I retired last year. Decided to get some work done on my garden - patio now I'm home more.
The work is poor but they have said they will rectify it. They came and did some more work but it's still very poor. They are coming again in a weeks time. I don't really want them here. Without going into details they have been condescending and patronising.
Citizens advice said I need to give them a chance to put the work right. Is there any kind of organisation who would have someone be here with me when they come?
I can't express how nervous they make me feel.
The media keep telling us that our High Streets are in decline because we consumers have abandoned them in favour of the internet. But I think the shops themselves must accept their share of the blame.
I recently tried to buy a new mobile. I went to Carphone Warehouse, which has provided helpful and informed advice in the past, sadly the staff had no advice to offer. They could read the specifications on the cards next to the phones, something I am capable of doing myself, but couldn’t advise or help me choose the most appropriate model. “That one must be better because it’s more expensive”, was considered informed comment.
Disappointed, I tried PC world. I had gone to a shop because I wanted to assess the touch and feel of the different phones. The phones on display were not real phones that you could use for this purpose. They were “dummies” because the store is frightened that real phones would get stolen.
Have I just been unlucky, or do others feel that the high street has forgotten how to serve customers and so contributed to its own demise?
I’m wondering if anyone lease has experienced problems with abusive adult children ?
My 32 year old daughter asked to come and live with me for a few months due to financial issues. I agreed. I didn’t ask for money from her so she could save. Short version of the outcome is she became very abusive to me- apparently all her bad decisions are my fault, to the point when I was being sworn at and insulted on a daily basis. She refused to leave when I asked her to, so eventually, I had to move her stuff out and change the locks.
Of course, I love her and as she has made it clear I will never see her or my grandchildren again, it’s very upsetting.
If you have expected this and have any tips for getting over the abuse and not being able to see my grandchildren again, I would appreciate your advice. Thanks
I have six grandchildren who no longer live at home with their parents and I very rarely receive a Thank You. It is so easy these days. They could easily pick up the telephone or send an email. I feel like just sending a card.
Do other grandparents always receive a Thank You?
I have received a message recently from a friend through Facebook inviting me to her 60th birthday. I was pleased to get the invite as I have not seen her in around 8 years; we had worked together for a couple of years before I moved location.
Reading through the invitation, it says “if you are thinking of giving a present for my 60th birthday, a cash gift would really make me go "Yay" etc etc..... I’ve always valued being given a present and take time choosing presents for others; I think it is something special and I always value any presents that I am given, regardless of value.
To ask for money instead leaves a bit of a bad taste in the mouth so to speak. I was just wondering what other people thought, is it was just me? I think I will have to make some excuse not to go, it’s a real shame, I would have liked to have seen her again.
I know there are some people who have trouble with spellings and on another forum I saw comments on people being quite rude about this. I was picked on for misspelling something on Facebook; I didn’t know who the lady was and felt quite surprised to have a comment made.
Am I being unreasonable?
My husband and I have two children, a son and a daughter whom we both dearly love, yet our hearts have been broken by our daughter's harsh treatment towards us over the past five years. People have said to us: "Sometimes as parents we can do too much", yet for us nothing has ever been too much where doing the best for our children was concerned. Neither my husband, nor I can really understand exactly why our daughter behaved the way she did the last time I visited her and our 18 month old granddaughter in December 2015. We had though felt for a long time prior to their marriage that her husband and his family were intent on monopolizing. Nevertheless, we accepted albeit sometimes reluctantly the situation continuing to make him feel welcome and supporting them - particularly when his mother passed away a few years later. I was hopeful that our relationship might be strengthened with him in the ensuing years. Regrettably, he seemed to be resentful of the fact that I especially was around when our granddaughter was born in the ensuing year.
