After nearly 30 years of silence, my step mother used a private detective to track me down and sent a letter to my home address. During this time our Dad whom we were not allowed to see died. We were not tracked down then so consequently were denied the chance to attend his funeral. I sent her a pleasant email in reply as I did not want her turning up on my doorstep and her letter out of the blue quite freaked me out.
My sibling and I were badly treated by this women when we were children. Our own children have been born, grown, married and have children of their own. Never once has this woman remembered a birthday of any of the children or grandchildren in our family.
Now after all this time she is demanding their addresses and wants to make contact with them. She has her own blood relations whom I think she may have fallen out with and I believe thinks our lot will do instead.
What can we do? We don't want her turning up on our doorsteps and given that she denied us the chance to see our father or attend his funeral we are all quite annoyed by her behaviour. What advice can you give us?
Sorry, I wasn't certain if anyone could help us on here, we live in a 1 bed bungalow, I am registered disabled and my husband is my carer. Over the past 2 years and 8 months our lives have been ruined by our, believe it or not a single male who is the same age as my husband 64, he has from the word go caused us so much trouble with his drinking & loud "teenage", thumping base music, it has really been bad and my dear husband of 38 years, has had a breakdown, he has just had about all he can take.
It was reported to the housing association well over 2 years ago, 2016 Xmas time, believed to come from a homeless place where he said was full of druggies and drunks. He also said that when in lodgings he came home from work one day, and his things were in the garden bagged up. Now this has told at least 4 people in authority who ask, why hasn't the housing association evicted him? We wish their question could be answered. This person has broken tenancy rules by upsetting his neighbour, us under the alcohol/noise rule. We have filled in diaries until they are coming out of our ears, tried endless ways of taping this "music" but needs special equipment to pick this thumping noise up, Environmental Health have a machine, just the one, but it's in Denmark being fixed. Remarkable only 1 machine for x amount of tenants. This person had agreed to move his 43" flat screen t.v. surround system, together with soundbar and 7 speakers, onto another wall and not against our bedroom wall, but has he! No, 2 days after telling the powers that be he would move it, remains in the same place, also forgotten was the music centre in his kitchen, which he has wired up to the system in the living room. The Environmental Health man went into the kitchen after we asked him to check that our ASB neighbour had his bathroom door on, we knew he hadn't as one can see when his internal lighting is on, oh yes, exclaimed the Environmental Health man, heavy door better than these thin ones, normal hardwood, our neighbour being devious had pulled the door, which is double glazed to the outside sheds, across the bathroom entrance, hence the E. Health thinking, well need I say more.
Nevertheless, this neighbour has broken 1 of the tenancy rules which comes under alcohol/noise, their ASB officer just couldn't give a monkey's, and will not evict this person even with Police evidence, they have been called out 3 times and made reports heard it for themselves. We just don't know what to do any more, spoken with C.A.B., but haven't had much luck with them, have reported housing officer, but all on side.
Is there anyone that comes here had any troubles like this, or is there any ex legal people who may know what we can do next, please? This is a very serious situation as our health is at stake and can no longer take this pressure, feel that nobody cares these days. We have nowhere to go, unless we purchase a tent and get permission to camp in a field.
Please if someone has any ideas or can think of someone we can contact, be very, very grateful.
Bless you for reading this.
I own my property and have lived there for 10 years. 18 months ago a new person bought the downstairs flat. Everything was fine at first. I am away a lot. However about 12 months ago she moved a man into her flat. He seem okay at first. Now however he is an absolute pain. He has started using my bin. I came home late one night and could not get up my drive to the front door as My bin was shoved in front of the path overflowing. I had to move the bin to get to my front door as I have mobility problems and it was dark it was not easy.
The next morning when the binmen had been it looked as though someone had vomited in the bin. This has happened several times since. At one point he had the cheek to tell me I didn't use the bin!!!!!!!!
I have my own car parking space and quite often I find he has parked in there despite being told not to by myself. He leaves his cigarette butts all over my car parking space and now there is chewing gum all over my space. In the 10 years I have lived there no one has ever taken my car parking space before.
Nor have the people downstairs ever complained about noise and I have had 3 other neighbours before this woman bought the property. I have gone down the route of putting polite notes through the letterbox which they take no notice of. I have been told by this man at one point I should not come to my home late at night. I come home when my plane lands. I have thick carpets on the stairs but I do need to get up the stairs. On several occasions I have been woken up having fallen asleep on the couch by this man knocking on my door late at night saying I am making a noise when in fact I am asleep and his insistent ringing of my bell has woken me up. This woman takes no part in any of this indeed when I have tried to speak about her lodger/ live in lover? She stand there mute.
I am at the point I just don't know what can be done. Anyone got any helpful suggestions?
I retired last year. Decided to get some work done on my garden - patio now I'm home more.
The work is poor but they have said they will rectify it. They came and did some more work but it's still very poor. They are coming again in a weeks time. I don't really want them here. Without going into details they have been condescending and patronising.
Citizens advice said I need to give them a chance to put the work right. Is there any kind of organisation who would have someone be here with me when they come?
I can't express how nervous they make me feel.
The media keep telling us that our High Streets are in decline because we consumers have abandoned them in favour of the internet. But I think the shops themselves must accept their share of the blame.
I recently tried to buy a new mobile. I went to Carphone Warehouse, which has provided helpful and informed advice in the past, sadly the staff had no advice to offer. They could read the specifications on the cards next to the phones, something I am capable of doing myself, but couldn’t advise or help me choose the most appropriate model. “That one must be better because it’s more expensive”, was considered informed comment.
Disappointed, I tried PC world. I had gone to a shop because I wanted to assess the touch and feel of the different phones. The phones on display were not real phones that you could use for this purpose. They were “dummies” because the store is frightened that real phones would get stolen.
Have I just been unlucky, or do others feel that the high street has forgotten how to serve customers and so contributed to its own demise?
I’m wondering if anyone lease has experienced problems with abusive adult children ?
My 32 year old daughter asked to come and live with me for a few months due to financial issues. I agreed. I didn’t ask for money from her so she could save. Short version of the outcome is she became very abusive to me- apparently all her bad decisions are my fault, to the point when I was being sworn at and insulted on a daily basis. She refused to leave when I asked her to, so eventually, I had to move her stuff out and change the locks.
Of course, I love her and as she has made it clear I will never see her or my grandchildren again, it’s very upsetting.
If you have expected this and have any tips for getting over the abuse and not being able to see my grandchildren again, I would appreciate your advice. Thanks
I have six grandchildren who no longer live at home with their parents and I very rarely receive a Thank You. It is so easy these days. They could easily pick up the telephone or send an email. I feel like just sending a card.
Do other grandparents always receive a Thank You?
I have received a message recently from a friend through Facebook inviting me to her 60th birthday. I was pleased to get the invite as I have not seen her in around 8 years; we had worked together for a couple of years before I moved location.
Reading through the invitation, it says “if you are thinking of giving a present for my 60th birthday, a cash gift would really make me go "Yay" etc etc..... I’ve always valued being given a present and take time choosing presents for others; I think it is something special and I always value any presents that I am given, regardless of value.
To ask for money instead leaves a bit of a bad taste in the mouth so to speak. I was just wondering what other people thought, is it was just me? I think I will have to make some excuse not to go, it’s a real shame, I would have liked to have seen her again.
I know there are some people who have trouble with spellings and on another forum I saw comments on people being quite rude about this. I was picked on for misspelling something on Facebook; I didn’t know who the lady was and felt quite surprised to have a comment made.
Am I being unreasonable?