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Being Alone

Can I ask am I the only person who feels incredibly lonely at times but am too scared to trust anybody? I had a couple of people asking me where I am etc. I said "sorry I am not on here to private chat" Afterwards I felt so rude. I have arrangements to go out & always cancel at the last minute. I would to hear if others feel like me. Thank you


Created By on 07/12/2016

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w5bsp
3rd Sep 2017 03:32:26 (Last activity: 3rd Sep 2017 08:47:51)
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is this all just in the UK or are some in the states
Response from Silversurfer's Editor made on 3rd Sep 2017 08:47:51
Mostly our members are in the UK, however, we also have members from the USA too 🙂
Ericfromwigan
8th May 2017 17:35:52
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If you have experienced a broken relationship, yes, it's hard to trust, but we are social beings and if you are beset by loneliness you have to try....
Try and take a chance, but try and be very careful....
Eric from Wigan
bryanjb
25th Apr 2017 22:03:05 (Last activity: 27th Apr 2017 21:07:27)
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I lost my wife last year as we didn't go out much I didn't have a lot of friends my neighbors kept asking me to go to the pub with them I kept saying yes but I didn't go then I went on holiday with my daughters as one of my daughters had her husband and son with her and my younger daughter had her friend with her I was left alone a lot I made my self to go and talk to people and go to bars I met some really nice people who I went out with a lot it was the kick up the bum I needed when I got home I went to the pub and iv made some good friends and iv joined the pool team so that gets me out to other pubs so if you've got a local pub you can go to or if you've got some family or friends you can go with then go it wil be the best thing you do if you make any sense of this all the best for the future
Response from Lady H made on 27th Apr 2017 18:16:26
Great advice but probably easier for a man than a woman.
Response from ThePrimate made on 27th Apr 2017 21:07:27
Possibly but not impossible. I'd agree it's easier for a bloke to go to a pub on his own, but sometimes just making one new friend can open a whole lot of new doors. Trust can be a big issue and you can have 9 good experiences but it'll be the one bad one that sticks in your mind
dangerman
25th Jan 2017 20:21:53
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Is there anyone here from Cornwall,i live near Truro on the North coast at a village called Porthtowan and i would very much like to meet new friends as i live on my own and there are no people that i know in my area ..
It would be very nice to have friends to talk with and go for a walk ,so if you live nearby please get in touch i will be delighted to hear from you....If you would like to contact me my email address is [email protected]
Jinty121
2nd Jan 2017 21:37:41 (Last activity: 2nd Jan 2017 21:56:51)
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University of the third age.......think it's for pensioners and I'm not there yet......in fact I can't retire for about 10 years!
Response from Jinty121 made on 2nd Jan 2017 21:56:51
It's for learning there are all sorts of courses. I looked up U3A and it says there is no minimum age but it's aimed at people who have finished full time work and bringing up family who still want to learn new things!
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8th Dec 2016 17:05:30 (Last activity: 8th Dec 2016 22:38:40)
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Response from Jazzy27 Original Poster made on 8th Dec 2016 22:38:40
Yes I am sure you are right. I had alot of loss in my childhood & younger years, I think it could stem from this. Thank you
Georgie Girl
7th Dec 2016 10:36:56
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Hi Jazzy27, strange how we can all approach things from different angles, I also experience overwhelming feelings of loneliness and have lost a lot of faith in people. With regards to private chat, I look on this from a totally different angle, thinking someone must have felt a connection through one of my postings and prefers to make contact through private chat rather than discuss personal life etc, on the open forums. I would not be giving out my address or such like and of course you have to be careful but I have been able to chat through many issues with members this way whereas I would never do this on an open forum.
Best wishes to you.
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