Lonely and vulnerable and looking to chat
Watch this postI’m alone, I have no family support or friends.
I’m sad to think that I have two neighbours both know that I’m alone and disabled yet not one of them has even put a note through my door to ask if I’m ok , what happened to community support!!
Has Scotland just decided to look after number one??
I would appreciate it if I just had someone to talk to 😢
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My apologies I totally forgot where you live.
I am fortunate to be living in Australia in a state where we are virus free almost.
I believe it’s only England that’s in lockdown at the moment.
Do you see your neighbours at all over the fence. Are you able to get outside at all although again it’s winter isn’t it which is hibernation time over there.
Have you tried looking at Greypath which is similar to here. A friend of mine is on there and she finds it interesting.
I wish you well
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I care for my husband who has dementia and PTSD. It too is a lonely life. Conversation is limited as he can no longer comprehend anything over a few words. Handyman jobs are beyond him nowadays. If I start something he wants to help and it just becomes stressful and all too complicated. His PTSD affects our social life add that to dementia and he’d rather just sit at home in front of the tv. Respite care is out as he’s like a child sulks if I go out without him which is rare. He doesn’t understand that I am slowly running out of energy. Like many carers I have fallen out of love and dislike this person in his body.
However I have my good days as well as bad and I am determined not to let this beat. Sad as it sounds I look forward to being alone.
Are there any day clubs in your area catering for the disabled, where a bus will pick you up and take you home.
Your local welfare should have details of such places. It’s important you socialise face to face sometimes.
Chat rooms are wonderful but cannot replace a good old chuckle with a another person over a coffee.
Perhaps your local council is a good place to ask about day clubs.
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I’m sorry to hear your neighbors won’t chat with you. I’m here and ready to chat. I’m 69 yrs. old today and I too have neighbors that keep to themselves most times. With the Coronavirus I can’t blame them. They are older than me.
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Mine are the same only speak if you happen to be putting the bin in or out at the same time |
Sorry to hear about your position, but if you can use the internet ok, keep in touch with many people.
I am a fit 79 year old male and will chat anytime.
Only 2 things I don't talk about are religion and politics.
Look forward to hearing from you
That is shocking that they are not being good Christians or neighbours shame on them but so glad you have got some contact with the world and able to chat others on here I'm sending you a angel to look over you and keep your spirits up is there a way you can perhaps invite them over for a coffee perhaps they just need a nudge and things would improve for you put a note through there doors. Just a suggestion
I don't know when we decided to be so selfish towards others but it does seem to be the norm.
I live in Wales but will chat to you whenever I'm on, and hope it will help you feel less lonely
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Maybe your neighbours don't realise that you don't have anyone who can help you. I'm guessing that they are just very scared about this situation and trying to figure out the many problems this will have thrown up for them. There are many volunteers who are offering to help people in your situation. Perhaps you would be able to get in touch with a local group who would be able to assist you and make sure that you are getting regular supplies of food and medicines. Also, could you check to see if anyone has set up a WhatsApp group in your area to help people get what they need. I too live alone and nobody has put a not through my door asking if I need help. I'm assuming that they either just haven't thought that I might need help or they know that I have family and, so far, am in reasonable health.