Hello - any advice for a newbie?
Watch this postI am a 55 year old, only child, single, childless woman.
I lived in London for 20 years and moved back to my northern home town after suffering from nervous exhaustion after both career and personal life issues. I was ecstatic to leave capital.
I have lived with my widowed mother for 10 years now - in our family home. At first it was great....mum is 'young' and we both got on like best friends, went travelling etc. She is getting older now, which brings its own issues & has come to depend on me heavily, both practically & emotionally.
I guess I have never really enjoyed being back in my home town (after London it's rather dull), but put up with it.
As time has gone on I have become ever more depressed and want to move away (as she does too - to be with me), but I don't know where to?
We have no other family or close friends. I feel trapped, alone, depressed, afraid & unable to make any decisions.
Mum says she just want me to be happy, that's all that matters to her.
Anyone any ideas? Is anyone based in North East England who still finds it difficult adjusting to life outside the capital?
Thanks for reading & hope to be checking in regularly 🙂
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I think it is great you are there for your mother practically and emotionally. You will look back at these times and be glad that you were. I suppose if the roles were reversed you would also appreciate someone being there for you in later life. It is good to be there for your parents, if you can be.
I think your mother would go along with anything you want, and as you say she just wants you to be happy. She probably appreciates you are making sacrifices and is grateful for what you do, I bet.
There must be a way that you have both have your needs met and both be happy in your situation. At least you have each other! If you found something you wanted to do (When we are out of this Covid crisis of course) you could always ask someone to sit with your mother. Even if that means getting help from the State or a charity. If you are a carer for your mum, there are carers support groups out there that can support you both.
Think about what hobbies you may have, and if there is anything you can start online at the moment.
Take care.