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New here. Recently bereaved so looking for likeminded people to help and talk through things.


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jrwood25
4th Mar 2023 11:12:18 (Last activity: 5th Mar 2023 10:30:56)
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Thanks for voting!
Lost my darling wife jut before Xmas who died of a brain tumour and i feel totally lost. We had such a great life and travelled to so many places throughout the world. We were married at 17 and spent the rest of our lives together. I am now in my early 70s but still fairly fit but the thought of traveling solo is not a thing I relish. We used to spent 2 months of the year in Portugal which we loved but I think thats all gone now. Have looked at singles holidays but they all seem for the younger people. Have been away for a few days in a Hotel but it's very strange without my wife.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 4th Mar 2023 11:59:50
Hi jrwood25,

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Response from jrwood25 made on 4th Mar 2023 14:10:43 > @Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
Thanks will be looking forward to chatting to like minded people.
Response from Freeno21 Original Poster made on 4th Mar 2023 14:59:33 > @jrwood25
Sorry for your loss. Yes it is strange doing things alone. Guess we may eventually get some sense of normality back. Lost my husband unexpectedly in November. It's still early days in getting used to the changes in our lives.
Response from Leila Lesser made on 4th Mar 2023 16:45:45 > @jrwood25
I lost my husband in October 21. It was very sudden and a great shock.I was with my husband when I was 15 and he was 16? We were married for 61 years. I've got 2 sons,5 grandchildren and 8 great grandchildren. My son's don't live too far away from me. I live in Chingford which is a suburb of London. You were very brave to go away on your own. I don't think I could. Do you have children
Would be nice to chat with you.
All the best
Leila
Response from jrwood25 made on 4th Mar 2023 18:33:55 > @Leila Lesser
Hi Leila yes I have a son who lives about 10 miles away and two grandchildren 14 and 17 years.
We all used to have family holidays when they were a bit younger in Portugal but they are growing up now and the granddaughter is at college so has not got so much free time.
My late wife and I loved to travel and we took early retirement to visit some amazing places around the world which I miss. I still like to get away and feel being with people does help although dinning on your own not so good. Weather at the moment is not good so it's a bit restrictive but when it breaks I have my garden which will keep me busy and I love to walk. As I said I did get away for a 3 day break in Norfolk which was nice and walk by the sea was good
but very strange without my soulmate. I hope I can find a way to move on but know it will be difficult as we were together a lifetime .

John.
Response from jrwood25 made on 5th Mar 2023 09:37:53 > @Freeno21
hi
yes it is the strange emptiness after being with someone for a lifetime I miss sitting down to breakfast in the mornings and having someone there in the evenings when your just watching tv, going out to dinner and so much more. They tell me life must go on but it's going to be a big adjustment. But it's good to chat to people who understand what it is to lose a partner.

John
Response from Freeno21 Original Poster made on 5th Mar 2023 10:30:56 > @jrwood25
getting used to the silence is awful John, don't know if we ever will. Life has to go on but in a different way I guess. Big adjustments to be made but we can do it. Take care. Janet.
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Mo chat
27th Feb 2023 03:00:52 (Last activity: 28th Feb 2023 23:01:20)
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New here and just became a widower. I'm looking for friends to chat with because it's very lonesome here now.
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 27th Feb 2023 07:06:43
Hi Mo chat,

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Response from Freeno21 Original Poster made on 27th Feb 2023 09:34:26
some of us here in the same boat. Welcome and hope you enjoy the chats.
Response from Freeno21 Original Poster made on 28th Feb 2023 23:01:20
please feel free to join in Mo. We are a friendly lot.
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CaroB4
18th Feb 2023 13:30:37 (Last activity: 20th Feb 2023 20:33:00)
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Thanks for voting!
I lost my husband in June 2019 after two years of Chemo and stress - for Leukaemia. Only sign initially was a sort of bruising behind his knee - a thrombosis caused by the AML. Local GP gave him Antiseptic cream to rub on it (!) so I took him back to see a locum two days later - he gave him blood thinning injections and an appointment at hospital within two day - several hours but given diagnosis before I went home alone. He stayed in to start treatment...coped well with chemo...but it comes back...finally no more treatment offered and nothing we can do about it.

I heard of a Bereavement Strolling Group later on in the Autumn and joined that,,,and also as a Volunteer at the site afterwards. Helped me enormously and I recommend it! Take care of yourself.
Caro
Response from Freeno21 Original Poster made on 20th Feb 2023 20:33:00
Sorry to hear that Caro. Thanks for your recommendations. Guess it takes a while to get used to being alone.
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