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Anybody out there finding themselves on their own

Hi, I'm a widow and very happily retired. After losing my husband almost ten years ago I'm now accustomed to living alone.


That doesn't mean I don't need someone I can share my thoughts, good conversation and lots of laughs with. I am now 75 but still lively minded in body and soul. I'm not fuddy duddy or miserable.


I would really appreciate someone who enjoys life to become a good friend. Is that someone you?


Created By on 03/03/2023

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Nardo24
7th Feb 2024 04:10:56 (Last activity: 19th Apr 2024 09:27:59)
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I know the feeling, looking for a good friend to chat with about common things.
Response from library2 made on 8th Mar 2024 18:23:18
you can chat with me
Response from Nardo24 made on 8th Mar 2024 21:48:04 > @library2
Great, when is a good time for us to chat?
Response from library2 made on 19th Apr 2024 09:27:59 > @Nardo24
Any time in the evenings
steveinlondon
6th Jan 2024 14:36:49 (Last activity: 5th Apr 2024 14:17:44)
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To be fair I prefer cats to people 😛
Response from happydays75 made on 14th Feb 2024 16:05:41
i am a widow who has 2 cats
Response from Sarah17 made on 5th Apr 2024 14:17:44
Me too! They keep me company.
RuthAnn13
30th Mar 2024 21:16:30
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Hello,
I am brand new to this site I’m 83 years old. Also a widow for over 14 years I’m looking for a new friend to share my thoughts. And conversations with are you that person
Mandy18h
7th Jan 2024 11:26:55
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hello i am a widow , it was a bad day yesterday for me as it was two years. No children, but i am owned by my small dog. I have osteoarthritis of hips & knees, & suffer from anxiety . I am 67 & live in surrey uk. Best wishes Mandy
BladdyHel
5th Jan 2024 20:26:09
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I’m very new to this, I do not enjoy being lonely, I have so much to give, need a good old fashioned chat
thecatsmum
28th Dec 2023 17:59:26
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Hi Flower41,
Im new on here so a bit late responding but hopeful you will want to chat still with any newbies? Im 80, still 30-ish inside, outside is a bit different although Im faring quite well. Active despite a little arthritis and of a happy disposition, although I do still like an occasional moan. Live alone and enjoy it, have a beautiful daughter living in Kent and a beautiful son living also in Kent. Love animals and support many charities, shopping, conversation frivolous and serious. Also enjoy my weekend bottle of red wine. I live in south east London. Is that enough for anyone?
Mandy18h
23rd Dec 2023 14:04:12
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Hi I am on my own. Feeling tearful but having to keep my self in check as i have a little dog and she doesnt like her mum upset !! I have been a widow for just under two years. But i am making new Lady Friends hopefully. I am 67 & live in surrey Best wishes Mandy 18h
Lucelastic
22nd Dec 2023 18:04:57
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Hiya, I too am on my own, not nice this time of year when everyone seems to be celebrating ! I wish people Happy New Year rather than do the Merry Xmas stuff

77 next birthday, very positive attitude, have had a 'lively' life, you name it - been there, am hoping to do more next year.

I value friendship, my bestie lives 20 miles away so have not yet visited her in Wales
Love the Internet, it has opened up a whole new way on conversing with people

If you want to drop me a line
Jan
[email protected]
Mandy18h
21st Dec 2023 22:48:21
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Good Evening,I am hoping to make more lady friends in Surrey, Hampshire or Sussex I am 67 & a widow owned by a small dog.Happy Christmas & thank for reading this
Rico67
19th Dec 2023 05:59:00
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Happy to chat, nice to chat with people of the same era! Lol
Alan11
17th Dec 2023 23:26:08
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Sounds good. Where are you?
Flower41 Original Poster
17th Dec 2023 08:14:55
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Hi Doxiemom, Sounds like you keep busy with school runs etc. My grandchildren are mostly able to either drive themselves to 6th form now. Only one needing taking and picking up. I don't live close anymore. Had the two youngest over last Saturday, it was a great treat. Are you all set for Christmas? I swear it comes around faster each year. Hope you have a great time .
Flower41 Original Poster
17th Dec 2023 08:07:09
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Hi Dave, how are you? Would you like to share a bit about yourself.?
Davec1995
17th Dec 2023 00:54:08
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Doxiemom
11th Dec 2023 03:57:05
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We have pretty much the same background except i am 78. Also lost my husband to cancer in 2014,

