MOVING HOME ALONE ......AND TO A NEW PART OF THE COUNTRY
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Have you any experience of moving somewhere new on your own? I would love some input into my plan for the future, if you would be so kind.
My circumstances are as follows:
I have found myself a bit isolated since I am widowed and no longer out at work. I seem to have only acquaintances rather than close friends nearby. I have joined clubs and keep busy with hobbies, but the few people I have met seem set in their existing groups of friends or are reluctant to do anything in the evening. I have retired before getting my state pension as I no longer feel well enough to work.
Lack of funds is stopping me doing more on my own.
So I have come up with a plan to sell my home and rent somewhere instead; this will give me some more disposable income, enabling me to do more and to travel to meet old friends and family. It would also take away some concerns re house maintenance.
Now for my curved ball…… It has been suggested to me that I move 100+ miles away to Warwickshire…… a beautiful area with plenty of new places for me to explore and good transport links for visiting friends and family. I have done some online investigating and it certainly has potential. Now I am wondering what pitfalls there might be that I have not thought of.
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I live in a small village and am experiencing the same thing as someone else said. You end up with a lot of acquaintances, but are lucky if you find a good friend. Being old and single, doesn't help. The locals are friendly enough, but their conversations tend to be around local gossip, and I don't know who, or what they are talking about. And most of the time you see them are when you bump into them at the shops and then it's ' G'day how are you ?, nice weather etc. And then you never see them until you bump into them, maybe weeks later.
Most of my adult life I've lived in isolated places in the outback of Oz. But quite often people don't realise that living in an isolated place is different from being isolated and alone. For instance in Antarctica I woke up and had 14 mates to have breakfast with, have a chat with, have a beer with, a laugh with etc. and was never lonely. I also used to have a wife and kids. The kids live interstate and, Oz being so large, that's hundreds of miles away. So don't get to see them very often. To the lady who was thinking of selling up and moving into a flat to free up some money. I'd be very careful. I've heard so many tales of woe over here from older people who did that. ( in fact I was thinking of it myself. ) If you rent somewhere there is always the chance that they will sell the house, decide to put one of their kids in and turf you out,put the rent up, not maintain the place etc.etc. This could happen when you are older and it's difficult to move furniture etc., or be able to afford to move it.
I own my own home and live on the edge of a Bay with a beautiful view. So I've decided I'll be here until they take me out in a pine box, or end up in the Nursing Home across the Bay. Just wish I could find someone interesting and intelligent to talk with in my twilight years. Never thought getting old would be so hard.
Anyway I've probably talked enough, and will hit this button that says 'add your post ' and see what happens. I'm a slow typist so if anyone reads this, read it slowly and it won't be blurred. Ha!
Cheers, Wellies.
Thank you for your reply.
It's not that I am a really slow typist. I have typed thousands of words as I write short stories as a hobby. I mainly write true stories of my experiences in life and try to put a bit of humour in them. I haven't tried to publish any. They are mainly to leave to my kids for when I snuff it. I don't seem to have got any faster on my typing though. My main problem is tippigrafical errers where I have to go back and fix them. I can't touch type and do things like like hitting the caps lock instead of shift, look up and find my sentence is all in capitals,or haven't hit the space bar etc. Maybe the old 40 is the new 73, or may have something to do with the fact that we are all upside down over here ha!
I have just had a writing disaster. I have been writing a book, and according to the computer I had written just over 50,000 words. I was reading over it when I noticed I had missed the word ' from' from a sentence and tried to correct it. I typed in fr, and when I hit the 'o', the whole lot disappeared and I was just left with fr. I hunted everywhere for it, but couldn't find it. I rang my internet server and a tech. took over the computer. He spent a couple of hours on it but with no success. The next day I rang again to see if a different tech. would maybe have the answer. She also spent a couple of hours on it, but with the same result. It had disappeared into cyberspace.
Every time I had written a paragraph I had hit save to prevent this happening. To add insult to injury I had lent my external hard drive to a friend so that he could download some movies from it on to his laptop. When I asked him for it back, he told me he had lent it to his son who lives in town ( 100kms from here ). So was unable to back it up on that. Sooooo frustrating !!!!! Don't know if I have the energy, or the inclination to start all over again.
You were asking about the the Antarctic. I spent 3 separate years on expeditions down there ( 1970, 1980 and 1998 ) I was involved in Meteorology. My last time was 16 months as our icebreaker had an engine room fire on it's way to pick us up. They leased two Norwegian icebreakers to try and get us out but neither could break through the ice. It looked like we were going to be there for another year We finally got rescued by a huge Russian ice breaker who managed to batter its way through the sea ice. During winter the sea ice goes out for hundreds of miles and no ship can get through it. I have written a few short stories on my experiences down there. If I knew how to do it I would send you one.
I am on Skype too and talk fairly regularly with my brother in Scotland. Most of my old friends either don't have Skype, are dead, or I have lost contact with due to them moving, or me moving around.