The following summer they spent two weeks with us at our home in France; he maintained a noticeable distance (constantly tapping out messages to his family and friends on his mobile phone) and we observed how stressed our daughter seemed at times. Nevertheless, apart from that it was an enjoyable fortnight and lovely to have time with our granddaughter. A few weeks later we returned to the UK for our granddaughter's first birthday, and instantly we sensed an atmosphere on arriving at their home. He neither welcomed us, nor conversed with us the whole time we were there and our daughter showed us little regard. Our journey there had been delayed by heavy traffic that day, and we arrived 40 mins later although our daughter had said that the first two hours were for a toddlers party with a BBQ for adults and close family later.
We returned to France a few days later, and then it was me always contacting my daughter and her responding briefly to my messages. I had for sometime been suffering with a bowel condition and finally decided to seek medical advice when I returned to the UK. This I did in the December, when my GP hastily referred me for an urgent colonoscopy. I decided not to tell the children until I had the results, and up to the date of the investigation I had heard nothing from our daughter. Fortunately, the result was not as bad as it might have been and by the following weekend I was so happy to have been asked by my daughter to "come and see her mum". Our granddaughter had been unwell with Slap Cheek Syndrome symptoms that previous week, so I went to see her and our daughter the next day. I was in shock by her aggression towards me and her father soon after arriving - her accusations were completely unjustified and her attitude was such that it was clearly frightening our granddaughter who began to cry. I decided it was best to leave. As I did so, she threw back at me the bag of gifts we had brought back from France for our granddaughter.
Since then, we have neither seen nor heard anything from her. Birthday, Christmas and Easter cards and egg have never been acknowledged. Mothering Sundays , she always used to remember me and send cards and gifts but since that day she has not. Our son is thoughtful, and was always generous with cards and presents for his parents. Yet, over the past two years he has changed. Now, it is apparent that he acts under the influence of our daughter in law where the giving of gifts is concerned. Our generosity is not reciprocated in a way that shows their appreciation of all we do for them - babysitting our grandsons for many hours each week, and at weekends. Giving them as much as we can afford to in clothes and outings throughout the year, and helping them at holiday times.
Tomorrow, is Mothering Sunday ... perhaps I am being unreasonable to expect more in the way of thoughtfulness from our children. My son is ill now with the flu, and is dashing out to buy two cards for me tomorrow. I appreciate the effort he is making now, but it always seems a last minute race for him in this regard, and why when there are two of them. My daughter in law always writes on the card so why could she not have bought one when I babysat for an additional hour and a half so she could do a weekly shop alone earlier this week. Just saying, or perhaps I shouldn't!!
I am 67 and live in the Midlands, my daughter is 45 and lives outside London. My sister is 55 and lives 3 minutes walk away from my mother. I live approx 20 miles from my mother. My sister has not spoken to my mother for approximately 15 years. My younger brother aged 62 recently died. Two weeks before my brother's death my daughter 'popped' up by train to see my sister. My mother was due to visit my brother that day. My brother in law visited my mother to tell her that my daughter and sister were visiting my brother and that my mother couldn't go. My mother is 88, physically very frail and my brother's illness and death has made her fragile and confused. What upsets me is that my daughter did not visit her grandmother on that day. This probably sounds like some terrible rant but during the time after my brother's death my daughter texted me once to see if I was ok and then only left a voicemail to inform me that she would be attending the funeral to support my sister. I phoned my daughter only to be told some insincere psycho babble about my grieving. I would also mention that my daughter never visits me but that I have to drive and visit her if she needs a babysitter. I love my daughter dearly but am ashamed of her and disappointed in her. Her behaviour and attitude have bowled me over and I am extremely hurt and upset. I don't think I can ever speak to her again, Am I being unreasonable?
The much awaited Taylor report on the gig ecomomy wants to end the payment of cash to builders window cleaners etc. This misses the point even if this money is not declared it still finds its way into the general economy and is taxed via VAT, unlike Amazon, Starbucks and the like who shelter vast profits offshore for the benefit of their business and shareholders. Wake up people!
What are your views?