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Things that stick in your mind

It is funny what you remember about childhood, mam bought fruit every week and we thought nothing of it but at Christmas, it was always put in a big fruit bowl with oranges and nuts that needed cracking.


A much bigger than they are now tin of quality street, metal tin alongside it on the brick stone fireplace popular then. cards strung up on the walls on bits of string. Ceiling decorations that used to fall down on a regular basis held up by drawing pins or cellotape


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Lionel
27th Sep 2020 23:04:06 (Last activity: 1st Oct 2020 11:08:45)
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Yes, it is funny what we remember about childhood. Christmas 1956 in Norfolk was white over. I went to bed on Christmas Eve with the promise of a big surprise the following morning.

On waking up I remember running excitedly into mother's bedroom to find a bare chested man sat up in bed with a military hat sat jauntily on his head! It was my mothers husband, my father whom I had never seen before as he was a Ship's Master in the Merchant Navy, a blue water sailor, always in another part of the world.

That was not a good beginning and it didn't end well years later. To this day I firmly believe so many of the problems with our young people stem from a lack of a stable family, particularly a strong but loving father. But there, who would ever listen to me?
Response from PurpleHat made on 28th Sep 2020 16:54:37
Lionel - I listen, I always look out for your posts and find a great deal of common sense. I am sad that you lacked a father in your early years, and it marked your life.
Mine was great. He would have loved a son, but my brother- to- be was stillborn. I was an only. and often lonely child.
My Dad took me scrambling under the pier for fishing, up to the allotment in his spare time for gardening, and Saturday football, where all his mates looked out for me. I loved the away matches and singing on the coach
My poor mother never had a "girly" girl, but it served me well! and I have good memories of the freedom and confidence he gave me.
Response from Lionel made on 28th Sep 2020 23:02:15 > @PurpleHat
Thank you for hearing, PurpleHat, and responding. Childhood and teenage years weren't so bad. I had a godfather, a benign bear of a man; a childhood friend of my mother's who lived in the village and worked on farms. He took me under his wing, so to speak. I took every possible opportunity to return to the village. As soon as I reasonably could I began working on farms too. Made a good career in farming.

My godfather knew my father was an alcoholic and stood in his place for many years. It was he, not my father, who shaped the man I would become. Much later several opportunities to stand in the breach with other people's kids came my way. Some were successful and others weren't.

The deliberate and progressive devaluation of the family unit in my lifetime by politicians and liberal thinkers has led, I'm quite sure, to so many of society's ills. There's no longer a solid role model for youngsters, such as I had. Everyone just does what they think fit without any regard for the consequences. Kids are neglected, never know the genuinely expressed love of a parent, nor the disciplines imposed in love.

I believe the lack of instilled personal discipline in childhood and reinforced in schools has resulted in the abject failure of our education system to deliver the results this nation so badly needs.

But that's another subject and not one many people will want to hear.
Response from PurpleHat made on 28th Sep 2020 23:24:05 > @Lionel
I totally agree with your last statement, the loss of family values and personal discipline and the " I want it now" syndrome in general. Will the pendulum swing again after all the present day trials and tribulations? I am by nature an optimist, but the future looks very uncertain for some time to come.
Response from Lionel made on 30th Sep 2020 09:28:14
I don't think the pendulum will swing back. The best analogy I've understood compares society to a bowl of fruit. Once one piece of fruit begins to rot, corrupt, no matter what we do - cut out the rot, fridge the fruit, freeze it - the rot spreads. Eventually the entire bowl of fruit is useless to anyone. It is then creatures that feed off corruption thrive.

Just reading the online press and watching a very small amount of TV shows us we're in that final stage. The carrion are circling.

Yes, Purplehat, believe it or not I am optimistic but not in man's own abilities to right his pitiful condition.
Response from PurpleHat made on 30th Sep 2020 11:19:34 > @Lionel
Rising 89 now I have determined to take my own life day by day and try to make something of each one, however small. But I also think of the planets that have been discovered that may have once supported life as we know it, did the same happen there? and also of all the plagues and clearances that there have been in the life of earth itself. Nature has the tendency to restore balance, sometimes in harsh ways. Is this one of those times? I go out on a fine night, look up at the stars, and wonder! Such Profundity from me!!!!
Response from Lionel made on 30th Sep 2020 13:08:06
Such profundity? I'm not surprised even if you are! The wisdom that comes with age and experience. I'll get there one day.

Yes, the natural world has it's ways of dealing with any species getting out of hand. I've read this summer of unprecedented swarms of locusts ruining food crops over Africa, India and China. And that at a time of declining agricultural output. Billionaires like Bill Gates of Microsoft are supposedly funding disease eradication programmes in Africa and India yet we must stand back and say disease and starvation are the natural ways of dealing with burgeoning populations of animals and people.

It would be a trifle short sighted to deliberately turn aside from nature's ways and consider ourselves proof because of technology or booming medical expertise. We may only go so far in our own defences. Unashamedly, I believe we are witnessing one of nature's culls and this time the Western peoples are not immune. Indeed, our affluent lifestyles have left us unprotected, less resiliant than native peoples and full of our own self importance. We've become disconnected from the very creation from which we sprang. It's our time too.

So very often I too gaze at the stars and remember God created them and calls them by name. It's a staggering thought; star gazing puts me in a perspective of creation - miniscule yet a part of this enormous whole.

Well, PurpleHat, that's a slice of farm/country wisdom. Fatalism to some extent, but always hopeful.
Response from PurpleHat made on 1st Oct 2020 11:08:45 > @Lionel
Wise words as ever, Lionel. Thank you!!

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