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Watch this postI will be 67 next month and retired from the many different jobs in my working life. I guess that I didn’t ever find my calling. I went to university at age 59 but when it was over it was too late to launch a new career. I wanted to lecture but students don’t want to listen to old fogies, so sadly I put aside that idea and settled into life as an eccentric dog owner.
I live in a beautiful Lancashire valley surrounded by hills that demand they be walked/climbed, how could I refuse?
I would like to do a bit of cycle touring but a recent diagnosis of spondylosis and some hip pain means that I may not be doing a world tour anytime soon!
I’m keen to make some friends as I have been on my own for a very long time now, my daughters don’t bother much with me and I don’t have a partner.I didn’t expect to be so isolated at this time in my life, isn’t it strange the way family and friends seem to forget us when we get past 60?
I will pop in regularly and hope to strike up some friendships.
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I have just joined myself and found read your post. My life could mirror some of you comments except that my age is 79 next birthday and I am not so active mobility wise.
I did my degree as a mature student and I have one daughter who I am in touch with but she works as does her husband and my grand daughter is at school. As they only have the weekend to be a family, I don’t like to intrude on their time.
I have been on my own since 2007 and my friends have partners and families that take up their time so I thought I would give this site s “go” and see what happens. I am not lonely but would like to make new friends.
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I have2 son's who live away from me,they phone but it's not the same. ( I miss hugs)
I thought the virus would not make any difference to me,but it does.
Read a lot and like drawing, but somehow I do not a have have the time !I
Takes me ages to type a short sentence !
Get in contact if you want !
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I love animals and adopt animals. far I have 2 donkeys who live in Devon, a mountain gorilla, who is about 9 years old now - totally gorgeous he is, a snow leopard and a rhino who is about 22 years old and absolutely stunning. I am also a cat sponsor cos I love them. Might even get a few more if my pension will allow.
I live alone and get very lonely and depressed about being alone and so thought it was about time I did something about it and got some friends. I am only looking for friendship at this particular moment - don't have the energy for anything else.
Hope to hear from ladies and gents around my age.
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My name is Bill. I am 89 years old. I like to visit with people. All people.
I retired from the US Navy 51 years go.
I was married for 63 years. My wife passed in 1014.
Any one who wants to chat about anything ok.
Sounds lovely where you live. I live in Australia and we too have some beautiful countryside. I do love English TV shows though that show beautiful landscapes.
I hope you make some friends here that can enrich your life some. I'm a bit far away to do that. We need that as our children move on and make their own lives.
Take care and keep safe. Marianne.
I'm a British ex pat living in Spain and I have travelled extensively too.
Been to the States many
times both on holiday and whilst serving in the military.
Hope to hear from you
Mina
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Just joined this site as feeling low this bank holiday, working from home and lockdown is beginning to get to me.
I am on my own, find that all my friends are in relationships so not always free to chat and my kids have grown up with own lives. Hoping to meet new people to develop new friendhsips.
but today I feel rather down. I did spend 2 hours in garden talking to my neighbour.
The site looks good and I am surprised how many people are in same position as me.
Still trying to find my way around the site.
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That's the weird thing with healing, one moment you're fine, then the next you're not.
I did look at the chat function as well, thinking it would be an open discussion forum, but instead it said invite your friends to chat. Well I've only just joined and don't know anyone yet. C'est le vie.
So if you are ever online at the same time and fancy a chat I can talk about nothing for ages, and apparently quite often do.
yes feeling much better today.
Just read your message. It was a while ago now and i hope you have since found some friends. It made me want to cry and hug you at the same time! I wish i lived nearby; i would visit and have a coffee with you regularly. I live in nort Kent so completely the other end of the country. Happy to exchange emails/letters though.
I have just been having a similar conversation with a friend today about my brother not bothering to contact/see my mum who will be 80 in a couple of weeks. It makes me so sad! Shame on your daughters.
I hope you have managed to survive lockdown.
Keep well and stay safe.
Lorraine
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Sunny and cool, looking forward to our spring in a few days.
We are not in lockdown so life is good.
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Lovely place you live in. We used to live not far from Sherwood Forest.
Retired to Cyprus. I am part of C3A - think U3A in UK. I run the family history.
There is a group for photography in C3A.
Somewhat warm at the moment so doing plenty of reading as well as family history.
Best wishes
Pat
I am fairly new and joined in these uncertain times.
How are you finding your retirement?
The weather is very windy at the moment in the South East.
I am happy to chat to people of all ages and backgrounds.
What do you like to talk about? Has you life changed this year due to the virus.
My dad would know more about the RAF than me, but he is sadly no longer with us.
I think we have a bit more summer to come. September can be nice.
Regards,
Dina
Yes the years fly by and this one is turning out to be a loss unfortunately due to the situation.
I miss the same things as you! it sounds like, the eating out with friends etc. and even just visiting people. We will appreciate it when it feels more safe to do so.
Yes let's hope September is nice so I can still get to see some relatives in their gardens (where it is safer than inside).
Your winds sound worse, I think the north is affected more at the moment.
Thank you for being sorry about my dad. We all get to an age where we have losses and have to live with them, sadly.
