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Just joined so I'm introducing myself.

I will be 67 next month and retired from the many different jobs in my working life. I guess that I didn’t ever find my calling. I went to university at age 59 but when it was over it was too late to launch a new career. I wanted to lecture but students don’t want to listen to old fogies, so sadly I put aside that idea and settled into life as an eccentric dog owner.

I live in a beautiful Lancashire valley surrounded by hills that demand they be walked/climbed, how could I refuse?

I would like to do a bit of cycle touring but a recent diagnosis of spondylosis and some hip pain means that I may not be doing a world tour anytime soon!

I’m keen to make some friends as I have been on my own for a very long time now, my daughters don’t bother much with me and I don’t have a partner.I didn’t expect to be so isolated at this time in my life, isn’t it strange the way family and friends seem to forget us when we get past 60?

I will pop in regularly and hope to strike up some friendships.


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SheilaT799
18th Dec 2021 02:32:00 (Last activity: 18th Dec 2021 08:59:35)
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I understand what you are saying I have to call my daughter to see if she is ok.It does make you feel only.
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Friendship
12th Dec 2021 19:19:51
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Hello there from another mature female. Are you still on chat?
Northern
6th Dec 2021 13:43:35 (Last activity: 8th Dec 2021 00:01:48)
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Hi celtwitch - I’m 46 and live in the North East. I’m interested in making friendships, feel free to get in touch.
Response from Trillium made on 8th Dec 2021 00:01:48
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You are replying to a post that was posted over the 6 years ago so I’m guessing “celtwich” is long gone.
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Saintmary
4th Dec 2021 01:45:09 (Last activity: 4th Dec 2021 08:24:58)
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Are we all geared up for another lockdown lol
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Saintmary
4th Dec 2021 01:44:15
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Brunski
27th Nov 2021 01:52:13 (Last activity: 27th Nov 2021 08:54:53)
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I agree with the "Old Fogie" part- I am 70 and as a kid we listened to older people more - I worked with Native Americans and among the older natives were "Story Tellers" - they would pass along events and history of their tribe and world sround them - as a non native I listened to older folks that actually story tellers too - these days kids don't have time to listen being too busy with new technology - but I enjoy listening to people close to my age and enjoy trading stories - if you want to chat? I am always around mostly evenings - enjoy the time we all have
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25th Oct 2021 14:22:34 (Last activity: 30th Oct 2021 12:53:09)
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Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 25th Oct 2021 15:09:10
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Response from Safariman made on 25th Oct 2021 17:05:53
Hi Ursula14, hope that you find lots of friends to chat with on this site. I
have only been a member for a few weeks but have chatted with a number of people who had replied to my posts. I expect Dublin seems
a world away from your homeland, I have been to South Africa many
times and love it there, especially Cape Town a place I keep going back
to, I think that I know it more than the town I live in now. I expect that
the house seems empty now your last child has gone off to college so
you will need to fill the void with chatting to people from all walks of
life.So good look luck, take care and stay safe, best wishes, Terry.
Response from Safariman made on 28th Oct 2021 19:19:27
Hi Ursula, thank you for your reply, this site is not so easy, so not to
worry about delay in getting back to me, I am pleased to see that
you seem to have a few replys to your original post. Sorry that you
havnt been back to Cape Town for so long, I used to go twice a year
but with the restrictions have not been back for a couple of years. I
first got to Cape Town after spending 18 weeks on a truck traveling
from Cairo to Cape Town visiting 13 countries along the way, I was
so in love with the city that I decided to go back, and the rest is
history. I usually stay in a backpackers hostel in New Church Street
in Tamberskloof called the Zebra Crossing, it's a lovely place and
very friendly toward the overland crowd. I did once take the bus
'Itercape' to Port Elizabeth along the garden route, very lovely along
there. Hope to go back to Cape Town in March or April next year, I
find that this is the best time to visit, as prices seem to go down.
Well had better finish off for now, hope you can keep in touch, take
care and stay safe, best wishes, Terry.
Response from Safariman made on 29th Oct 2021 09:42:30
Goeiemore Ursula, hoe gann dit? Dankie for your reply, sorry about
my Afrikaans, but I don't know much. I am a lot older than you(73) so
have been around longer, and I haven't had to bring up a family. I
like you, can talk for hours about Africa, not just S Africa but further
North, places like Malawi,Namibia and many more that I have had
the pleasure of visiting. I have not been to Kwa Zulu Natal, the
nearest I got was when I was in the Army at the age of 17 I was
posted to Swaziland ( now called Eswatini) and from there we had
a trip to the Kruger National Park.I would love to visit that part of
