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Over a number of years there has and even more lately been endless adverts asking for money, from children through to animals and onto water and so on. Of course there are many reasons to give money but are we the only ones in England constantly being asked to give money even for other countries through out the world , even in disasters, I too willingly send money to the British Red Cross who do a marvellous job, where I know my donation will get to the most needy of people. But my main concern is why doesn't the governments of some of these countries try and help their own people instead of people here in England constantly being bombarded with begging adverts, what are your views regarding TV begging adverts, and at tea time too?
Is it just me, or am I missing something?? I have tried joining several groups~ (U3A, National Trust, RSPB, walking groups, etc, etc)~ and good though they all are in their own ways, I have made no "real "friends'.
I am fairly sociable and outgoing and reasonable intelligent, so I Can communicate well ~BUT~ ~ The groups all meet at the appropriate times and places, the individual activities are participated in, the session ends, and we all go home! Try as I might, Nobody wants to pursue the "acquaintances"~ (I use that word rather than the word "friend")~ outside of these groups, even though I have suggested to some of the folks I Seem to get on with that we might meet outside the group for a coffee, or anything else. They all scuttle off like frightened rabbits and don't appear to want to take it any further. I have noticed that most of the folks seem to come in twos or threes, so already Know others with whom they have closer/longer friendships.
One lady actually said, "~I don't need to make any more new friends, I have enough already". Think it just about sums it up! So ~ ~ this mythical idea that joining groups allay loneliness to me seems the exact Opposite!
I feel more lonely and isolated at the end of the sessions than before I went in! It's "goodbye, see you next month", and everyone is gone!
Any suggestions? Does anyone have similar experiences??
My partner who earns 10 times what I get gives the grandkids money when I can't afford to do that it makes me feel inferior.
I feel he always has to be the best even though when his kids were young he never had time for them, and now that he does they think he is the bees knees. It's getting me down.
Am I being unreasonable?
Is it just me, or are kids (teenagers) these days more than ordinarily dim?
Most of them can't spell, and they write in a very strange manner, with the paper on its side and writing up and down rather than left to right.
Oh well, I'm getting old, and in my youth there was no TV, no double glazing, no central heating, no social media, no mobile phones, if you fell over and skinned your knee your Mum would tell you "It'll be a pigs foot by morning" and stick a plaster on, rather than rushing you to A&E. Sigh.
Am I getting old?
I have six grandchildren who no longer live at home with their parents and I very rarely receive a Thank You. It is so easy these days. They could easily pick up the telephone or send an email. I feel like just sending a card.
Do other grandparents always receive a Thank You?
My daughter is paying £240 to take her 6 year old son and 7 year old daughter out of school for a holiday to Florida. Another parent at the same school is also taking her two children out of school (same reason) but has confided in a "friend" that she is going to say that they are ill. What do you think about taking children out of school in term time ... is it better to be honest. Am I being unreasonable thinking that not telling the truth is wrong? Should this whole system of fining parents be abolished? Would love to hear what others think
I retired last year. Decided to get some work done on my garden - patio now I'm home more.
The work is poor but they have said they will rectify it. They came and did some more work but it's still very poor. They are coming again in a weeks time. I don't really want them here. Without going into details they have been condescending and patronising.
Citizens advice said I need to give them a chance to put the work right. Is there any kind of organisation who would have someone be here with me when they come?
I can't express how nervous they make me feel.
I have been with my new partner for just over 2 years, having divorced after a 35 year marriage.
My new partner is 11 years older than me, Irish and very old fashioned. I mention Irish, because if anyone on here is Irish, am I looking at a culture thing?
Last week I finally managed to get an online shopping slot, but only to my son's area around 10 miles away, so I decided to do that and go over and collect it. I was thrilled that I had managed to get us out of a supermarket visit, that would at least minimise our risk for another couple of weeks.
