Lonely and vulnerable and looking to chat
Watch this postI’m alone, I have no family support or friends.
I’m sad to think that I have two neighbours both know that I’m alone and disabled yet not one of them has even put a note through my door to ask if I’m ok , what happened to community support!!
Has Scotland just decided to look after number one??
I would appreciate it if I just had someone to talk to 😢
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Alain
That is a very nice reply to Kiara with some good tips. Others have been saying that we are not sure she checks in on the site now. The message remains at the beginning of the thread. All newer messages are then a little more difficult to find. In some cases you get an email to notify you of a reply. I think that is the idea.
It is a good idea to check on neighbours especially those on their own or elderly. I was worried about my elderly neighbour and because he didn't answer his phone I had to go and knock his door to check he was OK! He was, and I was glad I did.
Facebook can take up a bit of time. I am on there too. Are you?
Are you enjoying going out to work? I hope you enjoy your job.
I check in every few days too. You may or may not see this message. I did click on reply to Jane, so hopefully!
In answer to your question I believe Kiara has not been on the site since March/April. I replied to Jam 1964 above about how I see the site to work. I am new too and joined just this month, The oldest date of the post appears at the beginning and stays there. It may be a good idea to set up new posts. There is a box - add a post of your own. Up to you of course.
It takes a little while to get used to how it works.
I hope you are well and find you can get used to the site.
How are you getting on with the lockdown?
The way the site is set up is that the old posts appear at the beginning of a forum and stay there. All the newer posts are further away in the forum and sometimes a little more difficult to find.
One option is set up a new post on a similar subject. There is a new box - add a post of your own or you can carry on replying to people. It is a good idea to look if the date is quite recent. You can always give it a try either way.
There are many posts set up and sometimes not many replies and people seem to disappear. It may be because it is too difficult to find if you have any replies!! It maybe for many reasons or they start using the chat option instead.
I am happy to chat as lockdown has affected all of our lives and that is why I joined. I hope you find your way around soon. I check on here every few days at the moment.
Take care,
I'm so sorry you are so alone. I have no idea how you are feeling.
I do know that this is a wonderful site. You should also join Facebook and the various groups. .
Have you tried a hobby? Writing poetry, or short stories.
Put a note through your neighbour 's door and ask if they are ok..
I hope you find a true friend.
I visit this site when ever I can as I work full time and spend slot of time travelling to and from work hut I will answer any messages.
Take care
Jane
I'm retired, have time to talk, i'm interested in and filming garden wildlife i.e. hedgehogs, badgers, foxes, plus many domestic cats anything that moves in my garden during the night, but can talk about anything, I also like to joke,
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I hope you get this message as I have only just joined silversurfers and not sure if it works.
It maybe that your neighbours are not ignoring you but are frightend of spreading the damn virus. It worries me a lot.
I think a lot of people are feeling lonely and vulnerable now. I know I am.
I too live alone and have been a prisoner in my tiny bungalow since 9th March. I miss having someone to talk to but I have lived alone for the last 9 years.so I am used to it mostly
First things first, are you getting food delivered and any medication you need.
Do you have a garden you can get out to.
Today for the first time I went out and sat in the sun in my tiny little garden which is so overgrown. Its nice to see the weeds growing and the birds chirping.
Wish I could help more
Ive just come in as my hair is so long now Im going to use one of those electric hair shavers. Trouble is its a dog one with individual combs for dfferent hair lengths, Do you think I should go for a Spaniel look or Jack Russel.
Do you read or like music. Ive just started reading again after a break of a couple of years or so. As for music I listen to my YouTube playlist and in my mind travel off to different places and times.
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I have just read your message and you seem such a caring and compassionate person as I was reading your post...but I had to tell you what a good laugh I have had this morning as I wasn't expecting the humour!
Firstly, it would appear your hair had grown in the time it had taken to enjoy the growth & birdsong in the garden.....then come the cutters & then I was 'howling' by the time you mention dog cutters ( I hope you have a gig....or perhaps a dog-grooming business at least....to own such a contraption!)
Now if you have curly hair...you could sport the latest architectural poodle-cut!
Thank you Alain for my morning quota of fun. It is important to have some sense of humour...times are dire and testing right now!
Enjoy you day..and your new 'do'
I did cut my hair. I had to as it was so long I could have put it in a short pony tail or even more disturbingly bunches either side of my head.
I feel a lot better with it shorter despite feeling colder in the neck region.
I decided that I would poke my nose out of the front door yesterday. I’m lucky as my tiny bungalow is 1 of 9 in a little group.
There is a large communal garden so at 6.30 am I slipped on a pair of shorts and Tee shirt and went for a few laps walking round the garden. There was no one about and it was sunny and warm. It did feel good to be in "Outside World" again. and because its a private garden I wasn’t breaking curfew
I did meet one neighbour, and keeping a good distance apart, we discussed his plants in the garden as he said that "something" had been eating them.
