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Should women still change their name when they get married?

This weekend marks the 70th wedding anniversary of the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh. 

Though marriage is still as important as it was when they were first married, traditions have evolved and changed since then.

Divorce, for example, is much more common, and couples are opting to get married later in life, live together without being married, and have children first before they take time to plan a wedding.

Other traditions are not as universal as they once were. For couples over the age of 55, 97% of them have adopted the husband’s name.

In contrast, nearly three-quarters of young married couples today have adopted the husband’s name.

The Duke of Edinburgh famously took issue with adopting his wife’s last name.

After the Queen’s accession, the monarch declared the Royal Family’s surname would continue to be Windsor and not Mountbatten.

“I’m just a bloody amoeba,” it’s claimed he said. “I am the only man in the country not allowed to give his name to his own children.”

Today, the Duke of Edinburgh would be in better company – one in 10 men between the ages of 18 and 34 choose to take their wife’s surname.

However, many families are choosing not to change their names at all – particularly since marriage is happening later in life, many women have established careers using their maiden name and choose to carry on using it after they are married.

More often families are also choosing to have children use the mother’s family name, rather than automatically using the father’s, signalling a shift in thinking since the Queen was first married.

Today at Speakers Corner we’re asking you: should women still change their name when they get married? Is this an important tradition that should be preserved or one that should change with modern times? 

 

 

Should women still change their name when they get married?

