What am I doing wrong?
Watch this postI have achieved enormous success in my professional life, and achieved all that is possible for me to do. I have enjoyed a lifestyle of which most can only dream. I have no ambitions left to fulfill. So why does happiness elude me ? I quite enjoy living alone, and my own company. But there is a big difference between being alone and being lonely! I have a wide and varied circle of associates, and 1 really good friend, upon whom I would trust my life. I have 3 children, two boys and a girl, all of whom maintain an extremely regular contact with me. I realise that this statement only contains “I” not “we”, which is a source of sadness to me. So, what am I doing that is so wrong, in my personal life ?
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You tell us that' most can only dream' of the life you have led and that there is nothing left for you to do, I wonder how likely is that?
I can't understand how someone who has been a high flier in her professional life, who still retains a wide circle of friends/associates, and a loving family, but can't figure out what she is now doing wrong!
Someone once said, 'the secret for a happy life is not about getting what you want, but in wanting what you've got.'
I have been on my own now for almost 20 years, and apart from a couple of holiday flings I have been gloriously single, solitary, and self-contained, and I love it, I wouldn't share myself, or my life with someone ever again. I have a little dog who accompanies me out into the local hills every day, we walk for miles, stop for picnics, take photos, get wet, muddy and cold, but arrive home happy and contented.
Perhaps you just need to accept what you have and stop thinking that you have done something wrong, I'm sure you haven't. Relax, don't be hard on yourself and let things take their course.
Good luck.
Happiness, much like ‘passion’, is something that (ready for the cheese?) exists inside you. You bring it to the party, you don't go to the party to get it.
I lost my husband last year,and life can has become really lonely,like the other reader said,it is all about finding other interests,which is hard.Good luck.x