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Are you having enough fun?

The key to longevity if you’re middle-aged is to simply have fun, say experts.

British scientists have found that over-50s who consistently enjoy life cut their risk of dying in the next seven years by a quarter.

A team from University College London tracked more than 9,000 men and women in their 50s and 60s living in England.

The researchers suspect this may be because someone’s general mood can alter the levels of harmful and beneficial hormones in their body.

Simply being happy reduces stress and anxiety hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol, which can be a burden on the heart and raise blood pressure.

Previous studies have found those who are less stressed have lower cholesterol levels, are less prone to inflammation, have a better immune response and higher levels of antioxidants in the blood.

As well as this, if you are miserable, you are more likely to smoke and drink to unhealthy levels.

The findings come after a study published last week by the Harvard School of Public Health found that optimists lived longer.

The scientists found that having an optimistic outlook was linked to a significantly reduced risk of dying from cancer, heart disease, stroke, respiratory disease and infection.

So what are your views? Do you have a high level of enjoyment in your life? Would you describe yourself as an optimist or a pessimist? Are you generally happy with your life?

Are you having enough fun?

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janetcarrington
18th Aug 2017
0
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I would have more fun if the wall of mobile phones was taken down for an hour or so. So just to be listened to would turn out to be fun - albeit these are pretty low expectations from myself. Then of course when the great grandchildren come round, there is plenty of fun.
Niktaw
20th Mar 2017
0
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Retiring was the best thing we ever did. We had our own businesses and the children say 'sell them and spend it, we never see you' so we sold them, we are spending it and the children never see us! Well we do do grandparent duties now and then which also makes us happy, even when the 3yr old calls her grandad a numpty.
We laugh everyday.
Kazzaj
1st Mar 2017
1
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I have fun with my grandchildren 3 under 5 they are great! I have fun at work with residents I love to see them smile I try to be cheerful most of the time. I don't mind being daft or laughing at myself. I haven't got the perfect life far from it but I put a smile on my face and get on with it!
Yorkshireborn
28th Feb 2017
4
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Fun is what you make it even just walking into your local shop with a smile on your face makes everyone around you feel better talk to others at bus stops you will be amazed at the results lots of people just stand around afraid of the idea of conversation I know some people who go days without talking to anyone and others who never stop talking or interacting with other people fun is what you make it if you don't make it you won't have it
gailyp63
23rd Feb 2017
1
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i got motto enjoy today you will never get a replay. A day without laughter is a dull day i sing making up my own words ,try to run in my own style ,dance two left feet but laugh at myself .
gerryburne
13th Feb 2017
0
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I am stuck living with a person who says that she hates me and who from time to time demonstrates that with verbal abuse. There isn't enough money for us to live separately and week after week my lotto numbers fail to come up. It looks to me that I can only hope for the best and keep my constructive attitude to life as I plod along on the long uphill struggle to the grave.
Pauline64
10th Feb 2017
0
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I'm in a rut at the moment have no get up and go feel old before my time and I'm only 52
geo9
10th Feb 2017
0
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I am finding having fun very difficult, you see I lost my wife Ann to cancer on 12/10/20016, so it is hard to just go and have fun, I'm still in shock of it all.
We were so very much in love, just ambling along enjoying what we had together, then BLAMM, it hit us like an atomic bomb, it knocked the stuffing right out of us, Ann more than me, my poor little darling, she should never have been one to have got this devil inside her................
jeanniet
10th Feb 2017
0
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I've no friends locally with enough in common to have fun with. I'd love a bit of fun again
geo9
10th Feb 2017
0
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Jeanniet, why can you not invite those you know to come stop over for a night or so.
ecarg
10th Feb 2017
0
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Fun ,silliness having a laugh,great humourus moments to be recalled in times of sorrow or discontentment. Good idea,but how do you actually make them happen? Difficult if youv'e only got the cat for company his days of fun are long gone unless of course he is indulging in private jokes at my expense.or communicating with the neighbours in some pussy cat language unknown to me,
I'm not sure I ever did fun it seems to make me a little uncomfortable ,but I do find some things funny like Fork Handles
Andre Previn and other classic TV moments.
I am content and mostly happy and when I;m not I wallow in some tears and very seldom a tantrum aimed at the cat who flicks his whiskers in disgust and leaves to complain of his lot to our long suffering feline understanding neighbours.Miawow
nagonthenet
31st Jan 2017
0
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How can you have fun if you've got to work till you drop? when do you have time? Pension Age increased to 66.
Jenninora
2nd Feb 2017
1
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Yes, that is true. We are told to take the changes. But what is the purpose of work? I work for different reasons. The money is the main reason for most. If one can see the other reasons, fills time in a part of a day, enjoy what one works at, company and keeping our mind active. All of these reasons can lead to a quality of free time to indulge in something more lighthearted. Simpler pleasures and alighting of thinking and step.
Yodama
31st Jan 2017
0
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I agree bornardinho. it is exhausting trying to be jolly, mantras of positivity spouted throughout every avenue of communication. TV full of grinning idiots and elevated hyperactive jocularity. In this frame of mind, their voices take on tones of the Chipmunk on steroids.
Far better to watch a fallen leaf float down a stream and bet how far it goes before getting stuck.
I have fun playing my computer games, no grinning there ( unless I slay a super monster).
Different strokes for different folks!
Jenninora
28th Jan 2017
0
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Yes Bornardino. I would agree. What is Fun ????
Life to be lived is the mixture we as each human has. But a situation in which one can have great laughter is a tonic. Just as food in the correct balance is fun to make and eat for the health and wellbeing. As children we had what was our fun of innocence, learning and experience. Thinking back to my childhood and teenage life I lived by my wits even then. Down the years since that time life is of little and large packages. Some more difficult to open and live than others. Such is life!!! The hardest part for some that are bearing the scars of life, is to look at them as weighty and unsightly and not let them dwell in the mind and quell a passion for fun moments.
bornardinho
27th Jan 2017
0
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Fun is vastly overrated. We seem obliged these days to howl with delight even as we are about to crash our bicycle into the undergrowth, for example. (See above photo).
Let's face it, life is not always pleasurable. Suffering exists. I suspect it's healthier to accept this rather than continually strive to be positive all the time.
There's nothing wrong with a moment of quiet, slightly melancholic reflection.
LollyF
17th Jan 2017
0
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Just can't get motivated.
Mari
6th Jan 2017
0
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Every day my husband and I wake up and think how lucky we are, to be honest we have friends who have not been so lucky and makes us realise how lucky we are and to enable us to enjoy life I feel we also have to care about each other and have a positive view in life....hard at times, but try to turn something bad into something good. And celebrate the good things we have.
tammypettifer
5th Jan 2017
0
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I can't say that I have a lot of fun because honestly I don't!

