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Hi I just joined and now looking for new friends. I am very afraid of meeting new friends cause I am so afraid of being judged.


After my parents and 2 younger sisters died, all with in a 12 year span, my 2 younger living sisters and their families abandoned me after being in their lives for 55 years. I never was told why they did what they did, but it's broke my spirit, and trust in people now. I have been so hurt over this, I have forgotten how to have fun, and be happy. The stress from the abandonment has caused me to have 3 strokes and my heart to stop, causing to have a pacemaker put in. I want friends so bad, and I want to be able to trust again.


I am so lonely. I miss my sisters so much. I thought they loved me and then they do this. Was my life a big lie? I can't get over this.


Created By on 07/07/2022

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JuliePconfused
11th Sep 2022 01:11:00
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Thanks for voting!
Hi Greatgrandmadee2, I know what you are going through. I have suffered a similar fate. My husband suddenly died - no warning and for the first month my sister supported me and then suddenly she stopped. Both my sisters have cut themselves off and I don't know why. I've asked them but they say they are on 'a different path'. So, I have gone through similar to you. I too have no trust in people now and am lonely. I know exactly how you must be feeling. I lost my husband, my dad, my mum, my cousin and then my two sisters cut me off and their families abandoned me all within one year. My one sister wouldn't let me see mum for the last 3 years of mums life. No-one told me dad had died. I found out purely by chance when looking on the internet. I saw RIP on my sisters Facebook page and that's how I found out dad had died. Sister also posted photos of dad dying. All this after 60 years. So, I can understand and empathise with your last sentences

'I am so lonely. I miss my sisters so much. I thought they loved me and then they do this. Was my life a big lie? I can't get over this.'

It really hurts doesn't it. Just to let you know you are not alone.

Do you have any hobbies/interests- I love getting absolutely filthy digging in the garden. I'm afraid the weeds are winning though and the grass is threadbare but I enjoy the challenge. I do needle felting but often my creations are more like aliens from some strange planet.
Do you have children and great grand children? Do they visit you?

Keep smiling - there are so many good people on this site who will extend the hand of friendship. Take Care
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JC8
31st Jul 2022 23:18:32
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Thanks for voting!
Dont be afraid to chat to new people.
We all need friends after being let down by people.
But just be yourself and get as much out of life as you can.
Everyone deserves to be happy.
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Katia19
12th Jul 2022 22:12:30
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Thanks for voting!
Hi I just wanted to say hello. I find that I am unfortunately in a similar situation, as I no longer have contact with my brothers or niece, I am quite devastated and yet as time goes on managing to try to see it for the best, and get on with my own life, but its difficult as you say, as I feel responsible for them and they were a big part of my life!

I have health concerns but am hoping to improve after recuperation.

I am very sorry to hear of your own health concerns, and it would be nice if you would like to keep in touch.

In the meantime, take care, staying safe and please enjoy the summer weather if you can!
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