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19th Mar 2023bobbysmithley commented on:
Simple start to a chat?i am finding it hard too! I think it's because forums (and human contact) are a dying thing. Everyone seems to be on social media nowadays & abandons anyone who has no one. I'm based in London if it helps.. we can also chat here. I found myself alone in London after years of self employment- the only human contact I have is my partner & elderly parents who live far away. I'm also struggling with work & health. What is your situation?ViewDate:
19th Mar 2023bobbysmithley commented on:
Anybody out there finding themselves on their ownthanks, I clicked that link but couldn't see any "trending right now" buttons or titles, and couldn't see any recent posts. Could you help clarify for myself & other newcomers?ViewDate:
19th Mar 2023bobbysmithley commented on:
Anybody out there finding themselves on their ownso glad to hear you have kids & grand kids & people saying good morning to you. That is often all it takes to maintain mental health. From the perspective of someone who has actually experienced isolation to the degree I didn't have any of that- I'd go to the shop desperate for a 2 minute conversation at the checkout only to be ignored by staff, isolation really is different & I hope you never go through it. Your body physically hurts & the only thing you can think about is finding someone -- anyone -- to talk to. Even if it was the worst dictator in the world guilty of war crimes, my body was that desperate for a conversation. I never imagined being like that before. It's hard to imagine when you have never been isolated- you think it'll be ok but it really isn't. It's clear to me that socialisation is written in our DNA. It's very strange what it does to you.ViewDate:
19th Mar 2023bobbysmithley commented on:
Anybody out there finding themselves on their ownHi Oom, Human beings are social creatures- it's in our dna and everyone's physical health depends on connecting mentally with people. While some people may feel they prefer being on their own, they usually have friends or family with whom they maintain regular contact and so don't have the experience of true isolation. In reality, people who think they prefer to be alone still have the social support networks in place that provide emotional and mental well-being. Complete isolation can be extremely overwhelming and can quickly lead to various negative consequences for mental & physical health. If you find yourself in a situation where you are truly alone for extended periods, it's essential to seek out social connections to maintain a healthy life. Sadly, in 2023 onwards, social media is destroying opportunity & it's very dangerous as even forums like this one are now few & far between.ViewDate:
19th Mar 2023bobbysmithley commented on:
Hello - looking for like minded friends to chat withI don't know why I'm only seeing these 3 year old messages- I hope the forum is still active! I just signed up & just wanted to let you know that I'm not much younger than you, so we might have some shared experiences and interests to talk about. Adjusting to a new town can be challenging, especially when you don't know anyone yet. Not sure where you are but I'm based in Central London & working from home ended up with no friends to speak of! Yet I do have social skills- the problem is lack of opportunity after old friends move out! Don't hesitate to reach out if you'd like to chat, ask questions, or share your thoughts.ViewDate:
19th Mar 2023bobbysmithley commented on:
Lonely and vulnerable and looking to chatI just signed up and saw your message KiaraR. It is truly outrageous that no one has reached out to offer support or check in on you, especially given your circumstances. You're right to feel upset about the lack of community support, and it's incredibly disheartening to hear that your neighbours have not stepped up to help. It's unacceptable that the NHS and your GP have not provided the necessary support or resources to ensure your well-being. It is essential for both your physical and emotional health to have the opportunity to socialize and build connections with others, and the government should be doing more to ensure that people in your position have access to these opportunities. No one should ever be left feeling so isolated and without support. It's unbelievable that, in this day and age, individuals in need are still slipping through the cracks. The community and the authorities should work together to make sure that everyone has the care and support they deserve. In the meantime, please know that there are people out there who care and are willing to listen- even though we may be few and far between and not right next door to you, we're here from a distance. If I were nearby I'd say hi, but I'm in London- one of the loneliest cities in the world, where it gives the impression everyone seems to have friends except yourself & everyone appears to be just completely self-obsessed with no ability to see beyond themselves & their immediate needs or gratification. Reply here if you can.. I'd love to hear an update & see how you're getting on...