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Have motorists forgotten their manners?

One in five people have been threatened or involved in a physical altercation on Scotland’s roads, a survey suggests.

Almost half of road users in Scotland (49%), including motorists, cyclists and pedestrians, said they have faced aggression, while more than a third have been shouted at (38%), sworn at or insulted (36%) and 58% have been tailgated, research found.

Meanwhile, 14% of those questioned said they have been threatened physically and a further 7% have been involved in a physical altercation.

Auto Trader, which released the research, has launched a campaign urging people to alter the way they treat fellow road users.

The campaign is backed by Olympic gold medal-winning cyclist and now jockey Victoria Pendleton, and British Paralympian athlete Lauren Steadman.

Pendleton said: “These results show that we can all help make Britain’s roads a more pleasant place to be. As someone that cycles, horse rides, drives and walks I know things could be better.

“Instead of swearing at each other, let’s swear to change the way we treat our fellow road users.

“We all have an equal right to be on the road so let’s be more compassionate and considerate to others and see what change we can drive.”

The figures showed one in five joggers and one in eight cyclists were caught up in a physical altercation last year.

Nearly a third of runners and a fifth of cyclists said they were left feeling scared for their safety after the incident.

What do you think? Have motorists forgotten their manners? Have you been a victim of road rage? Or perhaps you’ve shouted at another driver in the past? What prompted you to do so? Should drivers be more compassionate? Share your views at Speakers Corner.

Have motorists forgotten their manners?

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Nellyliew
27th May 2019
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I live in China where road rage is almost unheard of. People cut into each other all the time but it's accepted. No one has murderous feelings for another. road user. It's not seen as "cutting in", more "nudging your way through"..
Mrchipps1
14th May 2019
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I believe that sadly far too many motorists have forgotten not only manners when driving but on an every day basis, we as kids were taught to ensure that ladies walked near the walls and not the road, we also had to open doors for ladies and girls and also wait until a lady had sat down before we did. and never begin to eat until everyone had been served. sadly there is no more manners or morals in our lives today, and to me that is a big shame
arabella
10th May 2019
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Driving should be an enjoyable experience. No person should have to experience road rage from any road user. Unfortunately this is how it is these days.
Increased road congestion and stressed road users
I feel the easiest way to avoid becoming a victim of road rage. Slow down pull over and park up in a safe location if possible Should you find you're stuck in a gridlock road traffic queues. Don't make eye contact with the person. Keep your windows closed and your doors locked. During the years I've driven. I've only experienced it a couple of times.
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fhsgb
4th Mar 2019
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Problem seems to be drivers do not know how to drive.Yes they have passed there test,no road experience,never cycled anywhere,never ridden a two wheeled vehicle and as vehicles are getting more and more safety features making drivers lazy,so all they can do,is race away and drive on there breaks,not stopping for any one.
Shaz1062
3rd Mar 2019
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Too many people are in too much of a hurry, putting themselves first. Road manners see quite often to have gone out of the window. Too many people tailgate without any consideration for safety, purely trying to intimidate the driver in front, in the hope that they'll get out of the way! Parking is also an issue. Too many people don't park properly in their space, often rendering the space next to them unuseable or parking too far away from the kerb.
Costezuela
27th Feb 2019
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On a recent visit to the UK I was once again confronted with the usual aggressive and arrogant attitude of a large majority if drivers. I do think a large part of the problem can be linked to the lack of discipline in schools/homes and the 'pussy footing' attitude of the 'do-gooders' and politically correct brigade. If children (who then become adults) are taught discipline and where the boundaries are then theywill grow up respecting others!
I live in Spain where, although the traffic is much lighter it still travels quite fast and with little regard of other users but without the aggression of the UK - The same can be said of other European countries, it's just the UK that has the 'me me me' mentality.
Not2grey
24th Feb 2019
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Lane hogging , tailgating no acknowledgment when you let people out of side roads - um yep I think I can safely say that some motorists have lost their manners .In my experience it is usually BMW /Audi and Chelsea tracto drivers .
StephenA3
28th Feb 2019
1
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I’m a BMW driver and I don’t lane hog or tail gate, I always acknowledge people who let me out of a side road (well I will the first time someone does) and I leave a gap at roundabouts and road junctions even when there isn’t a yellow box telling me I should (do they still teach learner drivers about yellow box junctions? They are one thing very few drivers seem to know about these days).
Not2grey
1st Mar 2019
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Well Stephen I think you might be that very rare thing a considerate BMW driver in a survey they were found to be the worst . I was speaking from my personal experience .Yesterday tails gated by 3 BMWs on th A1 cut up on the M62 by an Audi that decided he couldn't be bothered getting into the right lane and just swept across from the fast lane , past the overtaking lane and cutting me up in the slow lane - but that's fine he managed to get off the motorway by driving over the cross hatching at the exit and forcing more responsible drivers to brake in the slip lane .
Retiredyorkie
23rd Feb 2019
2
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Ask the majority of drivers today what are road manners they would probably say what are they ? - like all the rest of good manners in life - the seem to have gone out of the window.
traceyann66
22nd Feb 2019
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Of course they have no manners or consideration at all, I was in the wrong lane not so long ago and the bloke behind me tried to ram me off the road, shouting swearing blowing his horn in a hissy fit, I stood my ground and he followed me home, I thought here we go, so I got out of my car after parking up outside my house ready for a war of words, he turned around and drove off like a little upset child, shame as I was ready lol
Jean25
22nd Feb 2019
2
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. Manners seem to be a thing of the past. People in too much of a hurry to get to where they are going. We are living in an age of Me.Me Me, and with no thought for others. Slow down and get there in one piece and enjoy the ride and take in the view.
Felix1
21st Feb 2019
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Driving is stressful. There is more traffic on the roads. Our motorways are chockablock most days.
Snowy19
16th Feb 2019
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I think our fast paced lives are responsible for the lack of manners when driving....everyone rushing to get somewhere. I like to take the time to enjoy each journey......my children however are always “in a rush”.........thoughts?
viking
14th Feb 2019
1
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With all of the "pleasure giving" drugs now on sale via every drug dealer in this country, it really is not surprising that aggression is now to the fore amongst certain motorists after partaking of their favourite snort, and then ripping up along roads.
LynnS51
14th Feb 2019
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I am not convinced that young drivers have forgotten their manners as I am sure they didn't learn them in the first place
AlisonP24
13th Feb 2019
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I think a lot of it is frustration, with our all too busy roads. I think its patience that has been lost, and that causes the bad manners.
Lionel
13th Feb 2019
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Surely the way we drive is an expression of our real selves, in just the same way as art and hand writing give away the inner us.