Things to talk about! Well, what about holidays in the UK? Do you have any favourites or regulars or was you always busy working?
Regards
Dina
You've been all over the UK, that's nice to hear.
I think I have been to most parts too, yes.
Scotland is lovely. I haven't been in recent years and not as high up as Fort William. I've been to Edinburgh, and the surrounding area. Also Kirkaldy, Fife and Perth etc. Probably the east coast too such as Arbroath.
I agree Cornwall and Devon are lovely places to go and have been a few times. It is quite a long way but worth it.
I have also had many holidays in South Wales and North Wales and most resorts on the south coast of England and the south east. We have a few holidays in Great Yarmouth in younger years and Norfolk as it is not too far to travel to get to a coast.
I have been to France but just to Paris and Eurodisney, mostly. I have been to many other European holidays but I do not think I am keen to fly again and may just stick to the UK when we can do normal things.
I hope you can go on holiday again next year. It may be possible if you go self-catering as that is quite risk-free. Was you hoping to go to France again if it was not for the virus.
I hope you can see friends or family, if you have any near you, in outside places at the moment.
I hope this virus peters out by next year!
Dina.
Hope you have had a good day. Yes it has been a bit cloudy today (Sunday).
In answer to your question to find this site you could just search the internet 'silversurfers.com' and then you can log in.
It takes a bit of getting used to.
Unfortunately I find you sometimes get notified you have had replies and other times you do not so you otherwise just check when you log on here and there.
I use a laptop, I like the larger display, but some prefer to use a smartphone or it is just convenient.
Oh you are close to Llandudno and North Wales. Lucky you.
I have been to most places along that coast including colwyn way, conway (the smallest house!), Rhyl. The isle of Anglesey. Right down to Pwllheli. I remember driving up a very steep hill at the Orme in Llandudno and the person in front of me decided to stop! It was not a great experience.
I remember some chalets we stayed at in Towyn. I think they have been knocked down now. I have been inland too. So many places to mention. You have to look at a map sometimes to refresh your memory.
Sounds like the area of france -Brittany was very relaxing.
It is good to look back on the memories of your good holidays.
Do you have many photos of your memories?
I love looking at my old photos.
Regards
Dina
Good to hear from you. I do not get notifications about all messages so it doesn't matter what time they are sent. I should see them when logged on. I am generally an 'owl' rather than a 'lark'!
Oh you know a little about what's happening at Towyn then. I have a few photos from there. It was somewhere to have a base and then you can drive around and see the sites of many nearby attractions. The orme yes is very high up from what I remember.
We used to go as a big family, some of who we have sadly lost over the years and things change.
I used to always watch the news at the beginning of this pandemic but now I realise it was news overload as it is all doom and gloom.
I know watch it now and then. Of course you like to be up to date with what is happening but you can have too much of it! Do you watch the news?
I like documentaries or anything about real life, particularly things that are uplifting!
Do you get out for a walk sometimes? I find they are good for you if you can.
Have a good evening.
Dina
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Trish
I got a posting to Cyprus and so did my husband so this is where we met and married and 2 years later our son was born. He has never forgiven us for leaving here when he was 28 days old. 🙂
My husband never had another overseas tour and he was in the RAF nearly 25 years. He was based on the outskirts of London for sometime but I stayed with the children in Newark Nottinghamshire. We moved later to near Sherwood Forest.
I'm sure there's a U3A near you and a photography group. If you get interested in family history I'd be happy to help with that. I'm also in the book club but it's not run like most where you are told what book to read. We read what we want and then spend a couple of hours each month discussing what we've read over a cup of coffee. It's very pleasant.
I'm the odd one out in the book club, the others are all art based and I'm science :). They never know what I'm going to discuss. I will read a couple of light books followed by a serious history or science book. This coming month it will be a light and humorous who done it followed by A Brief History of Everyone Who Ever Lived - The Stories in Our Genes. That also links to my family history.
I went to Chester a couple of years ago. I was visiting UK, a week in Notts with our children and a week with my sister in Walsall. We met up with a distant paternal cousin in Chester during my research - it was very interesting. We've met up since.
How have you kept yourself entertained since lock down?I've had reading and family history and OH has had his computer and he helps out on a couple of sites on there. The dog has loved it as she doesn't like being left alone, although she is good when left. She was dumped as a pup and walked into our house for help so we think it relates to that.
Off to do shopping, shops aren't far away thankfully - even though we have cool bags we still have to get cold things into the fridge quickly.
Hope to hear from you soon
Pat
I live in a shelter housing complex in Clydebank
My likes are wide and varied,in saying that my favourite hobby is fishing.
I try to get out as much as possible, I also enjoy driving sight seeing, reading ,
Cooking simple meals, Living alone I have plenty of practice, I don't often burn my dinner
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Age sixty one and a half I have 4 kids ( adults). 8 grandchildren, some life changes going on for me
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Welcome to the site and hi.
I hope you get to see your 8 grandchildren!
I don't have any children but I've just been out for a walk in the woods with sibling, nephew and great-nephew!
Hope you are managing with life changes. It can take time.
You like surfing the net. I am not sure what we would do without it this year!
I've always loved tapping on a keyboard.
Regards
Dina