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Contact issues with my daughter

Divorced over 20 years ago, toxic marriage

To stop the continuity of drama etc I packed my job in as a Prison Officer and moved back home,160 miles away. It was and has been painful for me and my children, I texted my daughter most every day for 20 years my son didn't want to know, the door has and is always open the thought of them feeling unwanted is uppermost in my mind always but I'm not a doormat either.

Daughter moved closer to me to go to University, had financial and family support, she met a fella, an Indian lad, I'm not bothered if he is a Martian as long as they are happy and aren't targeted by racists. That was 4/5 years ago she moved away with him, that's fine but it was sad as I hoped she would be closer.

I have never met this lad. My daughter has been to my flat once in all the years. I've been here, she will come to my home town stay with my sister, my ex who moved back here, my mother and father, but never visits me. She will say pick me up and take me to the train station, that's about it the max of about 15 minutes.

I say ill come down to where she lives and we can meet up, she avoids this.

So bottom line I deserve better treatment so I've said the door is always open, I love you always, but I've had enough of this. In an emergency contact your Aunty, she'll contact me otherwise you do me the respect of coming to my front door. I'm not a racist, so if that's the issue then it's you and your partner who have issues around that.

Am I being unreasonable?

Created By on 31/08/2020

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