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17th May 2023ViewDate:
17th Apr 2023missjackiel commented on:
Anybody out there finding themselves on their ownHi Carol, thank you I will have a look into it. Ive also joined a group on FB called Single Ladies Travelling Solo which has opened up to a lot of ladies from the uK wanting to travel. So lots of opportunities there too. Ill certainly update you all ,let you know if I manage to travel anywhere.. I think after travelling to Spain a couple of years ago ..alone... it wasnt a pleasant experience, Some people do not want to speak to a lady alone... weird.. maybe it was just the time and the place,,, so Im ready to give it another go.xViewDate:
14th Apr 2023missjackiel commented on:
Looking or frienshipThats all you can do, and gradually it will expand. The little things you mention will in time make you smile. Being on your own is a difficult transition, all the little chats and remarks that you would normally make and the shared interests make it dificult to experience. But you will get there- wherever that is! Its diiffuclt to keep biusy and fill time depending on what you like to do and whats around you. There is a little club nearby that has some activities/ excercises and I think I might volunteer in a charity shop if they need support just to keep me busy. Have you anything like that around you? Speak soon Jackie xxViewDate:
12th Apr 2023missjackiel commented on:
Anybody out there finding themselves on their ownHi everyone, after reading several posts its difficult to reply and to get a 'chat' going so everyone can join in. Although Im probably doing it wrong- wouldnt be the first time lol. Im from Holland On Sea which is in Essex, a lovely seaside time, really busy in the summer as you can imagine but beautiful in the winter, lovely walks along the beach. A smallish town but near enough to the bigger cities like Colchester and a bit futher London. Where's everyone else from? Being a widower is difficult at times, so many stories on here how people have been tricked and scammed into losing money just because we want some companionship and friendships! So unfair .Im trying to join some solo travel groups which have an independent operator and organiser- probably a bit more expensuve but I think it saves time and trouble organsiing trips and sites to see... anyway if anyone has any groups, web links or anything already could you let me know please? Are there any places to visit that is worth seeing, any recommendations from others? I really want to go to Singapore, heard some many amazing things about it- anyone been? Im sure though that in the UK there are great places to visit. I need to investigate. Anyway, I hope this post gets some responses, just so we can build a thread about holidays, hobbies anything really,, just be nice to read and learn new things from different people from all over the place x JackieViewDate:
9th Apr 2023missjackiel commented on:
Looking or frienshipHello Supersabre, Im sorry youre facing this long road,,, just reach out when you feel you can, Being on here is a good start, I fund I could sa=y things that im unable to say to family as I was too busy helping them with their grief. Where abouts are you from? Here if you need a chat xxViewDate:
5th Apr 2023missjackiel commented on:
Looking or frienshipHi, it is indeed a lonely long road, and as someone has mentioned people/ family do not understand how it feels as much as they try to. I found that my childrens grief took over as I supported them through but as for me I had to deal with it myself. Fortunately a couple of very close collegues helped me but mostly I had to cope... and you do.. just takes a long, long time. Just one day at a time and then you get through it and slowly you begin to smile at the beautiful memories, at a song on the radio, or at a robin singing in the garden then the tears come but you cope. Eventually you will smile.. just as they would want you too. Now the sun is on its way and more jobs to do...but at least its a bit warmer.. the water problems sounds horrendous for people and for such a long time, hopefully all sorted on at least nearly complete... Do you enjoy reading? Ive started using Borrow Box an app linked to the Libraries which has amazing choices. saves me searching for my glasses and finding space for yet more books. Usually enjoy listening whilst ironing or painting. There appears to be some amazing classes on here-well looks like it- has anyone tried them? The Goldster section? I must admit there seems to be a lot on here but I find it