cold feet, never watched it before but really enjoyed it and now I`m enjoying this series too. The intertwined stories of the families are very good and the way they all support each other is amazing.

I like them but don`t tend to buy them often. Always have them at Christmas though, strange that.

Still complete waste of taxpayers money when councils all over the country are making drastic cuts yours are erecting a statue!

Thatcher brought in cheaper coal from europe this ruined our miners. The mountains of Wales still hold tonnes of coal. The Tower colliery proved this when it reopened. You cannot beat a coal fired central heating system. Gas maybe be cleaner but coal is warm all day.

You can have her and keep her up there and I`m not a vandal but I hope she`ll now get what she deserves. I am from Wales and she destroyed our mining communities and left thousands of families to struggle with no jobs to turn to. She was a British Hitler he didn`t give a Damm either .Conservatives only look after the rich.

It`s funny but I start my journey very calm and considerate to other drivers but after a mile or so someone comes along and tailgates me or thinks if I stop to let someone through I must want to stay there for ever and let everyone through, forcing me to push through and make them pull in.. I hate becoming like them but unfortunately that`s the way things have become. SELF SELF SELF and don`t let me get started on b.....y not indicating

People drive much too fast nowadays they do not keep to the speed limits. I am getting to the stage where I sometimes have to force myself to drive. Think I`ll move nearer a bus route soon.

Since losing my husband unexpectedly last year I have literally done all you`ve said and taken one day at a time. By doing things my way and learning to say "please can you help me" or "no thanks I`m not ready to join couples for dinner yet" I am slowly coming to terms with this strange lifestyle. Your poem is so apt, thanks.

Has the world gone mad or is it just another crazy thing dreamt up by someone with nothing else better to do. Come on, it`s time to get a grip and solve more important issues in life that affect us all! What are these so called political people getting paid for. Oh yes and the gingerbread MAN is brown shall we now make him black or white?