How Do Single Retired People Not Become Isolated And Alone?
Watch this postI'm basically a recluse. I'm a nice enough guy but I got no friends or relations. I could be gregarious if I knew where to turn it on. The last person to share a coffee with me in my house was may 2013. What do other people do to meet people ???
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I sit beside the fire and think of people long ago,
of people who will see a world that I will never know.
And all the while I sit and think of how it was before,
I listen for returning feet and voices at the door.
The sad, but indubitable truth is that the 'returning feet' (friends/family) may never arrive at your door.
The world will not beat a path to our doors, we have to go out to be noticed, or no-one will even know that we exist.
There are hundreds of thousands of lonely older people, abandoned by family, dropped down the memory hole of life, forgotten by former workmates, colleagues, neighbours and the system.
Here are a few pragmatic suggestions,
1 buy a bike, cyclists are very friendly people.
2 pop into your local pub, or WMC
3 brew some beer and invite the neighbours round
4 Host a barbeque
5 ask your local council what's going on for older men
6 go to church
7 do a college course
8 join ISIS (only joking!)
But, please do something, anything, but just get out there, smile, talk to people, laugh...go on, give it a go.
2. I hate pubs
3. Im not brewing beer, puts the pounds on ya, and I have no neighbours who would come in ... theyre all foreigners with loads of their own mates, and quite a few of the houses around me are muslim
4 I dont eat meat and conditions of 3 apply
5. waste of time going to the council and the library ... I tried... U3A is about all they suggest, and I found that elitist
6, I am not religious
7. I have a serious ptsd problem with places of education. I've never lasted in a course yet.
8. I;m far too nice