How can I make 'real' friends
Watch this postHello there. My question is, how can I make 'real' friends. I've done all the normally suggested things - I do voluntary work, go to the gym, I'm a member of several MeetUp groups, I walk my dogs etc etc and I have lots of people I talk to or say hello to- but I can't seem to get past superficial contact.
I miss having best friends that I could laugh with and go shopping or just a good gossip.
I'm only 53, yet I am basically on my own. I was widowed many years ago and lost my best friend this year. I feel so alone and isolated - nobody would notice if I just disappeared.
It scares me to think that I'm going to be on my own for the rest of my life.
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I understand what you are feeling, I get those feelings sometimes. You clearly haven't given up and you shouldn't because you never know what is around the corner.
I came across this site and it looks great, with losts of topics to discuss and hopefully people will start chatting with someone they get along with and I'm sure friendships sometimes develop. Feel free to contact me to chat, or indeed anyone else who has responded to the post, as we all have some feelings in common which is a start. x
It’s really depressing me.
I live in Londonand I'm looking for friends to go out with + on holiday. where do you live?
Regards
Ella M
I live in London and I'm looking for friends to go out with + on holiday but I've had no luck so far.
Where do you live?
Regards
Ella M
I am new on this site and have recently lost my husband leaving me on my own and very vonerable.
I have bought a Cockapoo to help me get out and about. Life seems very only.
I live in London and I'm looking for friends to go out with.
Get in touch if you are interested.
Regards
Ella M
I can understand where you are coming from, its very difficult to make new friends who are good friends. I have found it very hard now I am on my own to make friends not just passing acquaintances. Have you looked on the internet there are social clubs for single people they are usually people in the same position who want to make friends.
Where do you live?
Regards
Ella M