If that is the case, and I believe it to be so, then may God help the generations after us.
Megsy58
11th Feb 2019
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As a pedestrian I can often encounter good manners where drivers allow me to cross the road when I am waiting at a junction, which I am grateful for, but it's amazing how many don't especially if it's raining, and how many do not use indicators, we pedestrians need to see which way you are going too! Quite a number of drivers can change their mind about turning into a road regardless of people crossing it, or they just can't be bothered to indicate. They also fail to see red lights!! I almost got ran over the other day whilst crossing a road whilst the green man was flashing, he just followed the other 3 that thought it was ok to go through a red light. I thought I was on the dodgems.
And please don't start me on how many are still using mobile phones, that is just plain disregard for any one including themselves and many times their children in the car.
I can drive but will no longer will after seeing how people drive whilst walking and using public transport, I'm only surprised there are not more accidents on the road.
RichardHT
8th Feb 2019
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It depends where you live/drive. The higher the density of people/traffic the worse road manners become.
StephenA3
28th Feb 2019
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There was a classic series of experiments using rats that showed the problem with density. Four families of rats were placed in a large square enclosure. In the centre was a pile of nesting materials, food and water. Each family took a corner and stared nest building. The central “store” of food, water and nest materials was kept constantly full so there was no competition for them. The four families coexisted quite happily until the nests grew close enough to touch each other. There then started a constant battle between the four, So drivers are just rats competing for inadequate space on the roads. This is why building more roads isn’t the answer. All that does is produce more cars. Motoring is effectively too easily available. Make petrol a £100 gallon and the roads will empty overnight.
Alicia
8th Feb 2019
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Yes they have and so many are very bad drivers too. We have seen a couple of instances recently where drivers did not give way to ambulances with sirens going !!!
mweed
8th Feb 2019
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People are generally very selfish on the roads
HJR58
8th Feb 2019
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Not everyone, but many people. I’ve had cars stop right in front of me across a junction when they’re in standing traffic and I’m indicating to turn right. I don’t think many drivers have adequate awareness of what’s going on around them.
StephenA3
8th Feb 2019
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I think your awareness point goes right to the heart of the matter. Very few people seem to look ahead and try to anticipate situations like blocking junctions. I remember the TV ads for “yellow box junctions” telling people how they should be used. The tag line was “yellow box junctions - making us all do what the good drivers have been doing for years” As regards use of rear view mirrors and looking behind then there are even few people doing that than there are looking ahead. We live close to a busy hospital and so blue light ambulances are fairly common on local roads. Blue light in the rear view mirror and and two tone horns have me looking for somewhere to Pull over to let them past. However, these days this quite often results in an angry honk of the horn from the car behind, them overtaking and making rude hand gestures as they pass. They then bock the ambulance! However, I’m in my late 50s so as a grumpy old man I shouldn’t be allowed on the roads anyway!
SueC62
8th Feb 2019
1
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Whilst I don't ride any more, I hold a full motorcycle licence and still employ the same 'life savers' that I learnt when on two wheels. Indicating at roundabouts both before I get on and when coming off. I'm regularly the only person doing so! Carrying out an over the left shoulder look before moving off or turning left as well as glancing over the right shoulder before turning right.