I am disabled and practically housebound. However I am still the optimist, I see the preverbial glass as half full, instead of half empty. My husband who is ten years my senior, is the pessimist and he manages to get out and have fun at least once every fortnight.

I have recently started crocheting and this makes me happy. My laptop is almost always switched on so I can keep in touch with the outside world.

You don't have to leave the house to have fun I suppose. The most important thing for me is to be happy with my lot and for this I am grateful.
Yodama
11th Jan 2017
1
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Love your upbeat attitude tammypettifer ( whew, mouthful) . I love people like you, see good things in otherwise not so good situations.
Here's a glass ( half full) to you!
Debs2017
31st Dec 2016
2
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Think I've forgotten to have fun, time for a re think. Let the fun begin. Lol.
MorrisandDoris
27th Dec 2016
2
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It depends what most people call fun, I would define it by saying fun is basically having a good laugh at other people or with them!
Yodama
3rd Jan 2017
1
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Sometimes there are no people involved, just splashing in the waves.
Yodama
27th Dec 2016
2
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Very true, I have seen the results of these studies.
My maxim has always been " if you think it, you can make it happen, train your brain".
I have read some good books about this very subject.

My life has been a disaster and if I allow myself to dwell on it, I know I will succumb to depression and who knows what else. Psychosomatic illnesses are sometimes a result of holding onto pain.

