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1st May 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Anybody out there finding themselves on their ownTerry, I am so sorry if we made you feel uncomfortable, it certainly wasn't intended. I enjoyed every comment you made in the group and am sure the others appreciated it too. We were worried when your comments ceased and were wondering if all was well. Glad to see that its is. Regards. Janet.ViewDate:
13th Apr 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipYes Supersabre, there are many in the same position. It just doesn't feel like it at the time does it. We are all different and deal with things in our own way, but having a listening ear often helps. Having an independent ear means we can express ourselves freely. Hope today is one of the good ones for you. Best wishes.ViewDate:
5th Apr 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipHello Pauline. Thank you for reaching out and offering a listening ear. I too enjoy talking, maybe a little too much. Where do you live and what are your interests? I am in Yorkshire. Hope you enjoy your day. Best wishes.ViewDate:
4th Apr 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipThank you Jackie, it's a hard road I am travelling at the minute, but getting there. Have met lovely people on here who have all been helpful. I have been retired 3 years now and still looking for things to fill my time with, more so now I am on my own. Lovely of you to reach out. Hopefully speak again soon.ViewDate:
30th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Hello - looking for like minded friends to chat withhope you are finding your way round the site and making new friends. Have a good day. Regards.ViewDate:
29th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Hello - looking for like minded friends to chat withIts a nice way to meet new friends Ken. Enjoy.ViewDate:
29th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Hello - looking for like minded friends to chat withclick on their name in light blue, though most profiles I have looked at don't have much on them. Hope this helps. Regards.ViewDate:
29th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipgood to catch up with colleagues. I go out to lunch with mine every 6 weeks or so.. hope you have got your thermals on until you adjust to the temperature. Best wishes.ViewDate:
28th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshiphope you enjoy your time on here. lots of friendly people.ViewDate:
11th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipGoing to daughters on Monday Terry, don't know how long the floor will take so have to play it by ear. Have you spotted the group I have set up in chat. Thought it might make staying in touch easier for us all, Gets hard to find posts here and sometimes miss them. Take care, speak soon. Janet xViewDate:
11th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipMorning Jackie, yes it is getting difficult to find posts. I have set up a chat group to see if it makes it easier for us all but will keep looking at posts here. It took about 3 months to dry my space out too, the constant noise and dust was horrendous. I am going to my daughters this week while my floor is replaced, laptop will be going with me so we can stay in touch. Have a good day. Janet.ViewDate:
11th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipWell that sounds safer than being on your own Terry. It's cold again here so staying home based today. Have a Good one. Janet xViewDate:
11th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipHi Jackie, nice to see you on here again. Been a bit too cold to venture out in my garden but have some seedlings on my windowsill. Hard to find some of our responses to posts. Shows that we are interested in keeping up friendships though. My floor is coming up to be replaced next week so will have to decamp to my daughters until its done. Guess that will be a distraction at least. Take care. JanetViewDate:
9th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipOk, dispensation to travel is granted so you had better start saving up. It looks a lovely spot and I have read all the reviews. Someone suggested taking a padlock, not sure if that's to keep your belongings safe or to chain yourself to the bed so no-one can steal your spot lol. Nice that they are mindful of the environment and community. However, no bungee jumping is allowed and you have to take many pics of your adventure. We will find a way to share them. Speak soon. Janet xViewDate:
9th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipWas thinking about your trip last night. Is it safe to do it independently? Don't want to wake up and see on the news that my new found friend has been mauled to death by lions! I have to de-camp to my daughters next week as my floor is being ripped up and new joists fitted. Of course with Mum now in her dotage I can't be trusted not to fall down the holes lol. Laptop will be coming with me so we can still be in touch. Snowing but not settling here today. Stay safe. Speak soon. Janet x (Going to look at that site and decide if you can go!)ViewDate:
8th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipThose kind of nights are still familiar to me. So sorry about your trip. Hope you can find another that will fit in with when you want to go. Not snowing here yet but it's really cold so I won't be straying far either. I will just look at all my daffodils through the window, I told them to keep their heads down as it might snow, but they didn't listen and are popping out all over lol. Have a lovely day. Speak soon. JanetxViewDate:
7th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipEvening Terry, hope you are staying warm, been a bitterly cold day here but at least the sun was out. I enjoyed my snuggle in bed with my book last night though of course I read more chapters than I intended. Be glad when warmer weather gets to us. Hope you have had a productive day and done something interesting. Regards. Janet xViewDate:
7th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipHi Jackie, no snow yet, forecast for Thursday now. The arthritis in my knee was apparently because I spent 20 years sitting on little chairs, crouching by desks and partaking of PE lessons and when I retired and stopped all that the muscles in my knee objected. Of course we then had lockdown which inhibited moving around. So not as dramatic as your falling out of a car lol. Please don't ever worry about anything you want to say on here, that's why we are here. I lost my mum and dad to cancer. Dad lasted a year and was full of hope. Was 6 months for my mum and I remember them as long stressful months but on the plus side it gave us chance to say everything we wanted to them. With Bernie I didn't get chance to say goodbye or say all I wished I had, but for him there was no long suffering. I too get flashbacks of that night despite changing and redecorating the bedroom . While we were doing it I discovered during a conversation with my daughter that great chunks of that night have gone from my memory. I don't recall ringing her or what I said. I have no recall of speaking to the firemen and the debate about whether to try to take off the door or smash the window (they took the window option) and I know the police were there but I couldn't pick them out of a line up or say what we talked about. I felt Bernie was taken away too quickly but my son told me I laid with him for 2 1/2 hrs and wouldn't let go of him. One of the neighbours dropped something in the garden a few weeks ago and the sound of breaking glass had me propelled straight back to that night. There had to be an autopsy and I was horrified but glad after because my brain tortured me for 4 days and nights with "what if I hadn't stayed up and read 5 more chapters of my book, would I have made a difference if I had found him any earlier" we got an emphatic no from the coroner, nothing would have changed, so in a way that was a relief Yes our brains should come with an off switch. On the floor front we have discovered that the flood I had under mine has rotted some joists. I am to de-camp to my daughters while half my floor is being renewed next week (seems I am not to be trusted not to fall down the holes lol) so more disruption to come. Hope you stay warm and well. Hope to speak soon. Janet.ViewDate:
7th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipHi Leila. How brilliant that you have booked a holiday, something nice to focus on. Yes I understand the feeling of being the third wheel in company when you are used to being part of a couple, it's very strange! It will feel emotional but hope you can revisit your memories of past cruises with fond thoughts of all you shared. Take care in this cold snap. Best wishes. JanetViewDate:
6th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipEvening Terry, a rather boring day today as it has been quite cold and grey. Resorted to cleaning out a kitchen cupboard. My daughter is a care home manager and been complaining that the staff keep invading her office and using her coffee mug so guess who solved that one for her by clearing a cupboard lol. My good deed for the day. Heading off to bed now with my trusty kindle. Hope you have had a good day. Looking forward to our next chat. Stay warm! Janet.ViewDate:
6th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipHope you are ok Jackie and not snowed in yet. Don't know which bit of Lincolnshire you are in, I border on it so cross the county line occasionally lol. The arthritis in my knee doesn't like this cold so not been in the garden today. I think hibernation would be a good idea for us just at present. Looking forward to your next chat. Take care. Janet.ViewDate:
6th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipHi Susan. Hope the snow hasn't hit you yet and you are keeping warm and well. You live in a lovely part of Scotland so the snow will only enhance the beauty if you get it. We have holidayed all over Scotland for the last 30 years so am quite fond of the country. We have quite a few dog friendly places around us, just as well as I have 4 granddogs and 2 grandcats amongst the family lol. Also I live very near our local park, handy for a quick walk when it's so cold. Take care and stay safe. Regards Janet.ViewDate:
5th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipHope you had a good birthday. Been looking at your About Africa site. Makes my haggis hunting look tame lol. Some stunning locations and lovely photos on there, keeps you warm just looking at them. Regards, Janet.ViewDate:
5th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipHi Jackie, sorry you are having such a bad week. Memories are bittersweet things aren't they. At the moment the bad ones outweigh the good but I am sure we will both find that balance will hopefully change. I can't look at photos at the minute because I wonder if there was a change in Bernie that I missed and should have seen. Still we can't change our past so we have to look to the future as positively as we can. You take care. Always here with a listening ear. Janet.ViewDate:
5th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipgetting used to the silence is awful John, don't know if we ever will. Life has to go on but in a different way I guess. Big adjustments to be made but we can do it. Take care. Janet.ViewDate:
4th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipMake the most of it lol. Snow forecast for next week and up there you usually get the brunt of it. Have a good day.ViewDate:
4th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipthere are no judgements made here Chris. Everyone has their own ways of dealing with things. Everyone is different. Take care.ViewDate:
