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Over a number of years there has and even more lately been endless adverts asking for money, from children through to animals and onto water and so on. Of course there are many reasons to give money but are we the only ones in England constantly being asked to give money even for other countries through out the world , even in disasters, I too willingly send money to the British Red Cross who do a marvellous job, where I know my donation will get to the most needy of people. But my main concern is why doesn't the governments of some of these countries try and help their own people instead of people here in England constantly being bombarded with begging adverts, what are your views regarding TV begging adverts, and at tea time too?
I have six grandchildren who no longer live at home with their parents and I very rarely receive a Thank You. It is so easy these days. They could easily pick up the telephone or send an email. I feel like just sending a card.Do other grandparents always receive a Thank You?
Hi all. What are your views on whether, during a family meal, it's OK for one of the family to be on the phone once we are all sat down to eat.My SIL was on the phone to her sister when I went over to have a very informal meal with them, and didn't get off the line, even though we were about to eat - all served up and sitting down. She'd already been on the phone for a while, during cooking, but still wouldn't hang up when we sat down to eat, clearly intending to keep chatting (and not about anything that couldn't wait!)To my mind, that's just rude to the other people (OK, only two of us, but hey, that's 'other people' isn't it?) But what do others think? SIL felt I had no right to be irritated or to want her to just get off the damn line!!! I'd be interested in hearing whether you think I was being unreasonable - or she was?!!!!
I honestly believe that. There are people whose names I know, who actually refer to themselves as being my friends, and consider themselves to be mine.They don't behave like friends, though. How............how does a person fit the category of "Friend", anyway? How would I know that those people are friends, or just people I know.There are 4 main characters in this situation. I've known one for 48 years, one for around 35 years, etc.. At absolutely no time have they ever picked up a phone and started a conversation with me, voluntarily.If they and I are in conversation, on the phone, it's because I've phoned them...they just seem to have no interest, beyond themselves. I've spent decades telling them that, day or night, awake or asleep, dead or comatose, they can call me if they need to. Many times arose during which they needed somebody and...no phone rang at my house.Whenever they need something from me, they phone and ask about it. Even when they know I'm going through a bad time and could use somebody to help work things out with...the phone has never - not even once - sounded off. I don't see how they can assume themselves to be friends of mine.The art of friendship appears to be a dying one!
Is it just me, or am I missing something?? I have tried joining several groups~ (U3A, National Trust, RSPB, walking groups, etc, etc)~ and good though they all are in their own ways, I have made no "real "friends'.I am fairly sociable and outgoing and reasonable intelligent, so I Can communicate well ~BUT~ ~ The groups all meet at the appropriate times and places, the individual activities are participated in, the session ends, and we all go home! Try as I might, Nobody wants to pursue the "acquaintances"~ (I use that word rather than the word "friend")~ outside of these groups, even though I have suggested to some of the folks I Seem to get on with that we might meet outside the group for a coffee, or anything else. They all scuttle off like frightened rabbits and don't appear to want to take it any further. I have noticed that most of the folks seem to come in twos or threes, so already Know others with whom they have closer/longer friendships.One lady actually said, "~I don't need to make any more new friends, I have enough already". Think it just about sums it up! So ~ ~ this mythical idea that joining groups allay loneliness to me seems the exact Opposite!I feel more lonely and isolated at the end of the sessions than before I went in! It's "goodbye, see you next month", and everyone is gone!Any suggestions? Does anyone have similar experiences??
Morning AllMy younger brother passed away on 15/01/2021 and l was made an Executor along with another brother, l am also a Beneficiary re my brother's estate ( there is no will ) a bank account has been set up by the other Executor and money has been deposited into this account, there is still monies to come from various people.Now the problem l have when l contact the other executor for details re copy of latest bank account he refuses to submit one to me, l believe this is the wrong l should be kept up to date on this matter.Is there anyone out there who could help me with this as l don't want to get involved with a solicitor as this would cost me money which l don't have.Many thanks John
Is anyone else in this situation?I am not living off my child. We share expenses plus I bought the cars and pay for insurance. Since covid and going to school online my granddaughters have started staying up half the night gaming and talking to people online or on games, getting behind in their school work.I have learned over the years that I am not allowed to comment on any of this without creating a big fuss.My question is that the past 2 or 3 weeks they are now staying up all night and they are not quiet at all. They may be in the kitchen at 3 in the morning getting something to eat, playing music and laughing. The last couple of nights I even heard them going out the front door in the middle of the night.All this wakes me up and I wind up not being able to get back to sleep. Then they sleep all day. I don't think they should be leaving the house at 2 or 3 in the morning and they even leave the door unlocked. My son doesn't seem to have a problem with it. He just ordered them new gaming computers as a reward for getting caught up on their school work.I finally blew up at them yesterday. Their Dad was at work. I thought they were asleep in their rooms as early in the morning they asked if they could use my cc to order food. I went to my room and got dressed and went about my morning. I went out to check the mail around noon and I noticed that the door was unlocked. The girls were down the street just coming home. I blew my top and told them they should lock the door when they leave and then I told them to never leave the house without letting me know that they were leaving and where they were going.They said that they had asked their Dad and I said that I was the one that was here. I told them that I am a person and I live here. Of course they were mad and went on to bed. I texted their Dad and told him I did not appreciate them leaving and not even telling me they were going. He said he would talk with them but he usually just plays it off as I am just a crazy old woman.I think I deserve a little curtesy. They are treating me like a piece of furniture. Just over a year ago my son and the girls would just load up and take off. I wouldn't know if they were coming right back or if they were going to be gone all day or half the night. I finally told them I would appreciate it if they let me know they leaving and how long they might be gone. Sometimes I wouldn't even know they were gone unless I looked for them. I finally asked them to please let me know they were leaving so I knew to answer the door or check out noises in the night or plan something rather than waiting around on them. They thought I was being ridiculous.Am I being unreasonable?
People who want to give will.....I choose not to....and I don't want starving kids lame donkeys dead elephants blind people and funeral plans all shoved down your throat....etc.etc.etc... at tea time I won't watch tv as that time is targeted to get people like me and it is disgusting advertising begging and sick making!It goes on all day my elderly parents tell me and they can't watch tv for this brain washing propaganda! The British government gave 14 billion pounds in foreign aid this year and has been giving that much for many years and will keep giving! Haven't they had enough? And what are they doing with it? 14 billion a year in foreign aid......check that out.....some people are getting very rich....enough said...
I understand how the young people are suffering but so are we ‘more mature’ folk, and I am early fed up with easing about how they are all suffering etc which we all empathise with but so are we and to be blunt some of us have no idea how many years we have to enjoy life compared with the young ones that I actually think that we need to enjoy the time we have.Many young people, along with other age groups are trying to make us feel guilty about that and with the suggestion that we step back and make time and room for young people to take priority of whatever is offered to enable them to enjoy life as we have had ours!Am I being unreasonable?