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I've been feeling a little anxious about my husband lately. We've been together for 20 yrs and married for 17 of them. No kids at home, and we both work full time. I feel like we're drifting apart, and I'm experiencing bouts of sadness due to this.
Firstly my husband lost his sex drive. Initially, I didn't know why, but after some prompting, he told me one of his testicles had become swollen, and that he was worried. Long story but I convinced him to visit his doctor, He had a few tests, and it was the diagnosis was a Varicocele. Not life threatening and has since had this fixed a couple of months ago.
Our sex life is still non-existent. My husband tells me he hasn't had any libido for months and that it will probably not return. I sense a loss of intimacy in our r/ship. He seems ok with it. We have slept separately for probably 3 yrs due to husbands snoring keeping me awake. We don't mind sleeping separately tbh so this isn't an issue as per se, but it also means we don't have cuddle time anymore, which makes me feel like I am living with a friend.
Our days off together are ok, but no brilliant. My husband goes inside himself a lot, reading newspapers, watching tv etc and I am becoming increasingly lonely. I don't feel like I am a needy type person, but our marriage seems very weird now.
Please if anyone has any suggestions or you've been through a similar experience, I'd love to hear your thoughts. TIA
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I know it’s normal but what hurts is that he doesn’t come near me, not even for a cuddle or a hug. When he does hug me he tends to pat me on the back.
A couple of years ago I found he’d been trawling dating sites but offering sex not relationships. I don’t think he actually ‘signed up’ but he was looking at lots of them, including one showing only woman over 50. I’m 56!
I feel so worthless and unimportant.
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I’ve never met my father, seen a picture of him or even know if he’s tall or short or blue eyed or brown eyed, a nice man or a not very nice man.
I’ve lived with this all my life until my daughters just had my first grandchild and suddenly it’s made me wonder about him.
I know so little about him as he left town as soon as my mother fell pregnant and I’m at a loss to know where to start. All I know is his name and a rough idea of age.
I’m not wanting to cause him or his family any hurt, however just to know mine, and my children’s possible medical implications for the future would be great.
Hope you understand why I’m searching and I hope this is allowed as a topic Thanks