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Is family still as important as it once was?

With people living all over the world and more emphasis placed on careers, it can often feel like family has taken a backseat to other aspects of life. 

Families support, love, nurture and care for each other unconditionally.

They are important to the fabric of society and the foundation of a stable, happy and healthy life.

Yet many elderly people report struggles with loneliness; often going long stretches without seeing family members who live far away.

While it was once commonplace to live in the same neighbourhood or even home as your adult children, today children are pursuing careers all over the world, taking them hundreds of miles from where they grew up.

Is family still as much of a priority as it once was, or is modern living eroding important traditional values with our ‘always-on’ culture and focus on material things?

Or is it simply that families support, connect and interact with each other differently today than they once did?

Share your comments and opinions on today’s Speakers Corner topic below. 

Is family still as important as it once was?

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Hallett
14th Nov 2017
0
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Sole purpose of being on this earth is to further the family & look after it as a whole.
EdnaS
13th Nov 2017
1
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Growing up with siblings teaches everyone who they are and how to interact in a wider context as they grow - and a close family unit is a microcosm of the 'real' world
scandiman
13th Nov 2017
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Most important is stable family life. Too many children are in families where parents have split up, and/or have multiple partners. I believe that unless there is violence or mental abuse, parents should stay together and split up only when the child reaches maturity. It is unacceptable that children, even in primary school have mental welfare issues, often due to family instability. This creates huge problems when they become adults. Our society is a mess and it seems to be getting worse.
AnneH83
13th Nov 2017
2
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Family is still important but these days we have different ways of communicating. I live at the other side of the world to my family but thanks to the internet I can video chat, send photos and follow what is going on in their lives thanks to social media. When I do visit in person that time is precious because I or they have had to make a lot of effort to visit. I for one don't want to be like my older relatives who sat in the house awaiting a visit from their family
and did very little else
MaureenM71
13th Nov 2017
1
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With today's technology, it is so much easier to keep in touch.
Sue15
13th Nov 2017
1
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Yes, family is key. It takes time, effort, work, respect and love. If there was time given to family, there would be less lonely older people. Our family are very close, we share our lives together, help each other support each other.
janegeoffgmailcom
13th Nov 2017
1
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It's a harsh way to find out the answer, but whether it was hundreds of years ago and communication achieved by smoke signals or the 21st century and communication achieved by multiple instantaneous methods, as soon as something in life goes horribly wrong we reach out to as many family members as we can think of.
fandebbydozy
13th Nov 2017
0
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The ideal is still, I believe, a mum and dad bringing up their children. Publicly this view is now frowned on, but I suspect that privately most people still hold the traditional view. It's not perfect because people are not perfect. Personally I mistrust any country that wants to control childrens upbringing. It used to be that we had freedom to express any view, but that is not the case now. Just saying.
MrsPat
13th Nov 2017
2
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Oh I think all over the world family is still important to everyone. It is in our house and I would not have it any other way. Christmas is the time of year when most families get back together or at least communicate with each other with cards and goodwill messages.
Marley444
12th Nov 2017
3
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Family is so very important to me ... my parents split up when I was a teenager, and this has made me even more determined to cherish my own family. Forget Christmas presents ... to me it's more important that we all get together and share our love, humour and happiness together
ecarg
11th Nov 2017
8
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Family = Joy and sorrow.
We are born into them we add to them there are no rules but plenty of opinions we get it right and we get it wrong but we keep going because at the end of the day family is what unites us in a world that is a crazy place.
jeanmark
12th Nov 2017
4
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Wilf
11th Nov 2017
3
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Yes families are hugely important to us as they provide stability and help and friendship to us all. We are lucky to have a fairly big and very close family and our kids now in their 20s are still happy to know and visit us (probably after our wine and money!). Seriously though I think families have in one sense become looser as people travel more and have the ability to live in different areas. having said that email and Facebook help us to keep in touch with the kids and my brothers.
ElainePeony
11th Nov 2017
2
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No family? I am in this situation, so I pay for what "family" in the olden days would have done....in many cases resentfully! I am pleased to be able to purchase what others would have provided as duty, and as in my mothers' case, criticised constantly.
I pay, so I can criticise and complain if what I pay for is inadequate or unreliable or not value for money....
So, people, what are your family for? If you like them and they like you...great...if not, then ignore...they make you miserable so what's the point?
Lionel
11th Nov 2017
6
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Oh yes! I think the need to be 'family' is in our genes. Although it's a step family for me I can say after 12 years of raising them in our home I am more the complete man.

Now, 4 years after their father left home for the last time, they are young adults; stable, intelligent, self controlled and very wise to the world.

The family comes here about once a fortnight for a day; the grand daughter always brings her current beau (she updates the model quite often), and we have a good day, well, usually. My wife has had a very large input into these kids and it's very good for her to see the fruit of her labours.

I can't say I've always revelled in the family, no. The first grand child was born into our home and thrust in my arms when I was nearly 50, the first baby I'd ever held. 'Baptism by fire' took on an entirely knew meaning. As well as carrying out family duties with my wife's parents 200 miles away it all got a bit too much.

But, as I welcome the kids now I'm so proud of them. Family, oh yes! It's natural, it's the way it should be.
Pam1960
10th Nov 2017
5
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I would say yes. Families are spread across the globe but the strong feelings and family bond. Traditional family Sunday lunches are not an option for many as a lot of people have to work on Sundays. Demands on younger families are greater and due to children's activity commitments it becomes difficult to get all the family together at one time. However with Skype and email there are other ways of keeping in touch. My family experience is that no matter how far apart we are or how often we see or speak to each other in times of need we will always be there for support

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