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19th Feb 20242LateSmart commented on:
Just joined so I'm introducing myself.Sorry for your loss. It takes time to get through it…not over it, just through it. It is said that it takes about 1/3 the number of years together for the healing process to start. So don't think that there's something wrong with you if the process takes a while it's not moribund mourning.... it's actually quite normal. Bless youViewDate:
19th Feb 20242LateSmart commented on:
Just joined so I'm introducing myself.I see from your posting - and so many other posts - that many people come from the UK. I, on the other hand, come from one of the colonies… America. I welcome and appreciate the opportunity to communicate with you and exchange ideas about what's going on in your world and mine. Thank you.ViewDate:
19th Feb 20242LateSmart commented on:
Just joined so I'm introducing myself.I see from your posting - and so many other posts - that many people come from the UK. I, on the other hand, come from one of the colonies… America. I welcome and appreciate the opportunity to communicate with you and exchange ideas about what's going on in your world and mine. Thank you.ViewDate:
19th Feb 20242LateSmart commented on:
Just joined so I'm introducing myself.I think it's been said that the Jews have a way of describing what you mentioned...a parent can raise five children but five children can not take care of one parent. Must be frustrating for you especially since it seems that you strive to do more things and better yourself. Don't waste anymore time dwelling on the past and how children have let you down when you needed them. That happens. It says more about them than it says about you. If they can turn their back on you after all the years that you've given them what will it take for them to turn their backs on their partners. Don't give up.ViewDate:
19th Feb 20242LateSmart commented on:
"really" making new friends!How do older people, "have enough friends”? There is old as they are and many of them are dying so they're having less and less friends as time goes on. Maybe, it's the fear of mourning another loss by having another friend.ViewDate:
19th Feb 20242LateSmart commented on:
"really" making new friends!.Are those people sensing your need? Do they see it as an extra responsibility? Be yourself..what comes comes. Do not value yourself as you think they do. You may be wrong also they may not know you well enough. Nowadays everybody wants a quick fix...they don't want to invest the time necessary to make an appropriate analysis of things. All in all it's probably their loss and probably your gain to not be involved with people that are so shallow. Believe in yourself...keep going on. Good luck!ViewDate:
19th Feb 20242LateSmart commented on:
Sometimes there is friction between family members, and misunderstandings can so easily occur … is there anything troubling you within your family at the moment?He didn't explain what their “attitude” wasViewDate:
19th Feb 20242LateSmart commented on:
Sometimes there is friction between family members, and misunderstandings can so easily occur … is there anything troubling you within your family at the moment?From your age you or possibly a veteran, if so, all the more reason to do what the heck you want. If your grandchild can turn his back on his mother how long will it take him to do that to his wife? You can't solve that problem if it becomes one but you have to do what you feel best right at this moment. If I were to tell you that you can't go how would you feel? If the answer is uneasy or sad then go. If the answer was grateful, then don't go. In the end it will be the right answer. You cannot waste your remaining years trying to please those two generations. As they say,I can't tell you how to be a success but I can't tell you how to be a failure try to please everybodyViewDate:
19th Feb 20242LateSmart commented on:
Sometimes there is friction between family members, and misunderstandings can so easily occur … is there anything troubling you within your family at the moment?Perhaps we have made things too easy for them. When things come for free people tend to take more than they should, more than they're entitled to. It's like cookies at a diner after the end of the meal; people just grab handfuls even though they're full. We have to introduce them to concept of sharing... that they should do it among themselves after we're gone. It's not always that “He who grabs gets” sometimes things have to be given to those who can't grab fast enough for themselves. It's the kind of legacy we'd like to leave where people love each other enough to give. In Portugal, where my family is from, it was more common for people to delight in what they had rather than be envious for what they didn't have.... comparison is the great thief of joy. Don’t let this get to you. You don’t deserve it.