I remember a few years ago someone showed me how to try one of these chat things. I was
about halfway through writing out my profile and went to make a cup of tea, When I got back there was a box saying that it had timed out and everything had disappeared. So I never bothered about it again until I thought I'd try this site. Does the same thing happen on this site.?
Anyway better send this before it disappears.
Cheers, Wellies.
Thanks in advance!
One thing that supports my sanity about this and the whole adventure of much-later life is writing about it. Any (polite) comments welcome!
Tessa
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It sounds very intriguing. I hope you moved well to your new house and already met new people, who are ready to spend time with you too, and not only in their closed circles.
Personally, I do not like to move in new places. It is always stressful for me. For instance, I am planning to move again from LA to somewhere else. And I still do not know to where. I am planning to rent a small flat, maybe a studio with a kitchen, so it will be only I and nobody else.
I will edit my comment when my moving will be done too. Just if somebody will be interested :3
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Now, It is about 2 years that I'm happily residing in Fort Worth. I believe moving to a new place is not a bad idea if you feel uncomfortable living in your location.
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I am thinking of moving into a retirement village somewhere,, whe 're one can hopefully meet like-minded People. Would love to hear from.some one who has.made the move and is contended.
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I actually live near the sea now but want to have a bolt hole inland!
I shall go ahead and investigate the area I love, there are parks, specialist shops, buildings of historic interest etc., to explore. Always feel as if I have ‘gone home’ when I visit, getting excited already!
I hope I can get used to being more practical when I am staying there too, can hardly keep ringing up my husband for help with burst pipes etc can I? Haven’t lived by myself for so long, and son and daughter live miles away. Time to face up to a new way of life!
Don’t think my husband will even notice that I won’t be living in the family home all of the time, he just does his own thing!
I`m not single but live with my husband as friends really, after many years together. We do not want to separate, there are many advantages to staying married for us.
However I am very independent and like to do my own thing, I have inherited some money from relatives which is mine to spend. I like where we live but really want to have a place of my own too, at the other end of the county, about 25 miles away. I grew up there and absolutely love the area, visiting is not good enough!
My husband is set in his ways and won`t move there permanently but has no objection to me buying a little holiday home for myself. He has a hobby that takes him away quite a lot anyway.
Am I being selfish or weird? I do love the idea but get a niggling feeling that I will feel guilty because I shall not be doing the conventional thing.
Love reading about others who have moved away.
I am 66years old, and have arrived at a totally new lifestyle for 2020.
I have just retired.
I have just separated following my wifes announcement of an established alternative relationship.
I have put my house on the market, and after splitting the proceeds will have to move to new location to afford to buy again.
So, all to look forward to, new lifestyle, new friends and best experiences.
I hope this site will be helpful in moving forward.
Good luck with you new life - you sound very positive about it. The same thing happened to me 7 years ago - my partner announced that after 10 years together that we were incompatible; the week after I moved out there were photos all over Facebook of him on holiday with his new floozy!!! All very hurtful, but it certainly gave me the incentive to move on with my life . I'm fortunate in that I moved to a village about 3 miles away from where I used to live so I kept my old friends, made lots of new ones and now have a very busy lifestyle which keeps me out of mischief 🙂
I hope that all goes well with your house purchase and that you can start to enjoy your retirement doing things that you want to do.
Good luck with your move, retirement takes a bit of getting used to but you are going to be busy moving and hopefully creating a new life for yourself.
Have fun and lots of adventures.
Thanks for your comments.
I fully intend to go onwards and upwards on my journey through life!!
There is no stopping a man who has just found the excitement of supermarket shopping on a Friday morning!!!
I think what I'm trying to say, because it's what I feel, is are there really any pitfalls to relocating? If I add up what I have where I am, what's the real value? I love my home but I have to work full time to keep and maintain it, so I if I downsized I'd have more money and time. I'd also be able choose a nicer environment; more rural or even coastal. I'd love to hear from anyone who has done this. By the way - I am female - Henry was my old Labrador!
I was widowed at 46...sold my home and moved, alone, from Louisiana to California into a apartment when I retired! The "upkeep" on a home that was 30 years old, and quite large, was draining me in every since of the word....let alone the constant flooding, flood insurance, and hurricanes to deal with. With an apartment, they do everything for you....and that means everything! Even light bulbs!
I rented out my home, first, on VRBO , a one year commitment, and traveled off and on between rentals that I vetted and oversaw myself. That was very easy and exciting at first but I began to feel like I was living out of a suitcase....which, of course, I was! It did afford me to decide without a doubt to move to a resort town in Southern California after spending 2 full months here.
You can make a "move" as easy as pie and affordable if you do your due diligence BEFORE you sell your home! If there is anything I can help you with, just let me know!
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Don’t leave it until you are too old you will regret it that’s for sure . Write a list and put what’s good about where you are and what’s not so good and then compare with same list of Warwickshire .