He knew about the shop and I told him I was going to collect the shopping Tuesday morning just gone. I returned with it, only to find he had just got back from Tescos with virtually the same items as me. I went mad, I was so frustrated I broke down in tears, and said why would you put us at risk when you didn't need to.
He then shouted back at me, said he was sick of my nagging (?), and seemed very put out I had got the shop. He is quite victorian in his attitude, and thinks only man brings home the bacon, a bone of contention, as I am very independent.
We went a couple of days without really talking, and he has now asked me to leave! This is a man that a couple of days ago was saying he loved me! He will never talk about a problem, brushes it away, and if he's set on something, there is no compromise. So, here I am, after 2 days of stacking the car, of my belongings, with a view to going back to my little house, to live my life alone!
We had such plans for our future, and I can't believe he's ending it when it's pretty obvious he still loves me and I him.
Am I being unreasonable to have got the shopping as I did to minimise the risk for both of us?
He's 69 on Monday, so not far off the age to isolate anyway, and I had a scare last year with early breast cancer. He will be alone for his birthday which does upset me, but it's out of my hands.
Clearly there is a lot of good stuff going on in the community so I feel a bit guilty about airing a gripe. I am on the DHSC register as Extremely Clinically Vulnerable and have been strongly advised by DHSC and told point-blank by my clinical consultant…… Not to Leave the House until mid June at the earliest. This advice does not surprise me as I am well aware of my condition.
This advice does, of course, present the problem of how to get provisions. I live alone, have no family and do not have links with neighbours I can depend upon. Yes, there are local volunteers but not that well organised. Even if someone is willing to shop for me how do I pay them as I have no access to cash? I do now, after 3 weeks, get a weekly Government food box…… I greatly appreciate this well intentioned scheme, but unfortunately the box contents are mainly carb based and for medical reasons does not fit my dietary requirements.
I am advised by Gov pamphlet that it is not possible for boxes to be tailored, and I fully appreciate that this would be impossibly complicated, so I don't expect it. I do worry about the waste though…… hate waste! What I thought would be the very best solution for me is the scheme agreed by the Government and the major food chains. DHSC have supplied them with the list of all who are registered, and the idea is that the food chains will notify local people on the list of priority delivery slots of online food purchases (I am not looking for handouts), reserved for the vulnerable.
Great. Or so I thought. The main names, Tesco, Sainsbury, Waitrose etc. have all publicised how they are taking part in this initiative. Yet weeks on, nothing seems to have happened. I am aware of one 70 year old living alone who can not get a slot with Sainsbury no matter how hard she tries. I have had an email from Tesco saying they are going to offer this provision but they have not responded to, my email back, asking for details. Waitrose, my nearest shop by a long way, and where I have been a regular customer for many years, also state on their website that they will be contacting 'us' when they are able to.
I have emailed them 3 times and get standard managerial evasive replies. I even dropped a letter into the store by hand, Not replied to. What I do get from Waitrose is promotional emails telling me all the great things I can cook during the crisis… naturally these assume I am using ingredients from their shop! Clearly they know how to contact me when it suits them.
Oh yes, you read correctly……… I did personally drop a letter in by hand. I did this in the hour 'set aside for the elderly and key workers' first hour of the day. Well, what can I do but go out once a week to get fresh food? Yes, I do so against all the best advice…… I am very nervous when I take this risk, but what are my options?
The DHSC scheme could be really good, there are less than 3% of the population on the at risk register, of which about half either live with people not on the risk list or are in structured care. That leaves about 95,000 of us advised to stay at home, and alone. Is the capacity of all the main online food suppliers really not sufficient to find that many slots… At one delivery per week, at any time of day, spread over over seven days per week ………well we are going to be in ……where else can we be. The supermarkets have all had a significant upturn in productivity, and unlike other areas of business will actually do well out of the crisis. So am I just cynical to think that these suppliers are using publicity of being good samaritans and helping the vulnerable, but not actually doing anything in reality?
I would like to know if anyone on the DHSC list has actually been notified by an online Super Market that they are eligible for a priority in delivery slot availability.