S Africa, but time is not on my side ha ha. I have not been to Dublin
or the south of Ireland, but was in the North during the troubles. I
hope that you are getting used to the different way of life there as
opposed to Cape Town. I also hope that the messages that you get
on this site take up a bit of your time, and help you through the
lonely hours now that you are on your own. Well had better finish
off for now as I have a bit of shopping to do in town (Southampton)
so will write again as long as you don't mind chatting to an older
person. Take care and stay safe, best wishes, Terry. PS just started
to rain here as well.
Response from Safariman made on 29th Oct 2021 14:00:20
Hello again Ursula, thank you for welcome reply, I have done my shopping and the rain has stopped so happy days. I have had my
lunch and a cup of tea so ready to go again. No I did not grow up
in S Africa, I was in the British Army and Swaziland was a protectorate at the time, the names of some of the country's have
changed since I visited them as a young man, Basutoland is now
call Lesotho and Bechuanaland is now called Botswana. I have been
to Botswana again to the ocavango delta in a mokoro and also took
a flight over it as well. I also love to visit Lake Malawi end enjoy watching the fishermen bringing in their catch and laying them out
to dry, the people are very poor but they are very happy with life
and very friendly.. On of my other great loves are the Victoria Falls
and I have been lucky to have seen them from the Zambian and
Zimbabwean sides, I have also sat in the Devils pool on top of the
falls, luckily it was when the flow of water going over was quite low.
When you finish full time work,would you consider going back to
live in Cape Town again? or are you planning to stay in Ireland for
Good? You see what I mean about rambling on, once I get started
off I go. Well had better finish off for now or you will get fed up with
me.So cheerio for now,take care, and thank you for your comment
about the age difference. Terry.
Response from Safariman made on 29th Oct 2021 18:30:32
Hi Ursula, me again, I said that once I was on this iPad it's hard to get
me off. I am not originally from Southampton but from Reading in
Berkshire, I am the oldest of 8 and have 4 sisters and 3 brothers all
of them still live around the area, so not too far away. I never had
children, always too busy traveling around the world in some form
or other. Your children seem to be doing well in their studies so you
must be very proud of them, and you should be proud of yourself
for bringing them up on your own, a lot of people would struggle
doing that. I am also sorry to see S Africa in such a sorry state, I have
been to Cape Town on occasions when there have been blackouts
and we had to wait for the power to come back on so we could cook
our meals. I hope that you manage to achieve your goal of buying
a home of your own,you will have earned it.I hope that these messages are helping to fill the void left since your son went back
to college, it is always nice to have a chat to someone,even if you
have never met them, you get a lot out of talking to people from all
walks of life and different cultures. I live in a one bedroom flat in a
retirement building where there are 32 flats, yet days sometimes
go by without seeing anyone,we have a lovely lounge but nobody
seems to use it I sit here using my iPad as I can't gat a signal from
my flat.well once again I had better finish off for now, have had dinner
so will go and make a cup of tea and watch a bit of tv. So will wish
you a pleasant evening, and look forward to your next instalment
Take care, Best wishes, Terry.
Response from Safariman made on 30th Oct 2021 12:53:09
Good afternoon Ursula, I hope you had a good shopping trip and not
spent all your pennies, don't forget the house ha ha. We have a lot
more rain overnight and into the early morning, but sun is now out
so feeling better. No I have been to Madagascar another on my list
of places to see, but time is running out and with these restrictions
in place I wonder if international travel will get back to normal any
time soon. Yes the Transkei sound a lovely place to spend time, but
as you know there are so many lovely places,it would be hard to get
to visit them all. We seem to be dominating this comment site as I
see that all the latest comments are from me to you or vice versa.I
was wondering if you had an e-mail address that I could write to as
it would be a lot easier and I have a couple of photos that I would
like to share with you? My e-mail address is [email protected] that you don't mind me asking. I have
nothing planned for the weekend,I have a bus pass so can get out
and visit Portsmouth or go off to Salisbury if I knew that the weather
would hold up. What part of Cape Town did you live in whilst you
we're there? I have stayed in backpackers hostels in Gardens, Green
Point and Sea Point, but not in the outskirts of the city. Well had better finish off for now, stomach is telling me to put food in, so have
a lovely day and enjoy a bit of time with your daughter. Take care,
Terry.
Joy1221
14th Oct 2021 22:50:35 (Last activity: 20th Oct 2021 06:25:04)
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Hello just arrived on this site. Still working my way round.
I'm in Staffordshire, 59. Still working. Interested in various things. Looking forward to making new friends
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Response from Joy1221 made on 15th Oct 2021 13:08:21 > @Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
Thankyou Sally. I'm looking forward to getting to know the layout. Still investigating when I can.
Response from Joy1221 made on 20th Oct 2021 06:25:04
Hi Karen, Thankyou for your reply. I keep getting lost on here but getting there!!

