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How do I start to move my Mum nearer to me?

Can anyone help or give me advise please on where do I start by looking into moving my Mum to my home town? She is in a different county to me so not sure if I can go through my local council or is it Social Services I really dont know? The bungalow she is living in is owned by my Brother - long story but for financial reasons my Dad (who passed away 8 years ago) agreed to let my brother buy it. She is a very independant 83 year old still "with it" and still drives, but after a recent fall I really would like her to live near me. She wants her independance still so not a nursing home a retirement complex with a warden but where she still has her own "front door" as she puts it. Can anybody help or give me any direction where I start please? Thank you Michelle


Created By on 18/09/2015

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Joanielee
10th Sep 2016 18:31:49
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Have you tried your local council offices, would your Mum be prepared to live in sheltered accomodation, where the seniors have their own front door, usually in a block of flats, sometimes a bungalow, where there is a warden with 24 hour alarm system/call button for emergencies, your local council can advise and they are everywhere, no doubt one close to where you live, there are 3 near me and loads around
Silversurfers Editor
18th Sep 2015 23:01:51 (Last activity: 2nd Jul 2016 20:23:02)
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Hello ShelleyBee .. what part of the country are you thinking your mum would like to move to? We work with two retirement living companies ... here are the links to their websites: wadswickgreen.co.uk & www.churchillretirement.co.uk 🙂
Response from ShelleyBee Original Poster made on 25th Sep 2015 20:37:07
Hi, she lives in Lancaster and I live in Macclesfield so I assume I will have to work with 2 different councils to sort everything out?

Michelle
Response from ShelleyBee Original Poster made on 2nd Jul 2016 20:23:02
Hi, I live in Macclesfield, Cheshire so would ideally need a place near to me! I have just completed the application form on the Cheshire Homechoice website which was suggested to me and hopefully they will help me find a suitable place for my Mum so fingers crossed!
Michelle
Andre
19th Sep 2015 14:15:33 (Last activity: 2nd Jul 2016 20:18:57)
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You need to contact the housing services where you live and put an application in for perhaps a sheltered housing place where she can interact with others and be private when she wishes. When you do apply state that your mums quality of life would be much improved if she were living closer to you where you could take care of her. A letter of support from her doctor along with your request would be a great help by giving her more points. If your mum has a social worker who would recommend her to your council then that would be great too. You state what her health problems are and you may be surprised at how helpful the council can be. That is what I would do Shelleybee. Best wishes and hope it all works out for you and your mum.
Andre.
Response from ShelleyBee Original Poster made on 25th Sep 2015 20:32:12
Hi Andre, thank you so much for your advice the process of even looking into moving my Mum is a minefield! Your poins about the Dr's letter is a very good idea which I am now looking into. I also need to discuss the dreaded money issue with my brother as he owns the house where she lives and pays all her utility bills, so a decision about selling the house or renting it is another wall to climb over!!
Once again thank you for your advice its a comfort to know that there are helpful people out there!
Michelle
Response from Andre made on 25th Sep 2015 21:52:58
Hi Michelle, I just wished I lived closer to help you solve these problems. We all need some help at one time or another in our lives. There are solutions to every problem but to find them you have to think calmly. A doctors letter of support and a social worker are the places to start. Discuss it with your brother and see how he can contribute in order to get a satisfactory result for all concerned. It will all come together eventually.
Take care of "you".
Andre
Response from ShelleyBee Original Poster made on 2nd Jul 2016 20:18:57
Hi Andre, I know it has been a while since our last little chat but just to update you I have eventually persuaded my Mum to move near me yipee!! So I have just completed the Cheshire Housing form (boy there were a lot of questions) and it will take up to 5 days for my application to be processed I just hope I completed it all correctly and they will offer me a decent place for her......so fingers crossed as this is all new to me!!
Michelle
celtwitch
19th Sep 2015 10:20:03 (Last activity: 25th Sep 2015 20:39:50)
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A company called 'Girlings' have retirement apartments all over the UK and Scotland, where people can live independently but with the back up of a scheme manager, if needed. The rents are quite reasonable and tenants get a lot of 'bang for their buck.
Check them out.
Response from ShelleyBee Original Poster made on 25th Sep 2015 20:39:50
Hi Celtwitch
Thank you for your advise on Girlings I have looked and they have lovely retirement apartments just what my Mum would like. I think renting is the way to do things but most of the places here (Macclesfield) are to buy. Will keep looking though.
Thank you again
Michelle

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