I choose to see the bright humerous side of life, there is absolutely nothing I can do about the past. Glass half full kind of person. My health is terrific. Maybe it has got something to do with attitude after all!
tammypettifer
5th Jan 2017
0
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Well said LittleMinx!
anume222
27th Dec 2016
4
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Do more of whatever makes you happy. Have a deep gut wrenching good laugh, even if it's at yourself. "A merry heart doeth like good medicine." Proverbs 17:22. Get naked, yes I said naked, turn up the music and dance your ass off throughout your home, who cares what the neighbors think, this is for you. I would never have made it through cancer without laughter, music, family and being of service to others. It allowed me to cope and I'm still here full of joy. I've lost loved ones, yet I don't ask God why, I humbly asked for peace in the midst of my broken pieces. No, it is not fun losing loved ones, but you have to take care of yourself in the midst of your grief and allow yourself time and space to heal. You will get through your journey because life is meant to be lived, It's ok to laugh, it may even be helpful by releasing the stress of negative emotions, so give yourself permission to laugh, have fun and be alive. I pray that God sends his healing angels your way and give you peace.
Yodama
3rd Jan 2017
1
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Best advice anume222,
I salute your courage and optimism.
Superman
24th Dec 2016
3
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How can it be fun, when you lose the ones you love!
cloudless13
24th Dec 2016
5
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Its so sad to see those we love, family and friends leaving us.
It seems so unfair, however I try to deal with life now one day at a time, yes remember our dear love ones yet try to live for today, not worry to much about tomorrow until it arrives.

The clock tics and time is fairly short now, so I guess grabbing every little sun ray of light and happiness is my way of living life to the full. Even on a bad day to look for just one small spark no matter how small it might be brings us warmth, something to smile about and if we are lucky we make some good friends.
Lionel
24th Dec 2016
3
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Cloudless, yes, life seems very unfair, but it is just. People are born, and by reason of that fact they must pass on, eventually. We must go too. Yes, the clock is ticking for all of us. Me too.

The state of dying and I are not strangers, I've seen much of it. But there's one here on SS who has seen much more of death than I.

May I suggest that these days we do not accept so easily what our ancestors knew as a part of life. Death.

May I also suggest we do not any longer understand that contentment and inner joy is the main stay of our existance. May I suggest also that death is not an end, no, it is a beginning; we do not quite see that, but I believe it to be a fact.

Let us rejoice in that we have had the company of these lovely people, these precious animals who have enriched our present lives.

Let us be glad for them, all of them, that they are out of this horrible turmoil which is this century; wars, rumours of wars, pestililence and disease; family break downs and the all pervading assault on everything we know and hold dear.

Let us turn our sorrow to gladness - they do not face the uncertainties of a tomorrow which we do; they are safe from tomorrow.

Be glad, they are safe, as we will be one day.
Lionel
24th Dec 2016
3
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Fun, as we understand that now, is but ephemera. Flim flam that comes and goes in the blinking of an eye.

How much better to understand losing loved ones is in the order of things, the natural order. In time, others will think much the same when we are gone.

If we concentrate only on earthly things, the things of this life, then our grief will always be unquenchable. But look to eternal and unchangeable things and our grief turns to joy.

Joy? Yes, they're out of this horrible mess, oh what joy, and we will soon be in that place too.
MrsPat
28th Dec 2016
1
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I think as you get older you tend to see little things as wonderful as you say like good friends and sunshine
Yodama
3rd Jan 2017
0
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Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.
Khalil Gibran
Jazzy27
24th Dec 2016
2
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Fun! Whats that? I dont usually even see anyone over the Christmas period let alone have fun. I sadly gave up on that......
Wilf
24th Dec 2016
2
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Hi Jazzy, lots of friendly people on here so I think you will make lots of new friends-have a nice Christmas-regards, Wilf
Lochinvar
24th Dec 2016
1
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I agree with you it's not as much "fun" as it used to be and some people you don't want to see...
cloudless13
26th Dec 2016
1
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Dear Jazzy27

