Thinking of moving to a new town on my own
Watch this postHello, I’ve lived in the same area within an area of 3 mile all my life. Lockdowns have made me think there’s more out there to living and that the normal I once had I no longer want, I’d like an adventure, I’d like to move house only miles away. I’m scared of the unknown I guess, I won’t know anyone there. I want to start a new life, I’m on my own and feel I’ve lots of life to live yet ? Has anyone done this, any advice, tips would be appreciated.
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Life is like an adventure. In order to live it to your fullest, one must be willing to journey on it with challenges that won't always be favorable or comforting. Sometimes fear keeps deprive us of those great things that life has for us. Once you decide that you are going to make the journey of life, doubts and fear should be completely erase and brush aside. Or you would never get the best of life to explore and enjoy. Take a chance my friend. Sometimes a new start is just all that is needed for totally happiness and a brighter tomorrow. Trust me, I too have been down that road before. It's going to be worth the try. Good luck!
However, as with everything else in life, there are pluses and minuses to burning a bridge behind you. First, of course, you have to start again with getting to know the people, the area, facilities, etc. To me, that's heaven as I love the adventure! But I suspect many people would feel lonely and isolated very quickly - especially, I'd hazard to say, someone who's never totally "left home" before.
Realistically, we have to accept that people we leave behind are going to forget us (and, sadly, some will even be resentful that you had the courage to go and they didn't). That's hard to accept but, with a lot of people, if you're out of their daily eye-range, you eventually slip off their radar altogether.
Most pre-existing circles of people don't tend to joyfully hug new incomers to their bosom as though you're a long-lost sister. They will stand back and size you up, maybe for years, wondering whether the fact that you're "not like them" will cause problems. A small example: the first time my fiance took me to meet my mother-in-law-to-be, from a tiny village in Shropshire, she asked the vicar what she should give me to eat, as she had never had a Londoner in her house before. Weird but true.
Golden Rule -- don't choose a close-knit area where neighbours act like each other's extended families and know everyone else's business. It looks cosy on the outside but there are layers of social interaction to that kind of place which can be very painful for an incomer. They may treat you with enormous kindness and they may seem welcoming, but it is the kind of welcome that people give to strangers ("Nice to meet you, when are you leaving?"). If there are lots of other incomers (preferably from very diverse origins) this needn't be a big problem as there'll be plenty of folks in the same boat. But, from personal experience, I'd say that incomers can feel very much out on a limb in a small close-knit community. Big towns and even cities have much more to offer in terms of new interests and people who aren't afraid of change.
I agree with granpa100's comments, absolutely. If you really want a new life, there's nothing stopping you but your own attitudes. Work out what you really feel about it and if you decide to move, you go girl! Good luck and happy adventuring!