I am active with a variety of hobbies, dogs (3) helping out with g’children by driving to activities, pick up at school etc.
Happy to chat
Oom
4th Mar 2023 19:05:09 (Last activity: 22nd Sep 2023 17:59:56)
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Yes, I've been on my own for five years now and although it has its "down" moments overall I prefer it.
How about you?
Response from Flower41 Original Poster made on 18th Mar 2023 10:01:57
Hi Oom, I suppose for some, finding themselves on their own doesn't bother them. For me I think initially I was thrown into practical mode and finding my direction over time became a natural process. I still miss my partner. I lead a fairly full life. I love being retired and being able to do what I want when I want with no work commitments. I love seeing my kids and my grand kids and those times are so very special to me. Life alone however goes on. I'm happy when I wake up I am able to get up and go. Many people can't. I love company and going out. Having someone say good morning, how are you!! I'm not an island. I don't wish to be an island. I'm glad you are content Oom and wish you happy. Flower 41
Response from bobbysmithley made on 19th Mar 2023 05:30:42
Hi Oom,

Human beings are social creatures- it's in our dna and everyone's physical health depends on connecting mentally with people. While some people may feel they prefer being on their own, they usually have friends or family with whom they maintain regular contact and so don't have the experience of true isolation. In reality, people who think they prefer to be alone still have the social support networks in place that provide emotional and mental well-being.

Complete isolation can be extremely overwhelming and can quickly lead to various negative consequences for mental & physical health. If you find yourself in a situation where you are truly alone for extended periods, it's essential to seek out social connections to maintain a healthy life. Sadly, in 2023 onwards, social media is destroying opportunity & it's very dangerous as even forums like this one are now few & far between.
Response from bobbysmithley made on 19th Mar 2023 05:35:48 > @Flower41
so glad to hear you have kids & grand kids & people saying good morning to you. That is often all it takes to maintain mental health. From the perspective of someone who has actually experienced isolation to the degree I didn't have any of that- I'd go to the shop desperate for a 2 minute conversation at the checkout only to be ignored by staff, isolation really is different & I hope you never go through it. Your body physically hurts & the only thing you can think about is finding someone -- anyone -- to talk to. Even if it was the worst dictator in the world guilty of war crimes, my body was that desperate for a conversation. I never imagined being like that before. It's hard to imagine when you have never been isolated- you think it'll be ok but it really isn't. It's clear to me that socialisation is written in our DNA. It's very strange what it does to you.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 19th Mar 2023 09:28:45 > @bobbysmithley
Hi bobbysmithley,

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Response from bobbysmithley made on 19th Mar 2023 16:12:57 > @Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
thanks, I clicked that link but couldn't see any "trending right now" buttons or titles, and couldn't see any recent posts. Could you help clarify for myself & other newcomers?
Response from Nomadrose made on 1st Apr 2023 17:38:02 > @bobbysmithley
My heart goes out to you.

I too feel desperate at times.
My situation is complicated. And too deep to go into right now.
But I just wanted to say I understand

Please reply if you want.

