Did you marry the right person first time round?

I was engaged to someone when I was 18 but we broke up after 2 years. He always remained 'the one' with a special place in my heart.

I married at 21 but knew I shouldn't have done it. We had a son two years later then split after 9 years after I realised that things were never going to change.

19 years later I bumped into 'the one' but he worked abroad and was going back overseas the following day. We wrote but somehow our letters crossed and we both thought the other didn't want to continue corresponding.

5 years later we bumped into each other again and from that day we have been together - that was 26 years ago. Am I happy - exceedingly!

My first marriage ended when he left me for someone else, but looking back we were too young (20) though we didn't think that at the time

We have just celebrated our Golden Wedding Anniversary in February 2015

Met my husband on holiday. Got engaged one year later. Didn't see each other often as I lived in London and he lived in Glasgow! We wrote almost every day.Married 1964. Had one son,a very good marriage. Went on cruises and had a great time. Looking forward to Golden Wedding when he became ill. He died in 2012.

I was too young and impressionable and paid a high price. My second marriage, now of 25 years has been so different and much happier!

Never really thought about this as when I was younger I was quite happy to play the field and never bothered about settling down

Very surprising percentages. Thought the number who married the first time would have been a lot higher,

I made the mistake of marrying for love. My husband was an educated, charming, popular ex-army officer working as an accountant. When I was 5 months pregnant with our son he left in a car he had not paid for. I did not know where he was and eventually divorced him by newspaper advertisement - desertion and neglect to maintain. I discovered he had left behind debts I knew nothing about and nothing to do with me. Over the years I managed to work and save to buy a home for my son and self. I learned my lesson and decided not to remarry though I received many proposals - even some of marriage!

Been married for over 40 years and there have been some very miserable moments but who is to say that things would have been any better with someone else? May as well stick with it now.

As I said earlier it is our 50th Wedding Anniversary on 27 February and we have decided that we do not want to jet off anywhere by ourselves. Our daughters and Grandchildren are part of that 50 years and therefore the only celebration we want is with them so it will be one big happy family meal at our house. Why go away and spend it with strangers?

I married at 19 and was on my own with 2 small children at 22! My first husband left me for an 18 year old but at least they got married and are still together! I remarried and things were OK for a while but we separated after about 15 years. I met my third husband 20 years ago and so far so good!!!

The sad thing is that the boys rarely see their birth father but my husband is considered to be Grandad to all the grandchildren and a very good grandad he is too!

Feel very happy and blessed to have been married for 52 years. I was only 18 when we married, had our ups and downs of course, but have supported each other through thick and thin.

If I had said yes, that would deny my lovely family its existence. Its too simplistic to say you married the wrong person the first time, things go wrong, people change. What I do say is my second husband is definitely the right person for me and I wish I could have had a family with him. However I have a step family now as well as my own and we are both very happy.

Thought it was love but it wasn't

50th Anniversary in July 2015 I was 15 he was 23. We have 2 daughters and 4 grandchildren. I love him to bits good friends as well as lovers, we have had our ups and downs (who does'nt?)) BUt we have always supported each other.

Sadly I stayed married for 37 years to a man I didn't like...stayed for the family and his " position" in society. Now I'm FREE to be me , at last...and a lot happier.

Our Golden Wedding anniversary in February 2015.

We were right at the time but grew out of each other!

l definitely did not marry the right person the first time round,

Although l do not regret it as think it was a path of life and l have a wonderful son from it.

I married the right person first, and second time, around. My first husband collapsed and died suddenly when we had only been married a few years, leaving me a widow at 25 with two small children.
I've now been happily married to my second soul mate for almost forty years, we have grown closer as we have grown older together.

Met my first wife in the Army, she was also in it. We became friends and lovers in a short time, all to short as it turned out.
I went to Kenya for 3 years and didn't want to be on my own so we got married. Then incompatibility set in and from there it was all downhill. My current wife is the light of my life and we have been together for 38 years so far. AB FAB.

married my wife in 1970 divorced in 1984 got back together in 1986 remarried in 1990 still together love her and our 13 grandkids as much as I ever did.

