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Hi everyone I’ve just joined and hoping to meet some new friends in a similar situation to me.


I’m 54 and recently lost my husband to cancer.


Finding being on my own and evenings in particular so hard.


I don’t have a big family and I’m not sure whether to relocate near to them or stay in the home I shared with my hubby.


Created By on 27/04/2019

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Jerseylady
3rd Aug 2019 13:13:00
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Hi I have just joined and lost my husband too, however I would say just give yourself time before making any decisions. You need to get through the grieving process and think of all the positives in your life before making any rash decisions.
Fran1960
4th May 2019 20:40:52
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Hi Silverfeline, Firstly please accept my condolences. It is very hard being on your own to start with. I have been on my own for 14 years now and I did find the first 3 years the hardest. I did relocate to be closer to my parents as they had retired to Lincolnshire and I was living in Surrey at the time (I have now moved back to Surrey after 8 years away). On moving away, I struggled emotionally and became very depressed as I had no one around me that I knew. Having said this, I did make some really nice friends, but the friends that I had in Surrey were my long term friends and although they could not visit very often, were still there on the end of the telephone.

Think carefully about relocating, even if it is closer to family, if you have really good friends around you now then take the time to see how you can build a life by staying put. One of the best things I can say is to get involved in your community. Join clubs, volunteer etc. By doing this, you will meet new people, enjoy new experiences and it will help to stave off the loneliness.

I hope this helps, and I wish you all the very best for your future.

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