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Should we be trying to look younger than we are?

‘Getting old’ has long been held up as something that’s best avoided by mainstream media.

We’re bombarded with advertising that shows a single standard of beauty – but who says grey hair and wrinkles aren’t beautiful? And faced with the alternative, growing old is a privilege.

All over the world actors, singers and public figures all work hard to maintain a youthful appearance even into their 50s, 60s and 70s.

They aren’t alone; as plastic surgery becomes more affordable and treatments like Botox readily available in hair salons, it’s never been easier to try and look younger than our years.

While there’s nothing wrong with taking pride in your appearance and looking your best, many argue that the emphasis on youth has made growing old taboo.

Others view staying young as a necessity – when ageism exists looking old can result in discrimination in the workplace and feeling forgotten on the high street.

What are your views? Should we try and cheat our age to look younger than our years?  Or is it better to embrace physical ageing and celebrate grey hair and wrinkles?

Should we be trying to look younger than we are?

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Charlie10
6th Oct 2017
1
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Try to look the best you can
It helps with your wellbeing
SueC62
24th Sep 2017
0
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I wouldn't go for botox or surgery but other than that I will continue to try to look as young as I feel - exercise, look after my skin, hair and teeth and wear trendy clothes if I look good in them.
maryroth
24th Sep 2017
1
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Not younger but we should always try to keep looking as good as we can . Nice hair a bit of makeup smart clothes they all help to make us feel good .
Barton babe
23rd Sep 2017
0
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I do not believe in plastic surgery just for looking younger, what if is go's wrong, as sometimes they do
you will look a lot worse. Plastic surgery was intended for people with burns, disfigurements etc.
ChristineN6
23rd Sep 2017
2
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whatever age we should be making the best of what we've got
JeanB48
19th Sep 2017
0
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When you have a great group of friends and family who love you as you are, how can changing your appearance make it better.I love to wear nice clothes and have my hair done but the thought of having a "procedure " gives me the Willie's.
Bobbimac
17th Sep 2017
2
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I think we are generally much younger in mind and open thoughts than when my mam was my age , she was in pleated dresses and back combed hair , 'Im 61 but still feel 27 in my head , perhaps my mam did too who knows , life is all about living and being happy .
1BA
17th Sep 2017
0
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Each to there own if people want to go down the plastic surgery route that is fine, although I do think once you start down that road there is no going back . My god daughter is a beautican and she tells me of ladies in there 20 having botex now for me that is sad. I think good skin is being lucky enough to have good genes. The best advice I got on skincare was. stay out of the sun drink plenty of fluids and use Organic skincare. I followed that advise for decades . My 96year old father has wonderful skin and when he was at the doctors the other day and the doc ask him his age the doc said are you sure you are 96 the doc thought he was in his 70s. I am following my fathers thinking which is always look on the bright side of life, and above all have fun and enjoy life
DeniseB3246
16th Sep 2017
0
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I believe it's up to the individual if they want to have plastic surgery to feel better about the way they look then that's up to them. I don't believe in enforcing your views onto others it should be your choice, whether you use surgery or not also people should not be pressured into having surgery if they don't want to, some people want to dye their hair wear makeup again that's up to them wether their male or female it doesn't matter.
harann
15th Sep 2017
2
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There is nothing wrong with trying to look your best. I am 79 but still use make up whether staying in or going out, also moisturise twice a day. It can be difficult finding clothes, don't want to look old & dowdy. Try to keep as active as possible, do crosswords & codeword puzzles every day, take an interest in current affairs etc., not too old to learn something new.
Helen Highwater
14th Sep 2017
1
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I'm happy with my sparkling silver hair and my 72=year-old (reasonably wrinkle-free) face. I wear make-up and clothes that suit me, I keep my hair clean and well-cut. I eat a healthy diet, drink plenty of water and sleep well. I have a young outlook and an enquiring mind, and for me that's more important than an unnaturally youthful face & figure. An old woman trying to look like a young woman doesn't work, in my opinion.
JayneP9
14th Sep 2017
1
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I'm fortunate to look younger than my 67 years . I do wear make up and colour my hair . I do try to exercise , but not as much as I should. I don't think I would go as far as plastic surgery , it's not for me . I'll just to grow old gracefully with a bit of help !!
tinatots11
14th Sep 2017
0
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I recently turned 60 and was distraught at the thought of being an old lady. I am trying to age gracefully but fear it may be more disgracefully. I enjoy wearing makeup but do not wear it every day. I take good care of my skin and I am blessed not to have a lot of wrinkles. I eat healthily, don't exercise as much as I should! I have no problem with people using plastic surgery or botox and fillers but just feel a great sorrow that people are pushed to do these things to themselves. I am minded of Phenomenal Woman - Poem by Maya Angelou I love her words. I hope to live well and long without worrying unduly about how I look to others.
PatriciaH14
14th Sep 2017
0
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I don't see anything wrong in keeping your appearance younger,as long as you don't go overboard
The fashion industry seem to have forgotten about the older generation,so when you are looking for clothes on the high St there's very little choice.
Reg plastic surgery,it's fine if you don't have a smooth wrinkle free face like some celebs and an old body, doesn't work....
jvm2224
14th Sep 2017
2
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Eat right, workout, read and play lots are all ways of cheating age in my opinion, thus my "yes" answer. Why just sit back, age, and look and be old? This is coming from an 80 year old male, soon to be 81, who walks lots, travels almost too much, and lives life to the fullest!
JuneAA
14th Sep 2017
1
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It depends on how you clarify "trying to look younger". I would never have plastic surgery or botox or any procedure. I do however look after my skin by moisturising, and I dress well. I also attend the dentist regularly and have good teeth. I think there is way too much emphasis on how one looks outside. More importantly is what is on the inside.
ElsieC7
14th Sep 2017
3
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I am aged 82. I try to dress well, don't believe that when you reach a certain age one should give up on fashion and adopt the "granny" look. Caring for your appearance is not vanity,
I have a weekly visit to hairdresser, who keeps my hair looking good. A monthly pedicure, keeping my feet and nails in excellent condition. Apart from the joy of "pampering" sessions, I believe they add to my social contact with people, and more importantly, my mental wellbeing.
I vote YES,
jvm2224
14th Sep 2017
0
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BethMc
14th Sep 2017
1
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We need to be proud of what we've achieved in the duration of our lives, and not try to be less than we are either mentally of physically. That does not mean neglecting our physical appearance but caring for it and recognising it's not the same as it was 20+ years ago.
Lindelou
14th Sep 2017
1
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I think old age comes soon enough to us all I do not need to see how old I look as well do I ?
MaryG111
14th Sep 2017
0
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I don't see a problem with looking after yourself and trying to look your best, whatever makes you feel good, this doesn't necessarily mean going under the knife
Alicia
13th Sep 2017
2
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I am clean, smartly dressed and walk with an upright posture - don't care what others think as it is none of their business.
Lionel
13th Sep 2017
1
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I've spent most of my working life outside in sun, rain, ice, and snow. I've baked and frozen, and been soaked with rain.

