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My son's big wedding had to be postponed until next year. In the meantime they have arranged a small registry office wedding in a few weeks time.
Until he met his fiancé I always had a very close relationship with my son but recently he has become more and more distant. I have tried my best to get along with his fiancé and have no idea why they are rejecting me. Due to Covid there are only limited numbers allowed at the registry office. My son's fiancé's mother, brother and his wife have been invited along with my daughter and her husband...but no invitation for me and I'm devastated!
I'm trying not to let it bother me but it is so painful....I don't want this to affect my future relationship with them but I know it will.
Does anyone have any advice?
I've been feeling a little anxious about my husband lately. We've been together for 20 yrs and married for 17 of them. No kids at home, and we both work full time. I feel like we're drifting apart, and I'm experiencing bouts of sadness due to this.
Firstly my husband lost his sex drive. Initially, I didn't know why, but after some prompting, he told me one of his testicles had become swollen, and that he was worried. Long story but I convinced him to visit his doctor, He had a few tests, and it was the diagnosis was a Varicocele. Not life threatening and has since had this fixed a couple of months ago.
Our sex life is still non-existent. My husband tells me he hasn't had any libido for months and that it will probably not return. I sense a loss of intimacy in our r/ship. He seems ok with it. We have slept separately for probably 3 yrs due to husbands snoring keeping me awake. We don't mind sleeping separately tbh so this isn't an issue as per se, but it also means we don't have cuddle time anymore, which makes me feel like I am living with a friend.
Our days off together are ok, but no brilliant. My husband goes inside himself a lot, reading newspapers, watching tv etc and I am becoming increasingly lonely. I don't feel like I am a needy type person, but our marriage seems very weird now.
Please if anyone has any suggestions or you've been through a similar experience, I'd love to hear your thoughts. TIA
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Hi, I'm Dan, from Palatine, Illinois in the US. I've only been using SilverSurfers for a couple days and thought it was about time to introduce myself here.
I'm just shy of 64, separated almost 10 years and just a couple of months in to divorce proceedings. After almost 10 years living alone like a monk, I'm starting to get ready to living a real life again. I'm hoping it won't be too long before I begin to make a few friends and eventually find a new relationship. Happy to chat with anyone, though.
Over 20 years ago I met a lady and her husband on a coach trip to Austria. We enjoyed each others company and stayed in touch albeit only with Christmas cards and a letter catching up on all our news. Fast forward 17 years and she is now widowed and had moved about 20 miles away from where I live. We started exchanging phone calls and meeting up for meals and long chats about how our lives were shaping up.
She met someone on a dating website and they were going to get married, then it was all called off for quite a few reasons - he didn't think that he should have to make any financial contribution to the bills in her house, where he was living, because his pension was smaller than hers. Also, he has a huge family who didn't want to meet my friend as they thought that their father/sibling should remain faithful to his first wife who had died.
My friend asked for my opinion about this man - I met him twice and there was just something about him that I didn't trust. I said that the financial aspect of the relationship would be an absolute deal-breaker for me and that perhaps she had had a lucky escape. Another 18 months passed by - still meeting up every 6 weeks or so for meals with phone calls in between, the last meal just before Christmas. I sent her two emails, January and February and got no response and have left messages on her answerphone - again no response.
So, my question is - why do people do this? We hadn't argued about anything and, on the surface, everything was normal. She has obviously taken her bat and ball home about something but after a friendship of 20 or more years, wouldn't it have been more honest to say that our friendship had run its course and that perhaps we should just keep in touch occasionally and let things peter out that way. Perhaps she has gone back to the chap she was engaged to and thinks that I won't approve. It's actually none of my business just as long as she is happy and he's not taking advantage of her generous nature.
Who knows - I certainly don't!!!
The man = single - no girlfriend, in 60's, at work he finds me as soon as I arrive. He then finds me throughout the day. He has found out loads about me and shows a great deal of interest in me. He is an intensely private man and lives on his own.
He remembers everything I tell him and he talks about me a lot. He says I make him nervous - he is a little shy.
Me= widow in my 60's- like this man. He was in a really angry mood one day and I didn't realise. I asked him out and he said "I don't think so".
Since this he has carried on asking about me and seeking me out at work. Recently, he asked whether I still visit my husband's grave which I thought was odd. He is so private that he doesn't always answer questions people ask him but we know he is definitely single, no GF, not gay, and lives alone.
He seems to have had a very bad life via his mum/dad/siblings. What is this man up to? He constantly looks out for me and my safety. I like him but I am confused.
Is he just playing silly games?
I could do with some good, friendly advice.
Hello everyone, Yes I am feeling alone, I have been a Parent a Single Parent and a Step-Parent, wow you say, well yes.
I married, and we had a child, then after the second child my wife died leaving me with two children one aged 5 months the other 14 months old, we survived until my girls were about 4 and 5 and I met and got married to another single parent whose girls were aged 12 and 14.
We were together for about 25 years and we are now separated on friendly terms, but both living very different lives.
I live in a one bedroomed flat and feel very lonely at the moment, I know that this Covid-19 does not help my situation but it's like this all the time, virus or no virus, I still talk to my daughters and we Facetime each other often as we still have that special bond, and they are not happy that I am on my own.
I am finding it very difficult to go out to meet someone as I don't feel good enough or good looking enough to make someone else happy. I have registered on Silversurfing dating but I really don't feel that it is as good as it says it is, and feel that there are a number of Sharks just waiting for me to fall into those waters and be eaten alive, so any advice would help.
Thank you in advance.