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katman76
1st Dec 2017
0
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It is a way of committing yourself to the relationship and clearing your conscience of previous relationships. Has always worked well in the past, why change things?
HelenTedman
28th Nov 2017
0
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I'm not really bothered either way, yes it was a bit of a pain to change documents etc. but I did all that 27 years ago, lol
LizHB
26th Nov 2017
1
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My mother hated her married name and put pressure on me to change it when I married, saying it would. make my husband happier. He didn't care! But mum was insistent....so I offered her a compromise: Smith. Not my name, not his.......she shut up then.
iestynlad
22nd Nov 2017
0
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Yea! most people not in favour of a name change. I have not changed mine. MIL pretty p off about that - GOOD. Problems this causes in work - constant changes of directories, Don't know why is responsible etc, women can commit fraud under a series of legit names
12Ros3mary
20th Nov 2017
2
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Personal choice, but if you like your maiden name there is no reason to change it
Rasher
20th Nov 2017
-2
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I took his name and he took mine making it double barrelled
nape
19th Nov 2017
-1
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its worked for all these years why change it, don't change for the sake of it.
iestynlad
22nd Nov 2017
0
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It's never been the law
SusanH59
19th Nov 2017
3
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Free choice or hyphenate names
Brenvin
19th Nov 2017
3
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Depends on the person really, some people do others don’t. I lost my husband in 2000 and now have a partner but neither of us are bothered about marriage, my partner has been married 3 times but I’ve been married once and to me you only get married once, but we are quite happy like this , but I know other people wouldn’t be. Each to there own.
Helen Highwater
18th Nov 2017
0
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I loathe the double-barrelled surname option, especially when a child is also given a double-barrelled first name. I was very happy to divest myself of my maiden name as I really didn't like it at all!
aaf
18th Nov 2017
1
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No vote for personal choice?
brendamccaffery
18th Nov 2017
2
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Entirely up to them. Some men change their names too. I think it would be good to have a double barrelled name using both. I bet there would be a few fun ones.
iestynlad
22nd Nov 2017
0
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Yes but the men have to do it by deed poll so no equality of treatment
linj
17th Nov 2017
3
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Just glad my late husband loved me enough to ask me to share his name.
Alron
17th Nov 2017
2
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Professional people retain their own names, why should ordinary people be forced to be different? Perhaps it should be left to each individual to choose
jeanmark
17th Nov 2017
5
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I don't think people are forced to to be different, they choose to change their names. Why do you say 'ordinary' people as if professional people are not ordinary?
iestynlad
22nd Nov 2017
0
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They are nnot forced - it's not the law to change your name
spamjam
17th Nov 2017
1
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more couples are now using double barrel names
IsobelM3
17th Nov 2017
3
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Don't think it's a straight yes or no. It should be a personal choice (though I never gave it a thought when I remarried)
JanetA66
17th Nov 2017
2
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I think women should take their husbands surname when they marry, if they want to keep their maiden name, they can always use it as a double barrel name, eg Smith-Brown.
GrannyG
17th Nov 2017
2
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I haven’t voted because I think it depends on personal circumstances.
I think the best way forward for young women today is to keep their maiden name and title if it applies, e.g. doctor, in the work place but use their married name for all other occasions.
iestynlad
22nd Nov 2017
0
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Let's just confuse everyone
mewend
17th Nov 2017
1
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I changed my name the first time but went back to my maiden name after an ugly divorce. Never thought I would marry again but I did, I didn't want to change my name again my name is my identity and I'm keeping the name I was born with.
Maid marian
17th Nov 2017
4
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Can’t answer yes or no because you can make personal choice. When I married my husband in my 60s he suggested I keep my previous surname because I liked it and having to change all the Bank,Insurance’s, passport,etc seemed waste of time. Made no difference to the best 11 years of my life.
fandebbydozy
17th Nov 2017
1
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I don't have a preference so haven't voted. My daughter in law has kept her maiden name and added my son' name too to keep her family name from dying out. I can see the logic in that, but I think it would only work for one generation.
Lizzy36
17th Nov 2017
4
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Does not matter whether it is the man or the woman changes their name but the double barrelled bit has gone mad...what happens when their child gets married ... just curious there may be a simple answer of course...
iestynlad
22nd Nov 2017
0
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The Spanish have a system for this
SheilaB7
17th Nov 2017
1
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I think so, but I'm old fashioned...
MaggieLennon
17th Nov 2017
1
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It’s up to the individual on whether they want to change their names. Just because it is a tradition it doesn’t make it right.
Shancox
17th Nov 2017
2
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Not sure it has to be the woman who changes her name but I think it's important for them both to have the same surname when they have children. I think it creates more of a family unit, a sense of belonging together.
Cymraes44
17th Nov 2017
3
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I was proud to take my husband's name
Yorkshire pud
17th Nov 2017
1
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Should be personal choice.
I wanted to have my husband's surname when I married. I don't see the need for double barrelled. Your maiden name is 'male' (usually your father's name) after all!
jeanmark
20th Nov 2017
0
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Never thought of it like that, but as my father sired three daughters the name died out anyway. Shame really but I wasn't prepared to double barrel and have a surname 19 letters long!
Pam1960
16th Nov 2017
4
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I think it should ultimately be the choice of the person who would normally give up their name when getting married but this would I assume be with the blessing of their partner. The trend nowadays is for double barrelled names but where does this stop. If you had two partners with double barrelled names and they wanted to keep both that is four names. Try fitting that on the back of a football shirt. I say either go with the husband's or keep your own, scrap double barrelled. Online forms do not cater for this . We only need one surname
Jay
16th Nov 2017
1
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Surely it is up to the people concerned. If it is too long to be hyphenated why not just add the first letter of the partners surname; as in Fred B(rown) Smith; Mary G(reen) Smith. There is always a way through a challenge.
jeanmark
16th Nov 2017
3
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Surely it is a choice as to whether they change their name as there has never been a legal need. Many professional woman choose not to for convenience reasons i.e. medical doctors.

I have to say I changed my name because double-barreling it would have made our surnames 19 letters long, but also I was so grateful someone wanted to marry me I wanted the world to know!!
MrsPat
16th Nov 2017
2
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How about switching it about so men take woman's surnames !
jeanmark
17th Nov 2017
1
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Then problem then Mrs Pat is men would have to state their 'maiden' name on formal forms, these haven't kept up with the times!
Wilf
16th Nov 2017
5
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It is a bit stupid if you think about it but then its always been so. The problem is if married couple adopted both names they would have a double barrelled name. Then next generation it would be 2 x double barrelled...so John Smith-Brown-Porter-Blair...no. probably just keep it the way it is.
Jay
16th Nov 2017
1
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But you could always drop a name with each partnership
Wilf
16th Nov 2017
1
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Yes good point Jay but then people may argue about this
Jay
16th Nov 2017
0
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and will continue to do so for years 🙂
kentrix39
16th Nov 2017
3
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It is so little consequence I cannot think why it would concern anyone but the person concerned.

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