My facial skin is like leather, permanently tanned and tough as old boots. I sincerely doubt a jar of slap is going to make any difference to me. And, as I think of it, do I want to change anything?

Well, no!

Why would I want to deceive anyone into thinking I had less years than I have? It would be a lie!

In local towns I see so much mutton dressed as lamb, yet their faces look like a world weary ox! Disgusting. And so expensive.

Part of the sweetness of my wife is she doesn't hide her age, and neither does she use makeup. If she may accept me as I am then I'll love her for just being herself.
Caro66
12th Sep 2017
4
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I think that we owe it to ourselves to look the best we can at any age. This doesn't mean plastic surgery , rather that we continue to maintain a healthy interest in both our physical appearance and our mental health.

There is nothing wrong with wrinkles and lines, they add interest and character. And hair colour is a matter of choice.
When we look good we often feel better. Well at least I do!
Kes
12th Sep 2017
6
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There is a saying...... it doesn't matter what you look like on the outside. Its what's on the inside that counts.
Wilf
12th Sep 2017
6
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Very true Kes and something that becomes more relevant as one gets a bit older.
Yodama
12th Sep 2017
5
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King Canute has nothing on me. When we were young we wanted to be older, now we are older, why not try to look younger.
Slathering lotion on just does not do the trick
Inner beauty will show on the outside eventually.

I hope!
Wilf
12th Sep 2017
2
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A very interesting comment Yodama. For males who have divorced in their 40s and 50s like a few of my mates they try to look like they are 20 again. Difficult with a pot belly and bald head! Go with the flow I say although my wife says the only things that go with the flow are dead fish! Maybe she is trying to tell me somthing!
Yodama
13th Sep 2017
0
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I suppose we are just animals after all Wilf. Birds and animals doll themselves up to attract a partner. Ostriches can make their legs go red ( not attractive in humans).
Flamingo's paint their feathers with oil to look lovely and pink.

Max Factor has come to the rescue of dowdy humans.
Wilf
13th Sep 2017
0
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You are absolutely right Yodama...we are just animals and like them as you say ladies put on the Max Factor and men..well we do try! The problem with chaps of my age is its difficult to do somthing with us...how do you make an old rusty Ford Capri look better? Difficult at the best of times!
Yodama
13th Sep 2017
0
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I hear Metrosexual's wear Max Factor too.
Maybe a rusty Ford Capri could do with sanding down and given a new coat of paint!
Get rid of the old tyre and give the interior a makeover.
Marley444
12th Sep 2017
3
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I'm all for looking my best, but as for looking like mutton dressed up as lamb - not for me! I would never have botox apart from the fact that your face looks frozen, but also does anyone really know what the long term implications of these procedures are? Take Lesley Ash - beautiful lady, and what ever fillers she had put into her mouth went terribly wrong and changed her look for life. My extra weight helps plump out my wrinkles and a few highlights blend my greys in nicely.
MrsPat
12th Sep 2017
1
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Hmmmmm....I have been trying to look young than I am for the last 30 years. Its difficult even with all the lotions and potions I buy. Some of my friends are infatuated with trying to look much younger. On the other side of the coin is my old man...balding...fat...pretty...ugly. Doesn't care at all. All he is interested in is football. I do envy him sometimes.
Wilf
12th Sep 2017
3
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Nothing wrong with Football Mrs Pat! I love it and maybe us chaps are so busy with our footie we forget to look after our once good looks! That's my excuse anyway!

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