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Looking for like minded friends to chat with

I am a widow looking for friends to talk with.


I get lonely at times hubby has been gone for 7 years 😢


Created By on 24/02/2022

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silverteddybear
16th Oct 2022 02:50:31
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Hello. I'm in the UK. My husband died suddenly , with no warning, 4 years ago. He was very fit and had no health problems - or so I thought. Then, one day he was sick at work and came home. 20 minutes later he died. He had a blood clot which went to his heart and blocked it. he was only 56.

Then I lost a pet and 3 months later my dad died. I lost 2 more pets a year later and my mum died of dementia. My sisters cut me off because I was grieving too much. I can't get a job and found I couldn't cope. So, I was put in a unit where I got no help whatsoever.

4 years on and I'm still crying. I have no support from anyone. Doctor, sisters, family etc all don't bother. I lost all my friends when they got married and the neighbours where I live are not nice. So, I too am lonely.

People have said it is a good idea to join clubs. Here in the UK we have University of the third age in most areas where we live and you can do activities like chess, knitting, book club. I went to one and I felt really old and on the scrap heap. I didn't go back.

4 years on after my husband's passing and I feel so lost with no direction. Older people where I live don't make friends. I was on Gransnet - another forum like this one - and 2 people contacted me and started talking but they didn't talk much so I gave up.

There isn't a single day where I haven't missed my husband, my mum and dad and my pets. The pain is unbearable. So, I just thought I'd let you know that you are not alone in your feelings. It is really a struggle I find. If you have found any answers please let me know.

I try to plan a task for each day and tick them off so that I get a sense of purpose.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 16th Oct 2022 08:43:10
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Response from Gigi4223 made on 8th Nov 2022 06:38:10
Hi Silverteddybear. I’m Gigi and I’m from Florida U.S. I think your comment is a few months old by now but I just saw it and thought I’d reply. I’m new here, and your story is very similar to mine. My husband also passed away suddenly and I got a call in the middle of the night letting me know. It was horrible to say the least. Then my dad died and I took care of my mom for about 6 years because she had Alzheimer’s and she finally passed away. .. I don’t know if this will reach you but if you’d like I’ll chat with you. I have a few things to do each day but at some point I will be in here.. best wishes… ..Gigi
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 8th Nov 2022 09:38:52 > @Gigi4223
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