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Is it just me, or am I missing something?? I have tried joining several groups~ (U3A, National Trust, RSPB, walking groups, etc, etc)~ and good though they all are in their own ways, I have made no "real "friends'.
I am fairly sociable and outgoing and reasonable intelligent, so I Can communicate well ~BUT~ ~ The groups all meet at the appropriate times and places, the individual activities are participated in, the session ends, and we all go home! Try as I might, Nobody wants to pursue the "acquaintances"~ (I use that word rather than the word "friend")~ outside of these groups, even though I have suggested to some of the folks I Seem to get on with that we might meet outside the group for a coffee, or anything else. They all scuttle off like frightened rabbits and don't appear to want to take it any further. I have noticed that most of the folks seem to come in twos or threes, so already Know others with whom they have closer/longer friendships.
One lady actually said, "~I don't need to make any more new friends, I have enough already". Think it just about sums it up! So ~ ~ this mythical idea that joining groups allay loneliness to me seems the exact Opposite!
I feel more lonely and isolated at the end of the sessions than before I went in! It's "goodbye, see you next month", and everyone is gone!
Any suggestions? Does anyone have similar experiences??
What gets my goat is the man in the bright orange shirt constantly reminding me that my demise is not far off and that I should take his good deal with his Funeral plan because all the other Funeral plans are a ripoff.
While I am happily listening to great music on Youtube, suddenly, there he is, rudely interrupting, in his orange shirt and stentorian tone, ( in case any of us of the older persuasion are hard of hearing I should think!.) My instinctive reaction is to clench my teeth and rush to click on SKIP to stop him, (this could result in an accident, or a visit to the now rarer than hen's teeth Dentist.)
Grrrrrr! There is a way to stop adverts on Youtube...pay of course!
Highway robbery of a different kind, held to ransom by annoying Adverts.
Over a number of years there has and even more lately been endless adverts asking for money, from children through to animals and onto water and so on. Of course there are many reasons to give money but are we the only ones in England constantly being asked to give money even for other countries through out the world , even in disasters, I too willingly send money to the British Red Cross who do a marvellous job, where I know my donation will get to the most needy of people. But my main concern is why doesn't the governments of some of these countries try and help their own people instead of people here in England constantly being bombarded with begging adverts, what are your views regarding TV begging adverts, and at tea time too?
Is it just me, or are kids (teenagers) these days more than ordinarily dim?
Most of them can't spell, and they write in a very strange manner, with the paper on its side and writing up and down rather than left to right.
Oh well, I'm getting old, and in my youth there was no TV, no double glazing, no central heating, no social media, no mobile phones, if you fell over and skinned your knee your Mum would tell you "It'll be a pigs foot by morning" and stick a plaster on, rather than rushing you to A&E. Sigh.
Am I getting old?
I have six grandchildren who no longer live at home with their parents and I very rarely receive a Thank You. It is so easy these days. They could easily pick up the telephone or send an email. I feel like just sending a card.
Do other grandparents always receive a Thank You?
My partner who earns 10 times what I get gives the grandkids money when I can't afford to do that it makes me feel inferior.
I feel he always has to be the best even though when his kids were young he never had time for them, and now that he does they think he is the bees knees. It's getting me down.
Am I being unreasonable?
Been ripped off by builders come handy men, can't stop crying as I must have had mug written on my forehead.
They chose me I suppose as a widow. They befriended me & I was taken in, told myself I am a fool but not going to get any money back or the 5 jobs that they started but not finished done.
I could do with advice & a friendly chat. Anyone out there able to help. Thank you
Not my work I have to admit, but something passed on to me by a colleague from the local charity I ‘work’ for. Pretty much sums up the way I feel though...maybe it resonates with you too?
I’m sick of Covid-19!! I’m sick of black vs white!! I’m sick of Labour vs Tories vs Liberals vs whoever!, I’m sick of gay vs. straight!! I’m REALLY sick of the media bias !!!!
I’m sick of the language being used and plastered all over the media! I’m sick of no one being allowed to think what they want & feel what they do without offending someone!!
I am sick of the people who are out there jumping on the bandwagon to protest just to cause mass confusion and more hatred and to riot, loot, and destroy!!!!!!
I am sick of blaming the world for the sins of a few!! We’re one race—the human race. We ALL Matter!!
You want to support PM Boris Johnson ? You do it! It’s your choice. You want to support Labour, fine... also your choice!
You want to believe in God? Okay, believe in God. You want to believe in magical creatures that fly around & sprinkle fairy dust to make life better? Awesome... you do it!!
BUT how about being mature enough to be able to deal with the fact that everyone doesn’t have the same exact mind-set as you.
Having our own minds is what makes us all individuals and beautiful. If you can’t handle that fact....I’m sorry!! I don’t have to agree with everything you believe in. So be a decent human being!
For the record, I’m quite a nice person really...
I haven't seen my son, aged 26, since 16th March. We made an arrangement to meet outside as soon as lockdown started to ease, but two days before my visit, his live in gf said he wasn't to see me as I might be infected. Naturally he took her side and I didn't go. Fast forward several weeks and I invited him down a couple of weeks ago. We only live about 45 miles from each other and I live alone, so I was naturally looking forward to seeing him. I had previously made the visit to my daughter a couple of weeks earlier and had had a lovely time. He told me he could only come down on the Sunday and when I asked him why not Saturday, he told me he was going to a birthday party. As my son seems to have the "I am invincible" attitude about COVID, and refuses to wear a mask, limit his time shopping etc, I was naturally concerned about my own health. I said we should postpone the visit then as I was concerned about him passing it on to me.
I have left the invitation open to him to visit when he's had a quiet couple of weeks at home, he's working from home, but no joy. It was actually his sister who said it might be an idea to check he's not socialising too much before we all meet for a birthday meal. It never occurred to me that he would be out n about so much. He has told her that he is furious with me, for what reason I have no idea, but won't pick up the phone. He said he had to go out with his mates as I am causing him so much mental stress, and the drinks were to help his mental health.
He refuses to speak about me to his sister, has completely cut me off, and I don't know why. My daughter has been made redundant and is under huge stress, although covering it well, so I am trying to sort this out without involving her, but if he won't speak to me, it's a bit difficult.
All I am asking him to do is have a quiet time so that he can reduce the possibility of passing it on to me, as I live alone, would have no one to care for me, am self employed and also a small menagerie of animals that rely on me.
Any suggestions welcome. I have made the trip to him three times this years before lockdown and I am not going to run up again. We have had fallings out before, any parent/child does, but this one is completely doing my head in and although I am trying to brush it off for my daughter's sake, it's clearly bothering her and she doesn't need it right now.
I’m a new member of this site because I really want to know if I am being unreasonable. Recently retired from the NHS where I ended up managing a lot of people from diverse backgrounds I feel that I have plenty of life experience and am a pretty tolerant, liberal person.
However I find it very difficult to understand where some young women in their 20s - 30s are coming from. They want to be respected, to be heard and to be empowered and yet often present themselves as image, fashion and makeup obsessed in provocative poses. They hate the so called ‘patriarchy’ but are desperate for a good looking, well dressed, financially secure boyfriend. I have been told that my opinions are inappropriate by my niece who champions women’s rights. I obviously abhor any abuse, inequality and any form of sexism towards women and anyone else for that matter.
I do understand that social media and the media have a huge contribution to this and do know there are a lot of wonderful young women out there. I guess that I feel disappointed that serious, reasonable feminism has been lost or diluted.