You are far to young to give up on having fun. I know we all have a history, some of us its been a very tough past. However please don't give up. There is always something to enjoy, something to make you smile, and if lucky laugh. Its never to late for anything.
MrsPat
28th Dec 2016
2
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You must have some fun times? Even at this time of year with the cold weather there are wonderful things to do and see...just seeing birds feeding in the garden brings me a smile!
MikeBR
22nd Dec 2016
3
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for a number of years I suffered with mobility problems culminating in getting a replacement knee 4 years ago. The new knee forced me into going to the gym 3 mornings a week which my wife also joined. We now have a great social life meeting lots of people past retirement age who exercise [some just their jaw muscles, LOL] for all sorts of reasons, Some medical, some for weight loss, some for exercise, but we all have a really good blether at the same time ( some more than others) We also have nights out at Classical concerts, Rock & Roll & Soul Nights, wine dinners. But most of all we all have fun and enjoy life. But there are lots of organisations to make friends & have fun like U3A, 'Mens Sheds' to name but two. which we have also since joined. But if you don't get out there and put yourself about you will just stagnate and become 'boring old farts'.
Soo
22nd Dec 2016
5
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The secret is to have fun where ever you are and whatever you are doing, life can be depressing so having fun is the best medicine.
My hubby and I are bikers, we have been all our married life. We are now in our 60's and still enjoy a ride out on 1 of our 6 bikes. It's great fun and we will continue to do it for as long as we are able.
JohnHerb
22nd Dec 2016
5
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The key is to keep active if possible and health permitting. Also helps if you have good friends even if you only see them occasionally. I keep in touch with many old friends and family via email and skype and we are very modern as some of us even use whatsapp app which is just brilliant and we can share photos and jokes on it
yahsue
22nd Dec 2016
4
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Lol, can never have enough fun !
Frank
22nd Dec 2016
4
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Why not make your own fun by talking to people and animals lol
JohnHerb
22nd Dec 2016
5
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We have a lot of fun talking to our dogs. Dogs relieve tension and stress as most are such characters
Lionel
22nd Dec 2016
2
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Johnherb, that is so true! My Collies answer back if they're dissatisfied with my discussion. But they are such good company.
Rachel
1st Jan 2017
1
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Animals are amazing especially dogs. I rescued my little girl nearly 4 years ago, best thing I've ever done. She gives me a reason to get out of bed in the morning, to go out and stop and chat to people and keep active.
She is my little furry bundle of life and love.
Happy New Year
Rachel xx
fiona hannah
22nd Dec 2016
4
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Having good friends is the key. Despite being widowed 14years ago and still missing my husband I do feel that I am able to have fun when I'm with them.
JudiCat63
22nd Dec 2016
4
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I don't really know much about "fun" After a childhood of abuse, an unhappy marriage which ended 27 years ago via divorce, I became just a Mother for many years then just worked as many hours as I could until my health fell apart! Since then it has been very much a single life. The pain of being hurt again stops me from doing much. I work part time & I sing in a choir.
I have sent out cards & gifts, but very few will come my way. It's very lonely as my daughter is travelling around the world & is in NZ - so it takes a huge amount of arranging to talk to eachother. Sadly my son has cut me out of his life for reasons I do not know - I have reached out to him, left the door open & welcoming should he want to come back. I have just lost a cat who had only just turned 8 which was unexpected - this time out year is awful - 4 family deaths & 2 pet deaths - so my home is not decorated for Christmas, I feel a tad like scrooge I guess - as in it's just another day - for me nothing special.
So Nope! Not having much in the way of fun!
JohnHerb
22nd Dec 2016
2
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Sorry to hear that JudiCat. Could your daughter not talk to you on Skype. I talk to friends and family who live away. Also if you had a whatssapp account you could use this to message your daughter all the time and she could send you photos of her travels in New Zealand. It's all totally free and you can find it on apps
JudiCat63
22nd Dec 2016
2
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~I/we use messenger & Facebook - it's just she is working & I am working so our times are very limited - they are 13 hours ahead which means a very early or very late call!
Technology speaking I have a MSc in it - IT/Computing - so that side of it is ok - we also use VOIP on our mobile phones which makes calls seem very close - no time delay.
JohnHerb
22nd Dec 2016
1
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Thanks JudiCat. Og ok you know more than the majority of us about the internet then! Yes I suppose that New Zealand is so far away
Lionel
22nd Dec 2016
3
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Judicat, it's so good to hear from you again. We last spoke on the Brexit thread, well before the referendum. I put in for the post of Agriculture minister!

Judicat, I too have been through this very dark place, a place where all seems bleak - few if any can be trusted, everyone else is happy and enjoying themselves whilst you ... well, you are grieving over so many losses and suffering so much pain, a pain no one may enter into, just you. It seems death is all around, who is next? My cat, dog, or the only friend I have? Sickened of death and funerals. Yet no one wants to know.

I too worked myself silly, driving a truck through two tachos - trucker's speak for working two shifts, illegally - irresponsible I know, but company wasn't something I wanted. Just needed to purge the pain of deaths and marriage break-up. But whatever I attempted didn't work. It takes time, just time. But time wasn't granted me. Whilst hauling 38 tonnes of truck on the M40 a heart seizure occurred. Lost my class 1 licence.

The only work I could find was as a male carer for the chronically ill, geriatrics and those, sadly, terminally ill. In empathising, not sympathising, with these people my personal pain faded.