4th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipSorry for your loss. Yes it is strange doing things alone. Guess we may eventually get some sense of normality back. Lost my husband unexpectedly in November. It's still early days in getting used to the changes in our lives.ViewDate:
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4th Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipI think the thing we all miss is the personal bits sharing our day, eating our meals, holding hands, sharing a kiss, curling up in bed together. Personal touches. Human contact. Think Jackie and Leila and you would understand Those are the things we have to address to go forward.ViewDate:
3rd Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipI get what you mean Chris. My husband had mobility issues for a few years before he died and I am just beginning to realise how our outings were geared to that. I have a park close to where I live but wandering around it alone seems alien. We have some lovely spots around us here in Yorkshire just need the motivation to visit them. Sure it will come. Keep striding forward. Look forward to hearing from you again. Janet.ViewDate:
3rd Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipMorning Terry, hope you are well. Didn't get to leave you a message yesterday as I was putting one on for Jackie when my daughter came to tell me her mum in law had died. Knocked me back a bit for the rest of the day! I didn't sleep well last night, probably because of that news, but I am blaming you for the weird dreams lol. I was in the jungle and knew that something was following me, when I turned it was a tiger. Of course I ran but it was catching up. Woke up in a hot sweat. When I dozed off again I was in a ravine and when I looked up there was the blasted tiger again stalking across the rocks above me. Gave up on sleep after that. My granddaughter and her trusty Google says the dream means strength and power, I think it means yet another night of lost sleep! On the plus side I have completed my monotonous jobs and am going to do precious little for the rest of the day. I have some books from xmas to read, normally devour them from boxing day to New Year but hadn't the inclination this year. downloaded four books onto my kindle last night for bedtime reading. I love the feel of a real book but find the kindle easier to man in bed. See we are threatened with snow early next week so make the most of the weekend. Speak soon. Janet.ViewDate:
2nd Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipI hope the support from the hospice helps. Its hard when you are home alone. I am still in touch with friends I worked with but only see them in holiday times (I worked in education.) Always here as a listening ear. Take care.ViewDate:
2nd Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipwhile responding on here my daughter has just been to tell me her mother-in-law died this morning. Expected but still a shock. Just another set back.ViewDate:
2nd Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipOh Jackie, I can only imagine! My anniversary is looming. We were married on April 3rd, which was also Easter Monday, over the years we have laughed that we were lucky to have 2 anniversaries a year. Now I am not so sure, Christmas and New Year was a trial. I just tried to smile in the right places but anniversaries are more personal so I know its going to be hard. I am going to try very hard to be positive. There are so many of us in the same situation even though it feels a lonely place to be.. Keep batting on my new found friend, we will get there. take care. Janet.ViewDate:
2nd Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipIt is difficult Chris. Some days are better than others. We did have children but they have their lives and children to occupy them and that is rightly so. It's hard to come to terms with the silence and loneliness but every day is a step forward. Do you still work?, Do you have friends supporting you? Not being nosy just hoping you have. Feel free to chat and share your feelings. People can advise but only you will know the right way forward. Take care. Janet.ViewDate:
1st Mar 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipHello and welcome Chris.. I lost my husband in November. It is hard to move forward and we all do it at our own pace. Some lovely people on here who are willing to chat and share their experiences.. Just pop a comment on some of their names. Have as good a day as you can. Best wishes.ViewDate:
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28th Feb 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipWe went shopping too and yes, prices are increasing at an alarming rate but our pensions don't! Makes saving harder for our little luxuries doesn't it. Been going up to various bits of Scotland for our hols for well over 30 yrs now (we Haggis hunt by the way, they are rare in Africa!) and have booked a favourite steading that accommodates all 5 of my children in separate cottages, plus a fair few of the grandchildren. We are taking some of hubby's ashes up there to release so will be a bittersweet moment for me. On a positive note will be the first time in ages that we have all been on holiday together so I will make the most of it. Oh and granddaughter wanted to know if they have wild horse herds in Africa (she is horse riding mad) said I didn't know but thought the lions and cheetahs might say no as they are some of the top of the food chain. Over to you for that one lolViewDate:
28th Feb 2023Freeno21 commented on:
Looking or frienshipHi Leila, I can't see any comments from you for the last few days. Hope you are Ok. I commented to my daughter that I had spent far more years with my husband than I did with my parents. It's hard to fill that hole, but we will. They will always walk beside us, how could they not after a lifetime together. Bet they would be glad that we are reaching out to others and forging new friendships to help us through. Take care and stay well. Janet.