I use the motorway regularly and observe people who think an indication to pull in to the right hand lane means they have right of way and they either push in, causing me to break or give me the V sign or similar if I don't do this. Then the opposite, when I indicate to pull in to the right hand lane to do so after they have passed me, they slam their breaks on to let me out! It's not polite and it's a danger to those behind. Drivers in the inside lane, refusing to move to the clear middle lane to allow traffic coming on from the slip road causing wagons to break and have to go down through their multiple gears. Those who have no idea what the rear view mirror is or not looking ahead of the vehicle in front. And the middle lane "I've picked my lane and I'm sticking to it." hoggers who I've now noticed have gravitated to use the 3rd land on the 4 lane motorways.

Until a few months ago, I drove a 2litre Insignia but now have a little Adam. I've noticed a difference in how other drivers, particularly on the motorway react to me. It's as if being in a little car, they think I won't know what I'm doing and should get out of their way, whether it's possible or not.
Mary Rammy
7th Feb 2019
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I think some motorists have not forgotten their manners because they never knew them in the first place. The culture is such that every driver is under is under pressure and some try to cut corners to the detriment of other motorists. Some drivers see a woman driving and try to bully her, whilst some women drivers seem to think they have right of way whenever they are on the road . The majority of drivers are well mannered, but they suffer because of the minority.
Mary Rammy
Lynb50
7th Feb 2019
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The road culture has changed dramatically,

There is no such thing as a give way line.

Most cars no longer have indicators!

Do U turns where ever and just stop randomly, as you please and start reserving, oh and don't worry about looking in your mirror it's a useless requirement.
Yodama
6th Feb 2019
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Apart from the odd rude and careless individual, I find drivers in this country most polite.
Driving in the UK is almost a pleasure. Try driving in Johannesburg in South Africa, dodgem cars spring to mind, obeying the rules of the road...what rules!

However, (always a however,) when I drive in the concrete jungles of big cities, I find drivers almost murderous in their intent to mow anyone down who crosses their path. All to get to where they are stressfully going...must be a survival instinct!

My children have remarked in horrified tones that I "grow fangs" when I drive in cities.
I do somehow meld with other city drivers in fruitless gesticulating and mouthed obscenities from time to time, fight or flight adrenaline kicks in. Call it an adaptive mechanism in cultural anthropological terms. Yes- I am one who needs therapy.

Anyway I eventually get to where I am going without incident, it is all designed to test you I feel.
"Overcoming Road Rage!" someone should write a book.
SAR55
6th Feb 2019
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Road manners have been getting worse for years but just recently I've seen quite a few drivers doing U turns in inappropriate spots, driving slowly in the outside lane and other bad driving habits. There isn't any pleasure in driving anymore.
Raindrop
5th Feb 2019
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It`s funny but I start my journey very calm and considerate to other drivers but after a mile or so someone comes along and tailgates me or thinks if I stop to let someone through I must want to stay there for ever and let everyone through, forcing me to push through and make them pull in.. I hate becoming like them but unfortunately that`s the way things have become. SELF SELF SELF and don`t let me get started on b.....y not indicating
MrsPat
5th Feb 2019
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I did have a nasty bit of road rage directed to me many years ago and so am very polite always with other motorists. I have to say I think drivers are on the whole very polite.
ArchieUK
5th Feb 2019
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unfortunatly to many drivers from 18 to 80 have todays attitude - ME, ME ME.
Bald123
4th Feb 2019
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By and large drivers in the UK are the best mannered I have seen. Go to France and on the motorways madmen will drive a yard up your backside flashing their lights and honking their horns. Driving in Italy would make my hair fall out if I had any. Drivers gesticulating and all of them driving like Fandango. Even little Fiat drivers think they are driving in a Lamborghini.
Lionel
4th Feb 2019
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Wilf got it in one. Most drivers never had any manners. It's always been a self centred sport. It's just that nowadays with the utterly self centred culture and mindless computer driving games allowing a re-start after an on screen cash influencing their real life driving.