Their place was far worse than my own; For each person or couple I stayed with there was no way out; the end was already known, just not quite when. And with that came the fear of death. But as I sat with them, holding their hands quite often, a different 'me' was forged. When a death occurred, often in my arms, yes, sometimes I would cry. Men don't cry, right? Wrong! This man learned to cry in those days.

I had been so self absorbed - consumed by what others had done to me, consumed by the hand fate had dealt me.

Please understand Judicat, I'm not saying self absorption is you, but it was me. My inner peace came by reaching out to others less fortunate than myself. Striking out, going against the current, doing the other thing, taking a risk that something very unpleasant was sure to happen.

Keep in contact Judicat, people like you give life to a place like this and you have so much life to give.
JollyB
22nd Dec 2016
4
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Unfortunately when one ceases to be a 'We' and becomes an 'I' it is easier to remember past fun than find it in the present. Keeping busy helps.
themgs
22nd Dec 2016
2
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We have invested in a small motorhome and can now explore at our ease, allowing us to continue where we left off with tenting. Something we both thoroughly enjoy.
MrsPat
21st Dec 2016
2
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I am having more fun than when I was a child. I enjoy life and lucky to be healthy and have good friends. We go on a few holidays and eat nice food and have our children who we have loots of laughter and fun with
@Conway 11
20th Dec 2016
2
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I think fun is a personal feeling, we all get it from different things. So one persons fun could be another's nightmare. So choose carefully and enjoy a mixed and varied life.
Moona068
20th Dec 2016
2
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I can say i am not having nearly enough fun. I am trying to find new activities to get involved in.
scandiman
17th Dec 2016
3
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Sorry to be a bore, but can you define 'fun'?
Wilf
17th Dec 2016
3
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I would say fun is in a state of enjoying yourself and probably with other people as well. Lighthearted and uplifting.
Lionel
18th Dec 2016
2
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Excellent. Well said, Wilf!

May I add the words 'distracting from the present'?
JohnHerb
22nd Dec 2016
0
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Same as enjoyment just having a good time-laughter is the main tonic in life
Lionel
16th Dec 2016
5
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Oh, fun. Isn't fun heightened by the bad times, a counterpoint?

My home is stricken by chronic illness, and yet, even through the bad days, there is a repartee between my wife and I that is fun to us.

Fun is watching my Collies just be dogs when out on a free range run.

Fun is teasing my teen aged step grand daughter - she always responds with something clever and witty.

Fun is that momentary glance between lovers, no matter how old, that moment of frisson.

Fun is that off the cuff remark that sparks laughter, even on dark days.

Fun is that moment when our eyes meet, we know the other's thoughts and break down in hilarious laughter, but daren't say why.

Fun, yes, there's loads of it around. You don't even need to look for it, because it just happens.
Wilf
17th Dec 2016
4
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Love your post Lionel-very clever!
Lionel
17th Dec 2016
3
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Thanks Wilf. It's a brief summary of having fun in our circumstances.
Wilf
17th Dec 2016
3
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Yes maybe it doesn't come so naturally as we get older but its vital to keep enjoying the wonderful gift of life we all have!
Prosseco
16th Dec 2016
6
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I try to have fun my grandchildren keep me young. My husband and I are off to Barcelona tomorrow to have some fun.
Wilf
16th Dec 2016
4
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Hope you have a great time Prosseco...we love that city!
houn66
16th Dec 2016
6
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Keeping active means a lot to me. Just turned 70 and enjoy Nordic Walking.I lead 2 groups and combined with walking our cocker walk an average of 30 mike's a week. Have also joined U3A and never having played a musical instrument am learning to play the ukulele. Plenty to do even at my age.Life is good.
Kes
16th Dec 2016
5
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I think many people would say that they had more fun when they were younger. I don't agree with that. It was just a different kind of fun. I think as you grow older, fun becomes more important and there are many different ways to enjoy it. I also think you appreciate it more when you are older.
Marley444
15th Dec 2016
6
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I think I am mostly optimistic in life, although I do worry a lot and over think sometimes, but then I do like to be in control. Since I reached my fifties I have become very aware of how precious life is and try to live it to the full. My mum always taught me that behaviour breeds behaviour, so I do try and remember this and try to be happy, as this reflects on all around me.
Wilf
15th Dec 2016
4
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Yes we try to. We go cycling as well around the country lanes here but not so much in winter. I think you have to keep having fun or whats the point in living? Fun meets friends at the pub or just feeling its a lovely day and gardening for me

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