I am 67 and live in the Midlands, my daughter is 45 and lives outside London. My sister is 55 and lives 3 minutes walk away from my mother. I live approx 20 miles from my mother. My sister has not spoken to my mother for approximately 15 years. My younger brother aged 62 recently died. Two weeks before my brother's death my daughter 'popped' up by train to see my sister. My mother was due to visit my brother that day. My brother in law visited my mother to tell her that my daughter and sister were visiting my brother and that my mother couldn't go. My mother is 88, physically very frail and my brother's illness and death has made her fragile and confused. What upsets me is that my daughter did not visit her grandmother on that day. This probably sounds like some terrible rant but during the time after my brother's death my daughter texted me once to see if I was ok and then only left a voicemail to inform me that she would be attending the funeral to support my sister. I phoned my daughter only to be told some insincere psycho babble about my grieving. I would also mention that my daughter never visits me but that I have to drive and visit her if she needs a babysitter. I love my daughter dearly but am ashamed of her and disappointed in her. Her behaviour and attitude have bowled me over and I am extremely hurt and upset. I don't think I can ever speak to her again, Am I being unreasonable?
The much awaited Taylor report on the gig ecomomy wants to end the payment of cash to builders window cleaners etc. This misses the point even if this money is not declared it still finds its way into the general economy and is taxed via VAT, unlike Amazon, Starbucks and the like who shelter vast profits offshore for the benefit of their business and shareholders. Wake up people!
What are your views?
Yesterday our granddaughter came to visit us, not a normal thing, but. She came to tell us she was going to get married, nice news, and she chatted about the wedding and what she was looking forward to. To cut a long story short she then asked for a contribution of £2,000 toward the cost of the wedding, I went ballistic, I tried to explain you married for love -- not to show off. Her response was it was a girls big day and everyone should help ,,,,,,, now her aunt with the big wedding had been married twice, her other aunt with a big wedding had been married twice, her mother who had had big weddings had been married four times, her grandmother and I who got married in register office nearly 55 years ago were still together. She left crying that we did not love her enough. Maybe one day she might understand that we loved more than she knew. Am I being unreasonable?
I have developed staining to my ceiling and know it is affecting my walls and even my fridge and microwave has been discoloured internally together with a new Coffee Maker bought for me as a Christmas present. The black covering will not come off. I live in a one bed supervised Housing bungalow and have been here just under 6 months since my wife left me. The staining started about three months ago just on the ceiling and repairers originally thought it was damp. After a meeting with them on Thursday this week they one suggested my nebuliser and two the burning of candles. I occasionally burn only Yankee candles as I prefer these but cannot afford them being disabled and a small pension having to stop working in 2011 through increased ill health. I know Yankee candles can smoke if the wick is too long and I have ensured that this has never happened by cutting the wick in accordance with the instructions given. The damage has affected every room, that is the Kitchen and Living Room which are combined, Wet Room, Bedroom and small Hallway leading from the front door. The Housing Association Repairs are now saying it is my responsibility. I have asked them to carry out sampling but I will have to pay £750.00 plus VAT. I was hoping that someone may have come across this situation and help me in showing the Housing Association as to if this is the case. May I say that I have only burnt a candle in the combined Kitchen and Living Room. I hope someone can help as it is affecting my breathing and enhancing other conditions.
Has anyone else noticed that nowadays when ever you go some where for a tea or coffee no one seems to be talking any more, it's heads down and looking at the screen in their hand. Being on my own I like gong into cafes and used to smile at people and sometimes start a conversation about the weather or what was good to order, but now not many people seem interested in this sort of thing, they seem to be more intent on the little screen. My phone is usually in my bag, where it stays, until it rings, am I the odd one out for wanting to engage in a chat??
During a conversation with a new member of staff I was utterly shocked when she told me that she and a friend work as private home helps for rich elderly people. They charge the clients £20/£25 per hour each that is they both attend and charge £40/£50 per hour. I think this is outrageous and wonder whether to report them but who would I report to? BTW these home helps are in their mid 50's!
Last night we popped into our neighbours for a drink. They had put some humous and carrots and breadsticks out for us to enjoy ... and then to my horror, I saw the host dip his breadstick, take a bite, and then dip it again!!
Is it just me, or do you find double dipping repulsive? Fine if the food is just for you, but what about when it is to be shared by others??
My stomach just turned and I continued to enjoy my glass of wine, and declined the offer of the humous!
We have a really large family, and I think we should agree to stop buying presents for nieces, nephews and godchildren once they have reached 18.
What do you think? Is this fair enough or am I being unreasonable? What do you do?