...met when we were 16, and she was 17.. In 1970.. I joined the Royal Air Force and got to travel around a bit and loved it. We married in 1972 when I was 18 and she was 19.. that was the mistake, we weren't in love, we were in love with the idea of being in love.. We had to live apart until I could get some married quarters sorted, and then when I did she joined me. We later found out that we expecting a child and we were over the moon, I was particularly pleased as she was home sick and I thought that the child would help settle her down.. Our baby daughter was born in the February of 1973 and she was beautiful, I thought that this would be the perfect solution to her being home sick.. That was the start of the problems.. her parents had to come down to see their Grandchild (They couldn't wait until I got some leave and visited them), A fortnight later, as they were preparing to go, the mother-in-law suggested that mother and child go back to the North-east with them for a (Break) as I was going on detachment soon anyway.. from then on, it was all down hill, she spent more time with her parents than she did with me, her excuse always being that I was always going away..! I reminded her that that's what happens in the armed force's and that I had no control over it. In the end I gave up the married quarters and moved back into barracks.. when I eventually left the RAF, we ended up living with her interfering parents again for about a year, we did eventually get our own house, but by then the rot had set in, my wife wasn't running the home, her mother was.. after a while, I couldn't take it any more, I gave her the option to move away with me to another part of the country where I had landed a fantastic job with a good salary. She refused, saying that she wouldn't be able to settle, and her mother was complaining that she wouldn't see her or the grandchildren and that I was been selfish..?.. so, I stayed there, got made redundant, was unemployed for about four years, and we had drifted apart because of the constant arguments about work and money. She would nag at me about getting a job, and I would reply to her that 'I had one, but you wouldn't leave your mother's apron strings'. In the end the fighting got too bad and we divorced... I've since remarried, and, I honestly wish that, had it not been for the children, that I'd met my present wife first. I've never been so happy and contented, and although we are both now in ill health, we still look after each other and do anything we can for each other..

Met at work 37 years ago and married 3 months later. My colleagues tutted and said it could never last.
There have been times when I could have cheerfully murdered him but then I look at some of my friends husbands and realise what a treasure I have so I think I'll stick with him as long as I can.

I was married for 20years before I realised I had married the wrong man.Had 3 lovely girls, now have 2 granchildren, so no regrets about that!! Really envious but happy for all those who made the right decision from the start! Still live in hope!!

I married after 6 weeks 'courtship' in 1972, I was just 21 & he was just 22. We didn't tell our families until after the event! We were married30 years & had 6 children whom we both love. We did our best to pull together but after the children grew up we split up... I left as I couldn't face spending the rest of my life with someone who I had nothing in common with. It was a good decision for both of us, & we are both happy again, him remarried to someone compatible & me happily unmarried & very busy with all sorts of things!

I think I did. Been married for 45 years. Been through the rough and the smooth and been some very happy times. Too easy to divorce nowadays, you need to work at a marrage.

40th Anniversary in July 2014 and Ruthy still puts up with me. Yes it has had its ups and downs - and we had to work on living together. But from the moment we met we never stopped talking - and we both have many interests in common. It is not all fun and frolics (!) - but it is worth it. Something about when the going gets tough the tough get going - as long as it's not straight out the door and never to return! Good luck to all newlyweds. I got very lucky indeed! (Michael Brightman The Mystery Factor ebook)

My first was all I had hoped for however I soon found out that he was up to no good and was a prolific cheater. Fast forward 10 years or more and my knight in shining armour turned up and we have had the best nearly 17 years of our lives. I am a firm believer that there is someone for everyone out there

I was happily married for 10 years had 2 lovely children then he decided to trade me in for a girl half his age needless to say they soon split up then I met and married a lovely guy had two more children.we have been together for over 30yrs and are very happy

I met my husband when I was 14 and he was 15 in 1962. We married when I was 16 and he was 17. We had a very hard time at the beginning but have just celebrated our Golden Wedding Anniversary and I love him more than ever. We are still the best of friends as well as husband and wife. I just can't imagine life without him, he is like my right arm.

I married the most fantastic woman. When I was 20. And she was 19. We had two children. and we were so happy. Then my world collapsed. After 15 years of happy marriage. She was taken form me. Cancer had killed her. Its been almost 30 years since that day. But my love and longing for her. Has never died.

Yes I did,caring ,sharing and lots of patience,:)

Yes I definitely married the right lady. Still very happily married! The secret? I do as I am told!

Happy to say I married the right man first time round! We've been married for nearly 30 years; I was a child bride! We also work together too ... No one else could put up with him! 😉