I’m an administrator for a haulage company, yes we have HGV drivers! . I like the countryside and visiting the coast, nothing more relaxing than listening to the sea, don’t you think. Love animals and nature. Just getting really interested in uk birds and wildlife surprising how many different birds there are out of your back garden.
I enjoy music of all sorts really. Visiting places of interests. Gardens etc.
My partner died earlier this year so up and down without him but trying to be more confident about meeting new people.
What do you do and like? Where are you? I live in Staffordshire but from Birmingham originallly.
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galena117
19th Oct 2021 15:52:41 (Last activity: 19th Oct 2021 20:12:41)
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hi every one, just joined hoping to make new friends and perhaps meet up with old ones.
born 1938 so do your math, ( though i feel more 1948).
i am a widow so live alone, three children all living their own lives of course.
six grandchildren, four who visit so cant complain. looking for some adult conversation and i need a good laugh. I promise i am normal and sane.
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Margee59
18th Oct 2021 06:05:00 (Last activity: 18th Oct 2021 08:12:58)
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hello im just bored and looking for good conversations.
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Mssr Chris
1st Oct 2021 17:15:27 (Last activity: 1st Oct 2021 18:50:14)
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Just joined, useless with tech so I apologize in advance, let's take it from there!
Live alone, health restricts travel but there's many worse off than me, although on a cold damp winter's day I might put up an argument against that.
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PatriciaB96
22nd Sep 2021 22:14:32 (Last activity: 1st Oct 2021 18:11:38)
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Good evening to all new members to the site, I hope you will make lots of new friends here .
Response from Safariman made on 1st Oct 2021 17:59:15
Thank you PatriciaB96.also hope that I get some responses as it's nice to have a chat and hear people's stories. I live in Southampton and have
only been here 6 months, and with all the restrictions have not met many people yet. I love to travel and that has also been put on hold
until the New Year. Take care and stay safe. Terry.
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 1st Oct 2021 18:11:38
Good evening, its not to bad where I am at the moment.
JohnJeffrey
9th Aug 2021 00:32:10 (Last activity: 1st Oct 2021 17:51:34)
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Hello, I am 74, recently widowed and I am seeking to find new friendships. I am retired, love gardening, technical things, good conversation and very good friends. I hope to meet someone with compatible interests to talk with and who knows.

