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Hi all. What are your views on whether, during a family meal, it's OK for one of the family to be on the phone once we are all sat down to eat.
My SIL was on the phone to her sister when I went over to have a very informal meal with them, and didn't get off the line, even though we were about to eat - all served up and sitting down. She'd already been on the phone for a while, during cooking, but still wouldn't hang up when we sat down to eat, clearly intending to keep chatting (and not about anything that couldn't wait!)
To my mind, that's just rude to the other people (OK, only two of us, but hey, that's 'other people' isn't it?) But what do others think? SIL felt I had no right to be irritated or to want her to just get off the damn line!!! I'd be interested in hearing whether you think I was being unreasonable - or she was?!!!!
I have six grandchildren who no longer live at home with their parents and I very rarely receive a Thank You. It is so easy these days. They could easily pick up the telephone or send an email. I feel like just sending a card.
Do other grandparents always receive a Thank You?
Over a number of years there has and even more lately been endless adverts asking for money, from children through to animals and onto water and so on. Of course there are many reasons to give money but are we the only ones in England constantly being asked to give money even for other countries through out the world , even in disasters, I too willingly send money to the British Red Cross who do a marvellous job, where I know my donation will get to the most needy of people. But my main concern is why doesn't the governments of some of these countries try and help their own people instead of people here in England constantly being bombarded with begging adverts, what are your views regarding TV begging adverts, and at tea time too?
Is it just me, or am I missing something?? I have tried joining several groups~ (U3A, National Trust, RSPB, walking groups, etc, etc)~ and good though they all are in their own ways, I have made no "real "friends'.
I am fairly sociable and outgoing and reasonable intelligent, so I Can communicate well ~BUT~ ~ The groups all meet at the appropriate times and places, the individual activities are participated in, the session ends, and we all go home! Try as I might, Nobody wants to pursue the "acquaintances"~ (I use that word rather than the word "friend")~ outside of these groups, even though I have suggested to some of the folks I Seem to get on with that we might meet outside the group for a coffee, or anything else. They all scuttle off like frightened rabbits and don't appear to want to take it any further. I have noticed that most of the folks seem to come in twos or threes, so already Know others with whom they have closer/longer friendships.
One lady actually said, "~I don't need to make any more new friends, I have enough already". Think it just about sums it up! So ~ ~ this mythical idea that joining groups allay loneliness to me seems the exact Opposite!
I feel more lonely and isolated at the end of the sessions than before I went in! It's "goodbye, see you next month", and everyone is gone!
Any suggestions? Does anyone have similar experiences??
People who want to give will.....I choose not to....and I don't want starving kids lame donkeys dead elephants blind people and funeral plans all shoved down your throat....etc.etc.etc... at tea time I won't watch tv as that time is targeted to get people like me and it is disgusting advertising begging and sick making!
It goes on all day my elderly parents tell me and they can't watch tv for this brain washing propaganda! The British government gave 14 billion pounds in foreign aid this year and has been giving that much for many years and will keep giving! Haven't they had enough? And what are they doing with it? 14 billion a year in foreign aid......check that out.....some people are getting very rich....enough said...
Hello. First time here and I'm going to moan. I live alone and have been trying to find a rescue dog for a few months.
Yesterday I found what I considered a perfect match - a 10-year-old terrier looking for a quiet life with a single adopter.
I submitted an application form and received a phone call within half an hour so I thought YES!
It turns out that because the flat I live in has a communal garden my home isn't suitable - it would seem every rescue dog in the world needs it's own enclosed garden.
I'm glad animals aren't handed over to just anyone without checks but aren't the rescue places being a little too picky?
What woman wants to kiss a nasty beard. I am sorry, but I find beards disgusting. I just find them very dirty looking and not at all attractive. Mustache? I try to get passed it. It's not easy.
You cannot tell me a man is going to keep that thing clean of debris coming from eating, and his nose. Am I wrong?
We have cared for our son for 20 years during a diagnosed severe mental illness. There has never been a day in that 20 years that we it has not infringed on our daily life and how we wished things could be different.
One of the main problems is his lack of insight and reasoning into his condition.
He has his own secure tenancy and when the Covid lockdown started we were left completely on our own to care for him. Even although my husband is over 70 and I have other health problems.
Because of his vulnerability and his disbelief in the pandemic he was a target for unsavoury people with no protection to visit his flat putting us in danger. It was inevitable he would need to be hospitalised which was horrific and he has been in a psychiatric unit for 5 months. It has now been suggested that they will let him home if we care for him but my husband and I have said we will only do it if we get the vaccine. We have been told we will not get it and it was even suggested by one doctor that we are being selfish to not do it and let him home.
What do others think?
Am I being ungrateful? My friend, whom I've known for 20+ years, never makes an effort to find a suitable gift for me (or anyone else, I suspect). She always offloads the job either onto her daughter or, believe it or not, onto the recipient.
I've spent the last 5 years giving her a list of which books I'd like for Christmas, so she can pick one out at random and pretend it's a surprise. One year, she even asked me to buy (and wrap) my own present and send her the bill.
This year, it's slightly different - she got her daughter to pick out a book for me online and have it sent directly to me. I've met her daughter just 3 times over the past 2 decades and we have never discussed the type of books we like to read. I have, however, discussed my intense dislike of "misery novels" with my friend (child abuse, domestic violence, surviving sick situations, etc).
Today, you've guessed it, a misery novel arrived in the post - not wrapped or signed, no message from my friend - I only realised it was from her because I just happened to see her daughter's name on the bookshop label.. I take so much care choosing gifts for her, it just feels like a slap in the face when she obviously thinks, "Aw, that'll do for her, I can't be bothered even thinking about what to get." Is it just me?
Should I be feeling grateful for getting any gift, even if it's obviously given in an offhand, don't-care manner?
Humans are such a curious lot aren't they? Here are the big-city populations of the U.S. doing the same thing with President Trump, that the Brits did with Sir Winston at the end of "The Big War".
It seems that the more stellar performance that a politician gives, the faster his opposition builds until they throw him out at the earliest opportunity.
At the risk of sounding like a sour-grapes naysayer, I'm predicting that within a couple of years, a lot of folks in the U.S. will know what a hand-basket is!