a difficult site to navigate, Ive replied to comments only to see they're 5 years old lol! Easter- whats the plan? My granchildren want an egg hunt.. should be fun, lets hope the weather holds out. Unusually I have a little one who doesn't like chocolate- any type- yes you heard no chocolate! So we buy the little plastic eggs and fill them with other bits... Really strangely I find myself saying things that my mum used to say... "the eggs are not as nice or as chocolately as they were when I was a child". Im sure all the sweets/ chocolates used to be inside the eggs and Im sure the chocolate was a better quality but maybe as we didn't have everything 'on tap' and really enjoyed our 'treats' they tasted better who knows? Now I know im getting old... where has the time gone? Where did you grow up? Have you always lived in the same area? I'm from London originally.. I loved it, lived in flats ( not so nice now) but used to play out until all hours, with the other kids playing so many games... Runouts, chainnee ( we called it) Bulldog,, so much fun... I can remember the long holidays, using the Red Bus Rover which was only about 10p .we could go on any red bus all day and we did! Gosh so worrying now what we got up to, think Id be worried sick if my grand kids did that although to be fair Im not sure if they have the same street cred and sense if you know what I mean? Yes, definitely getting old,,, but lots of lovely memories.... How about you? What do you remember from your childhood? Sorry for the long ramble. Jackie xViewDate:
3rd Apr 2023missjackiel commented on:
Looking or frienshipHi Freeno21, im here if you ned to chat, im now 6 years bereaved and think I can feel your pain.. if you still need an ear then lets chat. Ive recently taken early retirement so have much moe time.. and finding ways to fill my days Jackie xViewDate:
27th Mar 2023missjackiel commented on:
Anybody out there finding themselves on their ownHi Flower 41, thank you for your message, Im sorry ive been a bit delayed in replying, I do find this site hard to navigate- there are so many wondeful things on her but really difficult to wade through- I know many people feel the same which is a shame as theres so much on here. ( take note admin!!!) So this is my last few days..... at work... really enotional and in some ways I cannot wait for it to be over!! In others its so sad a s a few people I will really miss, only a handful to be fair.. I too am hoping to be in the garden- not my strongest point but im willing to learn. Maybe you can give me a list of jobs that need doing each month or suggestions anyhow! Also the Goldster courses are offering £1 for 3 months which seems amazing - do you take part in any? So I will be busy and then feel like a cruise or holiday... so many options and after being in education foir my whole career- a holiday in term time-wow cheaper and more choice ... so seems like a lot to do....how busy will I be lol ,but for now I need to get through these last 4 days........ speak soon Jackie xxViewDate:
9th Mar 2023missjackiel commented on:
Anybody out there finding themselves on their ownHi, I too am widowed, Im 58 and its been incredibly tough,,,still is sometimes. It has been incredibly hard to find the way forward and nobody can help ... much as they try...say the kind words...but its up to you to deal with and you do eventually... but its still there. Im about to retire soon and thats another big step but im determined to continue on and see the world for what it is,, join some clubs and start being more social with like minded people. I think ive used my work style and people there to take over my life and now its time ( never too late right?) to enjoy my time. Never thpught id be widowed at 50 and alone......... I did have 30 wonderful years though.. Im ready to start enjoying life ..alone.... Im accustomed to my independence but would like a friend..xViewDate:
18th Dec 2022missjackiel commented on:
Win a Pressure King Pro (4.8L) – 14-in-1 Digital Pressure Cooker by Drew&ColeThis amazing piece of tec would be perfect for me, at work all day and living alone . it would help prepare all my food, really cheaply too so it would be ready when I come home late. The family would enjoy it too when they come round at weekends, so we can spend more time socialising kniwingthat the food will be tasty with minimal work ! Great Stuff.ViewDate:
21st Aug 2022missjackiel commented on:
GreetingsH. Im sorry i think I missed your reply originally, I do fine this site difficult to navigate sometimes. i enjpy reading, crime, thrillers mostly and im inot spiritual things, your gost stries sound interesting- were you scared? Ive been to spiritual readings and had messages that I believe are true too much detail that couldnt have been known. I also enjoy walking , as i live by the seafront its easy to wallk and forget how far you go- only realising when you turn back and think- oh my god how dd i get this far? I have 3 grandsons which keep me busy 2 of them into football and wrestling, 1 has autism and is just finding his way, he's doing fine but can be quite challenging as he is only 4. I have experinece with ASD children so it helps. Its been a long road since my husbn=band died and as a family we have been through the wars as they say , but weve managed and have just turned the corner. I enjoy travelling abroad and am off to spain tomorrow do you like travelling?ViewDate:
6th Aug 2022missjackiel commented on:
New Member saying hello - [DELETED_MEMBER]Hi Peter, I think your wise words have made it easier to think about retiring- one door opens.... basically its up to me to organise my life there are people to meet, things to do, new places to see and visit, Mt=y hubbie was 69 when he passed he was older than me when we met but always was the life of the party no one thoought he was the age he was, the difference in ages 17 years was never an issue. I had an amzing dog too she was 12 when she passed just 6 months after david- i think she didnt get over losing him too. The NHS have done some amazing things and the pressures of coping with everything going on -certainly outweighs the mistakes made however becuase any mistakes are so devastating its hard to see past them... JViewDate:
4th Aug 2022missjackiel commented on:
Win a VibroLegs Foot and Leg MassagerThis would be perfect as I have problems with my feet and legs- restless legs is awfulxViewDate:
4th Aug 2022missjackiel commented on:
Looking for people to chat withHi CharliJ, Snap!! Im also a widow and 58 getting ready to retire mainly to do somethingelse for myself but what? Campsite sounds great fun lots to do I expect but the chance to meet lots of new people. I bet it was difficylt during Covid and hopefuly things have boomed since. I workin education and its been tough but I love it its my calling and I will vcertainly miss the kids but not the politics that go on behind the scenes anyway im up for a chat JackieViewDate:
4th Aug 2022missjackiel commented on:
Your experience of retirementHi Muzzy, I wondered how you have been getting on since retiring? Im due to retire soon and am thinkning the same sort of thoughts- how to fill my once very busy days or should i wait whcih is an option its really unsettling. Anyway be nice to hear how youve been doing JackieViewDate:
4th Aug 2022missjackiel commented on:
Finding life difficultHi JCB, I hear you. Im a widow too and although still working im due to retire soon and wonder how to fill my days. Its so difficult spending your life with someone and then be alone trying to navigate life especially the way things have been the last 2 years or so. Sometime we are forgotten as someone other than mum, dad, wife etc and now is the time to find that person again- so hard.. Great that you keep writing, poetry sounds good- do you enjoy walking or holidays? be nice to chat JackieViewDate:
3rd Aug 2022missjackiel commented on:
New Member saying hello - [DELETED_MEMBER]I’ve been in education for 25 years and will miss it dreadfully, however I need to start doing things for me. I work fairly long hours and justify not doing anything socially because of that. I need to have time to ensure I go out to meet others, exercise coffees visit etc.. My Hubbie David had a bad cough, he also had a small accident of falling off a ladder from the attic not far but he hurt his shoulder.so as the shoulder pain continued he had X-rays but all clear. Then after a year he still coughing he had another scan and was told he had stage 4 lung cancer and although he was compatible for a immunotherapy trial he wasn’t well enough. He was admitted with chest infection but the X-ray dept at Colchester hospital laid him flat to have X-ray even though his records stated not to lie flat and he died because of it! So it was quicker than anticipated and circumstances hid the real cause behind his shoulder pain. So vivid even today 5 years later. David was a public an and a London cabbie, full of life, could talk for England and an extremely happy smiley person. We loved going to Spain, bought a retirement apartment but I sold it last year as it’s too painful to visit alone. It’s difficult to go out alone, easier to stay home. What breed of dog do you have? I love dogs, we had a beautiful westie had her for 12 years amazing dog. I live on the coast so walking dogs is lovely JackieViewDate:
