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Understandably there are many people who are feeling low and depressed, grief, the lockdown, finance, family situations and lack of social contact all have taken their toll. It is hard to stay strong in body and mind when we are feeling worried, but it is important to try before depression really takes hold.

We need to find the inner strength just to achieve a little goal each day, something at the end of the day you can look back and say I did do something today I can do something else tomorrow.

Let's share some of our success, I find personal chats on Silversurfers helpful not actually knowing who you are talking to stops barriers that are in place with other friends and family as you can always delete them.

Can't do that face to face. Letting everybody share a piece of good news would raise the spirits of many and maybe provide hope for the future that things will improve

Created By on 13/04/2021

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30th Apr 2021 08:23:17 (Last activity: 6th May 2021 16:50:47)
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Through illness and common sense i have reorganised/restructured my entire life over the last 4 months. I am eating "healthy food" and have lost 5 stones in weight. I wake up happy every day whatever i face in life. I worked in mental health until i was 72. I am 76 now and looking forward to the future. Love and best wishes to everyone.
Response from ecarg Original Poster made on 1st May 2021 06:16:46
Magician I have sent you a private chat
Response from magician made on 2nd May 2021 11:26:06 > @ecarg
Hello. Having worked with severely mentally ill people, including psychiatrists, doctors, and barristers, anyone, of course, can be affected. Things happen to everyone. My wife died aged 36 when our children were aged 1 and 5. I myself had a psychotic episode brought on by the side effects of prescription medication! I have nearly died 8 times. I still wake up happy everyday because i have learned to take a positive attitude to my life. I love life and try to think/get the best out of every moment of my life. I tell my 2 children/4 grandchildren that i love them every day. My best learned lesson in life is never to take anything that people say or do personally. That is what consumes people. I am happy in myself whatever happens. My parting words to everyone are always "HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE". To you as well, of course. Keep the faith. Regards, Ken.
Response from magician made on 6th May 2021 16:50:47 > @ecarg
HELLO. Sorry for delay in replying. Not seen private chat. Would you like to try again. Best wishes, Ken.
16th Apr 2021 09:39:20
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Yes, I agree too. I think the trick is to show some 'return on time' for every day spent in lockdown.

Whether that is 'well, I enjoyed watching an old film on daytime telly' (great, but not every day!), or 'well, I finally sorted out that cupboard I've been meanign to sort for ten years', the point is to 'achieve' something each day.

I would draw up a 'To Do' list, whether it is paying bills, or sorting cupboards, or washing floors, or reading a particular book etc.

Try not to 'veg' too much - impose a structure on the day, and every morning at breakfast run through what you want to get done by the end of the day, etc.

Mix up work (eg, routine housework) with longer term things (sorting old cupboards, starting a family history write up) and also with 'fun' things, whether baking cakes, or gardening, or whatever.

The weather has not helped at all, being such a cold spring after a long winter, but finally I think the good weather is arriving, so for anyone with a garden of any size, that's a blessing, plus just getting out and about more that lockdown is easing.

I've found the last couple of months hard as the end of lockdown was in sight, but never seemed to be getting any closer, and I was fed up with winter, and I was sinking into depression (the dreadful 'why bother getting up or doing anythign at all'), but I know from experience that 'forcing' yourself to 'do something' that you don't want to do but which is necessary or useful (that unsorted cupboard, washing the kitchen floor, whatever!) can break the chain between depression and inertia (that dreadful sitting in a chair staring at day time TV and hoping for the evening to arrive to legitimise one's idleness....deadly!)
16th Apr 2021 02:45:27
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