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I have six grandchildren who no longer live at home with their parents and I very rarely receive a Thank You. It is so easy these days. They could easily pick up the telephone or send an email. I feel like just sending a card.
Do other grandparents always receive a Thank You?
Is it just me, or am I missing something?? I have tried joining several groups~ (U3A, National Trust, RSPB, walking groups, etc, etc)~ and good though they all are in their own ways, I have made no "real "friends'.
I am fairly sociable and outgoing and reasonable intelligent, so I Can communicate well ~BUT~ ~ The groups all meet at the appropriate times and places, the individual activities are participated in, the session ends, and we all go home! Try as I might, Nobody wants to pursue the "acquaintances"~ (I use that word rather than the word "friend")~ outside of these groups, even though I have suggested to some of the folks I Seem to get on with that we might meet outside the group for a coffee, or anything else. They all scuttle off like frightened rabbits and don't appear to want to take it any further. I have noticed that most of the folks seem to come in twos or threes, so already Know others with whom they have closer/longer friendships.
One lady actually said, "~I don't need to make any more new friends, I have enough already". Think it just about sums it up! So ~ ~ this mythical idea that joining groups allay loneliness to me seems the exact Opposite!
I feel more lonely and isolated at the end of the sessions than before I went in! It's "goodbye, see you next month", and everyone is gone!
Any suggestions? Does anyone have similar experiences??
Over a number of years there has and even more lately been endless adverts asking for money, from children through to animals and onto water and so on. Of course there are many reasons to give money but are we the only ones in England constantly being asked to give money even for other countries through out the world , even in disasters, I too willingly send money to the British Red Cross who do a marvellous job, where I know my donation will get to the most needy of people. But my main concern is why doesn't the governments of some of these countries try and help their own people instead of people here in England constantly being bombarded with begging adverts, what are your views regarding TV begging adverts, and at tea time too?
I’m a new member of this site because I really want to know if I am being unreasonable. Recently retired from the NHS where I ended up managing a lot of people from diverse backgrounds I feel that I have plenty of life experience and am a pretty tolerant, liberal person.
However I find it very difficult to understand where some young women in their 20s - 30s are coming from. They want to be respected, to be heard and to be empowered and yet often present themselves as image, fashion and makeup obsessed in provocative poses. They hate the so called ‘patriarchy’ but are desperate for a good looking, well dressed, financially secure boyfriend. I have been told that my opinions are inappropriate by my niece who champions women’s rights. I obviously abhor any abuse, inequality and any form of sexism towards women and anyone else for that matter.
I do understand that social media and the media have a huge contribution to this and do know there are a lot of wonderful young women out there. I guess that I feel disappointed that serious, reasonable feminism has been lost or diluted.
Hello. First time here and I'm going to moan. I live alone and have been trying to find a rescue dog for a few months.
Yesterday I found what I considered a perfect match - a 10-year-old terrier looking for a quiet life with a single adopter.
I submitted an application form and received a phone call within half an hour so I thought YES!
It turns out that because the flat I live in has a communal garden my home isn't suitable - it would seem every rescue dog in the world needs it's own enclosed garden.
I'm glad animals aren't handed over to just anyone without checks but aren't the rescue places being a little too picky?
We have cared for our son for 20 years during a diagnosed severe mental illness. There has never been a day in that 20 years that we it has not infringed on our daily life and how we wished things could be different.
One of the main problems is his lack of insight and reasoning into his condition.
He has his own secure tenancy and when the Covid lockdown started we were left completely on our own to care for him. Even although my husband is over 70 and I have other health problems.
Because of his vulnerability and his disbelief in the pandemic he was a target for unsavoury people with no protection to visit his flat putting us in danger. It was inevitable he would need to be hospitalised which was horrific and he has been in a psychiatric unit for 5 months. It has now been suggested that they will let him home if we care for him but my husband and I have said we will only do it if we get the vaccine. We have been told we will not get it and it was even suggested by one doctor that we are being selfish to not do it and let him home.
What do others think?
My son's big wedding had to be postponed until next year. In the meantime they have arranged a small registry office wedding in a few weeks time.
Until he met his fiancé I always had a very close relationship with my son but recently he has become more and more distant. I have tried my best to get along with his fiancé and have no idea why they are rejecting me. Due to Covid there are only limited numbers allowed at the registry office. My son's fiancé's mother, brother and his wife have been invited along with my daughter and her husband...but no invitation for me and I'm devastated!
I'm trying not to let it bother me but it is so painful....I don't want this to affect my future relationship with them but I know it will.
Does anyone have any advice?
Am I being ungrateful? My friend, whom I've known for 20+ years, never makes an effort to find a suitable gift for me (or anyone else, I suspect). She always offloads the job either onto her daughter or, believe it or not, onto the recipient.
I've spent the last 5 years giving her a list of which books I'd like for Christmas, so she can pick one out at random and pretend it's a surprise. One year, she even asked me to buy (and wrap) my own present and send her the bill.
This year, it's slightly different - she got her daughter to pick out a book for me online and have it sent directly to me. I've met her daughter just 3 times over the past 2 decades and we have never discussed the type of books we like to read. I have, however, discussed my intense dislike of "misery novels" with my friend (child abuse, domestic violence, surviving sick situations, etc).
Today, you've guessed it, a misery novel arrived in the post - not wrapped or signed, no message from my friend - I only realised it was from her because I just happened to see her daughter's name on the bookshop label.. I take so much care choosing gifts for her, it just feels like a slap in the face when she obviously thinks, "Aw, that'll do for her, I can't be bothered even thinking about what to get." Is it just me?
Should I be feeling grateful for getting any gift, even if it's obviously given in an offhand, don't-care manner?
Not my work I have to admit, but something passed on to me by a colleague from the local charity I ‘work’ for. Pretty much sums up the way I feel though...maybe it resonates with you too?
I’m sick of Covid-19!! I’m sick of black vs white!! I’m sick of Labour vs Tories vs Liberals vs whoever!, I’m sick of gay vs. straight!! I’m REALLY sick of the media bias !!!!
I’m sick of the language being used and plastered all over the media! I’m sick of no one being allowed to think what they want & feel what they do without offending someone!!
I am sick of the people who are out there jumping on the bandwagon to protest just to cause mass confusion and more hatred and to riot, loot, and destroy!!!!!!
I am sick of blaming the world for the sins of a few!! We’re one race—the human race. We ALL Matter!!
You want to support PM Boris Johnson ? You do it! It’s your choice. You want to support Labour, fine... also your choice!
You want to believe in God? Okay, believe in God. You want to believe in magical creatures that fly around & sprinkle fairy dust to make life better? Awesome... you do it!!
BUT how about being mature enough to be able to deal with the fact that everyone doesn’t have the same exact mind-set as you.
Having our own minds is what makes us all individuals and beautiful. If you can’t handle that fact....I’m sorry!! I don’t have to agree with everything you believe in. So be a decent human being!
For the record, I’m quite a nice person really...
BBC breakfast on Friday. Some footballer/manager (didn't catch his name) said he would like footballers to be a priority in getting the vaccine. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. These footballers are so full of their own self importance.