I've said elsewhere on Surfers, one needs to be in the cab of a 44 tonner on A and B class roads to even begin to believe the appalling risks people, particularly youngsters, take. The worst, and sadly among the most common, is overtaking a big truck on a roundabout. When that trailer tightens it's turning arc preparatory to exiting the roundabout it's a crushing machine. It knows no mercy. Usually the car driver is in the truck driver's blind spot. Job done - hospital case.
DeeH49
4th Feb 2019
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even if drivers are in the correct lane approaching a roundabout, they should still indicate, its a skill you are taught when learning, but some drivers think the rest of us are mind readers!!!!!
jeanmark
5th Feb 2019
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I agree many drivers appear to be unaware that indicators are standard in all cars! I recently attended a funeral and I waited to cross the road to let a brand new Bentley pass. As to was he turned in to the very carpark I was exiting and he also attended the same funeral.

At the 'do' afterwards he was telling of me the difficulties trying to park such an expensive car. I responded by saying that it must also be very irritating to pay all that money and not have indicators fitted, at least he blushed!
Wilf
4th Feb 2019
5
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I am not sure most motorists ever had manners when they got behind the wheel of a car. I know as even my sweet dotty old aunt in her 80's used to curse and snarl at other motorists when driving-"get out of my way"!, "Oh you stupid so and so"..."Why on earth are you driving so slowly you idiot!!!!*******" and yet out of her car she was so sweet. Yes folks the four wheeled horse turns us all into ranging loonies!
Lionel
4th Feb 2019
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Wilf
4th Feb 2019
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It is true though isn't it Lionel? Even an old softie like me turns into a nutter behind the wheel sometimes especially if I am late for something and the person in front is travelling at 22 MPH. My language turns blue and the driver in the seat besides me (the senior management in other words!!!) tells me to... "calm down or you will have a heart attack". (makes me laugh even writing that!)
Lionel
4th Feb 2019
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Yes it is true Wilf. Even I hit the loud pedal sometimes. Needed to take my wife 14 miles to A & E a few months ago - she was on the edge of a diabetic coma and no ambulances were available. Drove like a maniac under control - my old diesel Alhambra did 110 mph on the straight.

My flight captain can drive as well as me, and as fast when necessary. She loves the fast lane on motorways and, like you, shouting, 'Get out of the way, move over idiot let the real driver through.' It's usually me in the left hand seat throwing a heart attack. She overtook a squad car on the M6 a few years ago. I thought, that's it, big fine ... but no. Their Range Rover just carried on in the middle lane. Such luck!

My step daughter worries me. She drives fast, very fast, through city centres - two wheels seems her preferred option. She reckons one fairly major smack up every eight years is good going. In 50 years I've yet to have one.

I don't mind speed but not when someone else is driving.

Surely the secret of very fast driving, road or track, was given away by Damon Hill shortly after he retired. He said it wasn't two hours fast driving which tired him, no, it was driving at panic level whilst controlling the level of panic to squeeze the best out of himself. He was quite used to doing battle with Schumacher.
Wilf
4th Feb 2019
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We will probably be better when all cars become automated Lionel-only a few years away now I think. Then we can all scream at the robots to ....go faster...watch out!... or get a B*****y move on! ....as Prince Phillip would probably say!"
SueC62
8th Feb 2019
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I find that using one of two very rude four letter words aimed at the offender, yet uttered in the privacy of my own car, helps to stop rage rising and keep my blood pressure down. Unfortunately, I forgot one day I was not alone and my mid twenties nephew now considers me to be even cooler than he previously thought I was...
Raindrop
4th Feb 2019
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People drive much too fast nowadays they do not keep to the speed limits. I am getting to the stage where I sometimes have to force myself to drive. Think I`ll move nearer a bus route soon.
Wilf
4th Feb 2019
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Half the problem is today's cars are just so fast compared to those "back in the day". My first car was a Hillman Imp. It did 0 to 60 in about 10 minutes. Now even the smallest weakest cars have fast acceleration and all do over 100 mph easily.
AlanB792
7th Feb 2019
1
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You're so right Wif I have 2 cars a 1937 two seater that will do 60 mph flat out and a 4 year old Mercedes estate that will do 150 mph the two seater is more fun to drive we just do not need all this speed.
Wilf
7th Feb 2019
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I agree. Its nice to drive fast cars but they are too fast nowadays!
Lionel
8th Feb 2019
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My first car was a Citroen 2CV, corrugated bonnet, 602 cc, 6 volt power and no turning signals.

0 - 60 meant little on crowded London roads, I could just about keep up with a London bus.

Top speed 60. Had a hand written sign on the read window. '0 - 60 in 3 weeks. Please pass.'
PETERM1957
4th Feb 2019
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As a pedestrian, it annoys me when I am trying to cross a busy road, with slow moving traffic, and drivers turn their heads to pretend they haven't seen me
Wilf
4th Feb 2019
2
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They normally speed up when they see me trying to cross the road Peter!

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