Since losing my wife on Mothers day this year, my in-laws (all family here are in-laws), seem to have forgotten who I am. So I am trying to establish my own life here (love where I live and really don't want to move).

Talk with me, it might just be fun.
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Response from Dani made on 9th Aug 2021 14:35:20
Hello,
I’m sorry to hear of the loss of your wife; it leaves a big hole.
Don’t be too despondent about the in laws. When I lost my husband there were many promises of endless help and support….and not a word since the funeral, nearly five years ago.
It’s just how it is.
On the plus side, you are free to make new friends, many of whom will be starting over like yourself. It’s a slow easing into new relationships and it takes time, but it will happen. I’m always happy to chat to anyone, male or female. It’s a cold lonely world if we don’t both reach out ourselves and also respond when others do.
Kindest wishes, Dani.
Response from Safariman made on 1st Oct 2021 17:51:34 > @Dani
Hi, Dani, just joined silver surfers today, and happened upon your
reply to JohnJefrey who sadly lost his wife recently and I was touched by your kind and reassuring words to him I hope that he
takes some comfort from your message. Take care, best wishes.
Terry.
larrydodson
15th Sep 2021 01:22:08 (Last activity: 15th Sep 2021 08:05:54)
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hello all, just very lonesome here especially at dark. just seems the world closes in on me at that time of the day.
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14th Sep 2021 17:30:29 (Last activity: 14th Sep 2021 17:54:41)
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Ssue62
31st Aug 2021 17:56:06 (Last activity: 1st Sep 2021 15:04:51)
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Just joined too. Like to chat and to make new friends. I’m in Scotland.
Response from Ssue62 made on 1st Sep 2021 09:00:27
Thanks. Morning here..1st September! Where has our summer gone! Enjoy your day.
Response from Ssue62 made on 1st Sep 2021 12:21:27
Thank you.. not a bad day here in Scotland. Happy new month to you too!
Response from Ssue62 made on 1st Sep 2021 15:04:51
I’ve just been out for a walk in the sun today. A few miles round the lanes. The harvest is in and berries turning red. Spring a lovely time though, when it finally gets here. We are not in lockdown but our rates are rising fast so who knows. Positive changes definitely needed.
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24th Aug 2021 08:25:43 (Last activity: 25th Aug 2021 14:12:19)
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Response from John7453 made on 25th Aug 2021 14:12:19
Hi and welcome to the forum, I hope that you find lots of people to chat with on here, I am from the South East of England, John
Dossy
30th Jul 2021 11:53:33 (Last activity: 22nd Aug 2021 11:01:58)
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Hi , if just joined you all. And I'm hoping to find people to chat with. I. lost my husband in January,so it's all very raw at the moment. Need to find something to start a new.Or to help me move on.
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Response from PatriciaB96 made on 30th Jul 2021 20:59:10
Good evening dossy , sorry to hear of your sorrow , welcome to the site , I hope you will make lots of new friends here
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Thank you Sally , I will bear that in mind.
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Hi Patricia bg6, it's so nice of you ,to reply to. My comment, thank you.
Response from Dhillionvip made on 22nd Aug 2021 01:39:51
I’m sorry about the loss. I hope you get people to talk to
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29th Jul 2021 21:20:43 (Last activity: 30th Jul 2021 10:58:34)
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Good evening to all new members to the site, I hope you will make lots of new friends here
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 30th Jul 2021 10:58:34
That's ok , messages reply can be a bit slow , it may come up as spam , in your emails, enjoy your day .

Patricia
christadel
30th Jul 2021 02:50:50 (Last activity: 30th Jul 2021 07:09:44)
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Hello Everyone….

I live in CT and am a newly retired HS teacher.
I wanted to very briefly introduce myself.
Obviously I’m new to this site. 🙂

Chris
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