Note to self. Make set of very large wooden Bear feet to make footprints into soil around his plants..
I’ve spent far too much time curled up on the sofa, eating things not good for me and watching Netflix,. so I need to get back in shape or at least some sort of shape.
I too have been at home alone throughout lockdown.....did wonder if I had the virus mid March as had sore throat, tickly cough and fatigue for two or three weeks. As a result stayed in and tried to rest more (garden on hold for a while!) but fear lack of exercise upset my legs - full of aches and pains...so now making myself walk round the village with the dogs...one at a time...as it is nice to get out for a while and never see many people anyway. Occasional trip to Click and Collect food is now a social event for me! Hang on in there all...it will hopefully get better soon......
Unfortunately our friend Alain is no longer on the site. We corresponded awhile and sadly he told me he had chosen to leave Silversurfers..
He said his 'goodbyes' on the 19th of June and you will see on his profile, there are no further posts after the above on the 23rd May,'20. He will be missed...for sure!
Just wanted to let you know...as it's a drag waiting for replies that mayn't be answered!
You however I see are new and I wish you well and "Welcome".
The_bees_knees
Yes Bees was absolutely right. I had left the forum but left rapidly after making a fool of myself. I had left so quickly that I had not even deleted things or cancelled my account.
The only reason I came here today was after receiving notifications to my post. Plus Bees had sent me a Chat message which I was too frightened (cowardly) to read. If you chat with Bees she is very nice and caring but I didn’t realise it at the time.
Ive been in lockdown since 9 March. I did try going out in the communal garden but some of the other inmates that have homes here frighten me a little with their very loose idea of personal space.
Coincidentally I too became ill at the beginning and really thought I had the virus. I think it was stress related unless all this is the afterlife and I’m really dead. Or even worse and I’m in Limbo which means I’m going to have to spend eternity dancing under a stick. (Terry Pratchett)
Yes Bees was absolutely right. I had left the forum but left rapidly after making a fool of myself. I had left so quickly that I had not even deleted things or cancelled my account.
The only reason I came here today was after receiving notifications to my post. Plus Bees had sent me a Chat message which I was too frightened (cowardly) to read. If you chat with Bees she is very nice and caring but I didn’t realise it at the time.
I’ve been in lockdown since 9 March. I did try going out in the communal garden but some of the other inmates that have homes here frighten me a little with their very loose idea of personal space.
Coincidentally I too became ill at the beginning and really thought I had the virus. I think it was stress related unless all this is the afterlife and I’m really dead. Or even worse and I’m in Limbo which means I’m going to have to spend eternity dancing under a stick. (Terry Pratchett)
Bye for now Alain
Last week I was on a phone conversation and wanted to make a note of a number the caller had for me on my mobile. Marched around lounge, kitchen, bathroom and bedroom searching for mobile keeping up a running commentary with the caller about not finding my mobile and how important it is to me as it runs my life.
Suddenly realised the mobile was next to my ear as I was using it to talk to the caller.
(Haha!)
Have I ever told you that I have had luncheon with a certain Terry Pratchett ( in my role as School Librarian at King Arthur's School in Wincanton)
No,.. well it happened! 🙁
Just to notify you...as you need prompting...(It took over a month to find the last)...There is a 'chat' for you again...followed by another, to correct the first!
Isn’t it weird that if you look back, even as far back to when you were very young it is possible to see how your character was starting to be shaped even then? I have in conversations referred to my mind as a wooden cabinet with lots of drawers with thoughts and memories tucked away. Some small drawers, others deeper and harder to pull out to see what’s inside because when you closed them you hoped never to open them again. That’s of course if you want to look inside again. Some of those drawers when you open them make that terrible “skritching” noise like running your nails like a black board causing your teeth to go on edge as you remember the bad uncomfortable things.
Wow. The Master. Some people think the Discworld books are childish nonsense, I love them. He created a whole world that is totally weird but wonderful. Pure escapism for me.
I have read your latest chat and will reply soon as.
I was trying to work my way through this thread to see if you'd added any further comments or updates since the end of March. Was wondering how you are and how things are going with you now?
Ch 732 on TV if you can't get him on radio (I can't) Just a thought!
I have dogs to talk to...and it does help! Take care!
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Big Hi to Kiara as well.....sure I'm not doing this right....how do I make sure my messages are getting through .....?
I know Stranraer, don't live million miles away. Unfortunately still busy at present, should have
much more time to explore and chat on this site next week when things have quietened down.
Nice to know there's someone more or less local to chat with - tell me more...
bye for now....
Just joined this afternoon, and like you, live in Scotland.
So sorry to hear your comments...its a pity but unfortunately some
people simply do not care as I know from personal experience within
my own family. I would love to chat with you....and anyone else feeling
lonely in these troubled times.
Will look forward to hearing from you.
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