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Have had dogs all my life - is that what makes us 'dog people'? I understand them, love them and Sooo miss my last 15 year old who went to the great kennel last year. So last March finally thought to get another - something with a wet nose, bright eyes, didn't need much walking (especially in the rain!). Is there such a breed? - I live by the beach and love watching the dogs go by, tail up, nose forward in antipation of their walk. Even if I got an adult dog they still need walking... So..."a cat" I thought, just the thing, lots of love and cuddles and no walkies. But I know Nothing about cats, how to look after them, train them. I have researched online and found that there are cat breeds with individual traits (just like dogs), some need outside others not, some need humans others not, some are manic (heaven forbid I get one that likes to climb my curtains) some are so laid back they just sleep all day. So please, cat people, do you think I am right to want to change allegiance, is it possible, and how do I ensure that if I adopt an adult cat it will have the traits I am looking for?
When I first moved to a new neighbourhood with my cat, we found our garden was already claimed by a big black cat. He looked like he'd earned the neighbourhood bully title, strutting about showing off his battle scars. I called him Bullcat because he was very aggressive and thought he could treat us like we were his tenants. I knew we were going to have a battle on our hands because my cat, although not a bully, was determined to claim and defend our garden. I was worried for him being the smaller of the two. I tried to shoo Bullcat away in spite of his hissing and even at one point coming aggressively towards me. I found it interesting the commitment my cat Baxter had to establish his territory and defend it. He stood his ground and I was proud of him. I did interfere at times, but I may have set his progress back by doing that, and I should have just left well enough alone. There were some battles during the coming months, but Bullcat was finally put in his place. Our garden is now off limits to him. He won't dare set a paw within our fence line. Even if I step out the door and catch him in the driveway, he scampers off without a backward glance.
I don't know what the deciding factor was for Bullcat to back down and surrender the territory to his rival. Maybe he had bigger fish to fry further up the road.
A black cat comes to my house every day to eat. He's one of the 3 alpha cats in our community. He doesn't have a name yet.
I tried calling him "Bruno" cos he looks tough but he doesn't seem to like it.
In late October 2 years ago, I was asked to clear a house for a young couple whose father had passed away. There was a problem. He had 2 house bound cats that needed to be re-housed. They had tried all the local animal charities, who were inundated with waifs and strays. Could I suggest anyone. I suggested Jayne, who runs a charity. Unfortunately she too was full. So I asked "what's the alternative", we'll have them youthanised. (Not correct spelling but you get the gist) Not on my watch, they won't. So I took them home with me. 2 weeks later, the woman phoned saying she'd found somewhere to take them, but they must go together as they were sister's. I pointed out that she gave away her right of say, when I took charge of them. What she didn't know, is that the elder one was bullying the younger one. Eventually I re-homed the elder and kept Sophie. She was 12 She dictates what attention she wants, a stroke on the back is her desire She's scruffy and un kept but that's her choice. Trying to brush her is hard as she tends to bite and don't even think about picking her up. That's a whole different story. At least she's safe. And why November 5th, that's the day I did the job.