X
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 1st Apr 2023 18:49:13 > @Nomadrose
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Response from CaroB4 made on 14th Apr 2023 19:16:34 > @bobbysmithley
Really interesting to read what you say and so agree. Since being widowed I started volunteering for the NT - guiding and also running the bookshop. I chat to people coming in and one day a woman was paying me for her choice and she said how nice it was to be able to come in and talk to someone as well..a rare occurrence these days! Your words reminded me of her...and I understand as I am alone most of the time myself - family all up north a 4 hour min drive away. So I recommend volunteering to anyone feeling the same...I meet lots of lovely people and the young staff are so kind too...Always something different going on and quite a lot of fun and laughter. Makes all the difference! We could do with a specified Chat Room where we can all come and find each other when we need a chat! I didn't know there was one on here as such...and I seem to have difficulty finding my way back to where I was every time I come on...despite noting the route to follow..it seems to change.
Hope to meet you all again at some point folks! Groping my way around like a lost soul! 🙂
Response from CaroB4 made on 22nd Sep 2023 17:59:56 > @bobbysmithley
So agree with you! Unless there is a group of like minded people living in the same area and able to meet up for coffee initially - to get to know each other...it can be very difficult. Friendship sites need promoting more - as so many on the Dating Sites do not want to spend time emailing to get to know each other first, It seems more sensible to me as often find incompatibilities through writing! And if they can't be bothered to write - well perhaps they are not looking for the same thing anyway!
Fred23
27th Jul 2023 11:43:49
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Hi yes I think we all need someone to chat with
babysitter
8th Jul 2023 15:59:03
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I to am a widow I am 81 and alone. Not much on writing I hope you will answer me.
babysitter1980babysirrer@ yahoo.com
geeljay
2nd Jun 2023 09:39:10 (Last activity: 12th Jun 2023 18:40:31)
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It could be, I am new on here, dont know my way around. My wife passed in 2015, and I,m a bit fed up of no one to chat with, or even meet and share a coffee and a gas. I,m Gordon and I live in Paignton, sunny old Devon.
Response from Burnished bronze made on 2nd Jun 2023 17:49:07
It's hard isn't it we all have the need to chat to people in person I'm in Birmingham and it's ☀️ and nature is flourishing
Response from geeljay made on 2nd Jun 2023 18:54:08 > @Burnished bronze
I came from Birmingham to Paignton. We ran a holiday hotel for about 18 seasons, sold it to retire and spend time having a mooch round the country, I now live alone in my bungalow, 4 offspring, one is in Adelaide, all made good lives and happy. Regards Gordon
Response from Katy40 made on 2nd Jun 2023 18:54:55 > @Burnished bronze
My dad was from Birmingham and I still have relatives there. In face knowing my cousin you’d probably know him lol as he knows everyone.
Response from geeljay made on 2nd Jun 2023 19:07:54 > @Katy40
Hi Katy, So where are you now based? I'm Paignton, Devon, sunny every day at present. I live 1/4 mile from Paignton and Goodrington beaches.Regards to you.
Response from Vickiann made on 12th Jun 2023 12:26:04 > @Burnished bronze
Sunny in the England?
Response from Vickiann made on 12th Jun 2023 12:27:34 > @geeljay
Go to Adelaide. It's warm
Response from geeljay made on 12th Jun 2023 14:25:56
I,m looking for my posted cmments
Response from geeljay made on 12th Jun 2023 18:40:31 > @Vickiann
My son lives there. Have been a couple of times. Its warmer here than there at the present time.
CaroB4
14th Apr 2023 19:31:40 (Last activity: 12th Jun 2023 14:28:54)
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Just to say MissJackiel...my friend down in Devon also goes on Solos holidays and seems to recommend them..she meets different people and some are more compatible than others but at least she is not travelling alone and always someone to pal up with on excursions etc. So give it a go and let us know how you get on! https://www.solosholidays.co.uk/our-holidays/
Response from missjackiel made on 17th Apr 2023 06:03:44
Hi Carol, thank you I will have a look into it. Ive also joined a group on FB called Single Ladies Travelling Solo which has opened up to a lot of ladies from the uK wanting to travel. So lots of opportunities there too. Ill certainly update you all ,let you know if I manage to travel anywhere.. I think after travelling to Spain a couple of years ago ..alone... it wasnt a pleasant experience, Some people do not want to speak to a lady alone... weird.. maybe it was just the time and the place,,, so Im ready to give it another go.x
Response from CaroB4 made on 17th Apr 2023 12:37:09
Been watching Mike Graham on TalkTV and he has just returned from a hoiday in Normandy - driving with his family - and said there were no hold ups at all...not a single problem on the journey in either direction - so that offers hope! I know they used to check all Passports when we travelled via coaches years ago - pre Brexit - and someone got on the coach and it was all done withih 5 mins...so hopefully they have got their act together now.