3rd Aug 2022missjackiel commented on:
New Member saying hello - [DELETED_MEMBER]Hi Peter, dementia is awful- it takes over people and is soo difficult to watch. My Mother in Law suffered as i looked after her when my hubby passed. She couldnt understand why he wasnt there which was awful for us both in different ways, I here what you say, my family are close but they have their own family lives and having a companion for many years = its difficult when for some reason it changes. Do you manage to get out for walks? What do you like to read watch? JackieViewDate:
1st Aug 2022missjackiel commented on:
New Member saying hello - [DELETED_MEMBER]Hello, I’m 57 and work in education, getting ready to retire or cut down. I too live alone, my wonderful haul by passed 5 years ago we had 35 great years together and I miss him everyday. I have children who live locally but they have their own lives. It’s incredibly lonely at times. I also enjoy reading,, walking watching ghost adventures. I live in Essex and it would be nice to chat JackieViewDate:
27th Jul 2022missjackiel commented on:
GreetingsHi Fluffy, I’m a widower of 5 years seems like yesterday but hey ho we had 35 great years.I’m still working in education thinking about retiring soonish, trying to fill the hours as I’m a terrible sleeper. I have children and grandchildren but it’s still a lot of alone time. I enjoy reading, watching ghost programs as I’m quite spiritual ( each to their own I think) and walking. How about you?ViewDate:
25th Jul 2022missjackiel commented on:
Just joined so I'm introducing myself.Hi just seen your post, Im new here and still trying to navigate my way around. Too late for Thailand but im in Holland on Sea not far away so we could chat for a while . Im still working and will retire at Christmas and hope to go to Gracelands and up or down the Mississippi. Do you travel a lot? I need to fill the time I will have lolViewDate:
24th Jul 2022missjackiel commented on:
Just joined so I'm introducing myself.Hi Sally, just seen your post, Im new here and still trying to navigate my way around. Too late for Thailand but im in Holland on Sea not far away so we could chat for a while . Im still working and will retire at Christmas and hope to go to Gracelands and up or down the Mississippi. Do you travel a lot? I need to fill the time I will have lolViewDate:
24th Jul 2022missjackiel commented on:
Just joined so I'm introducing myself.HI Celtwitch- great name by the way,Im in a similar situation with retirement looming. I have famiy but they have their own ways ( im useful for babysitting!)and being on your own has its drawbacks. I love spinning classes but have struggled with back pain so its a no no from doctors so i just walk or swim if i get time, I have been lucky enough to have a wonderful career in education and that has been my passion, hard to stop but its getting too much and time for the younger generation to fly with it.. Its difficult when youre on your own, my hubby passed away from Lung cancer 5 years ago and that was painful to watch we had a great life together for 35 years so im lucky in that respect.ViewDate:
22nd Jul 2022missjackiel commented on:
GreetingsHi everyone, this seems like a nice friendly place to be, Im Jackie and happy to talk xViewDate:
22nd Jul 2022missjackiel commented on:
Living Alone - [DELETED_MEMBER]Thankyou for the welcome, its tricky to navigate but think im understanding it- amazing ! Thanks xViewDate:
21st Jul 2022missjackiel commented on:
Living Alone - [DELETED_MEMBER]Hi Jeff, its quite lonely living completely on your own. Ive family which takes up some of my time but they have their own lives and I dont like to intrude too much. Invariably I find myself just sitting reading watching ghost adventures and passing the time. Im such a bad sleeper the nights seem endless. Fortunately, Im still working but would like to retire soon ish but then Im thinking its even more time alone!! I odnt hve many friends in the area I live, they've moved on and sadly as Im a widwer so not all of them want me around and Ive neglected them to be fair, coping with my own emotions I suppose. I had a lovely dog- a westie- sadly she passed away 4 years ago age 12 she was amazing. The best companion, best friend ever.Its so nice walking the dog as I live near the beach and people always chat to you when you have a dog lol. Be nice to chat