I will mention Single Ladies to my friend in Devon as well - she may be interested. She seems to go on all sorts of interesting trips - sometimes on Sailing boats with several other traellers too!.

I agree with what you say about going places on your own...it is difficult to strike up conversations and we can be regarded with suspicion! lol! That is why I enjoy volunteering so much - it is my job to do that and it is great fun sharing the knowledge I have now absorbed! Lots of laughter too!
Do update us in due course - I enjoy hearing about people's travels...mine are somewhat limited now because I have two dogs and they have never been in kennels - always came everywhere with us - cat too at one time - even caravanning in France....so have to find the best ever Kennels for me to leave them now! Go for it gal! 🙂
Response from CaroB4 made on 18th Apr 2023 15:35:46
I just went on to the site - and so took a look at New Members - and there are many. However I was surprised to find - here on Silversurfers - youngsters under the age of 50 ..ie from their 20's upwards! Lots of them! What a sorry state of affairs! I have ignored contacts in their 50;s in the past - for heaven sake why would they want me to be a friend as so much older....rational thought involved! Take care ladies! There are nice guys out there - they just take a bit of finding! 🙂
Response from Dogsb0dy made on 27th Apr 2023 17:59:57 > @missjackiel
Hi, I'm in the same boat as yourself and also a younger minded 74 year old, divorced and unattached. Which part of the country do you live in? Hope to hear from you, Janet.
Response from CaroB4 made on 27th Apr 2023 20:20:16 > @Dogsb0dy
East Anglia Janet...near the coast - back of beyond! And you ?
Response from Dogsb0dy made on 30th Apr 2023 12:20:42
Morning, hope you are well and ready to face another day. Just negotiating this site can be a challenge (unusual for me because I've been using computers since 1997 both at work and at home) so just found your message! I live in Trafford, Greater Manchester. Lots of new development planned a couple of miles away from me with an outdoor surfing lagoon, 300+ waterside apartments, a new school etc. You may have heard of the Trafford Centre so these things going on in that area. I can see us getting gridlocked with traffic as its right near the M60 and its bad enough now. Think where I live won't see much change as there are very few available building sites - its a green and leafy area with all roads tree lined. Good rail connections to Manchester and Liverpool. Sounds lovely to me where you live!
Response from CaroB4 made on 30th Apr 2023 15:02:51 > @Dogsb0dy
It's ok if there is public transport (non here) or you are still driving...everything changes otherwise! As the plan is to remove vehicles from the roads and make them too expensive to run for the majority - then it will really hit home for those unaware as yet. Towns will become the more residential areas - shopping on line for everything...time will tell how it all works out. 100 passes a year to leave the zone you are allocated to iive in - per family - and cameras that count every journey as you leave and return...a whole different world for those of us used to freedom to come and go here and abroad - as we please. Many of us won't be around by then I suppose - we had the best of times - growing up ijn the 60's etc ...so I am thankful for that.
Response from Burnished bronze made on 1st May 2023 10:10:18
Hi just introducing myself as a new member
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 1st May 2023 19:06:08 > @Burnished bronze
Hi Burnished bronze,

Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.

If you already know your way around, then we will leave you to it.

If you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage to see what's trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members, perhaps ask a question or even start your own post.

Response from CaroB4 made on 19th May 2023 20:39:28 > @Burnished bronze
Tell us more about yourself Burnished Bronze....you are likely to get more responses then. Whereabouts you live what your interests are etc...always a good start.
Response from geeljay made on 12th Jun 2023 14:28:54 > @Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
How di I reply to a response made to me by Vickyann, which you adised me by emaol?
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